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[4nana]

{{hugs}} CAnn,

Isn't there a song about 'if it weren't for bad luck, I'd have no luck at all???'
So sorry to hear your black cloud continues... seems when it rains, it pours.

Dear, you have been stressed emotionally, mentally and physically to the max. I think sometimes we are dealt these stepping stones in life to help teach us strength, patience, faith, and simply to make us survivors.

Continue to do your best to give your loving DH the honor he so deserves at his memorial and block out all the little things, people and aggervations. May he rest in peace and you be granted hope for each new day.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Sandie

 

[minkydog]

Once the surgery was successful, she went home to take their dog out and they got sprayed by a skunk! Dad passed that night, mom was in the hospital and rehab for a month. We had to meet the funeral director the next morning with the smell of skunk coverup spray lingering in the air.

Pardon me for laughing, but taht is one of the funniest stories i have ever read.

When my stepdad died my mom's washer picked that afternoon to explode a hose, sending gallons of water under the wall into the storage room when he kept his Playboys! Miss July, ruined haha.

 

[Pooh93]

Bless your heart. I will be thinking of you and your family today.

 

[Serena]

Heavens C.Ann, it can't go anywhere but up for you.

 

[DWhittles]

C.Ann,
I've been lurking on all your threads because I know that words don't mean too much at this time.
I do however want to tell you that I think you are an amazing strong woman who has really kept it together through some EXTREMELY difficult battles.
I hope that it all ends for you soon and you can sit back and take a deep breath and allow yourself to grieve the way you deserve to.
Diana

 

[CamColt]

Hang in there. You will get through this. Im sure the memorial service will turn out to be just what it should...a wonderful tribute to you DH. We will all be thinking of you today.

 

[Mimi Q]

 

[bananiem]

All I can do is send another hug. I have no word that will make things better. Just keep coming back here to us.

 

[Freyja]

Just wanted to say once again that I´m thinking of you. I´m glad you stuck to your plans regarding the gathering afterwards. Make sure you have all you can "your way". There are so many factors that you can´t control anyway, so you better control those you can. You must be exhausted. Is there any way you can get away for a while when all of this is over? Maybe even with your DD? At least I hope you will take some time to care for yourself and nourish your soul. You deserve it.

 

[Pooh67_68]

 

[Chattyaholic]

Sorry you are having to go through all this.

That is why I do not want a funeral.

I helped my Mom pre-plan her and Dad's funerals just last week and knew that THAT wasn't what I wanted for mine!! Cremate me and have a short, private family service at the cemetary and be done with it!! No bickering, no hassles, no problems. Although my daughter doesn't agree with me and would probably do a full-blown funeral anyway. I feel a funeral, memorial service, whatever is for the FAMILY and NOT the deceased, so it should be as EASY as possible for the immediate family.

I know that if my Dad goes first Mom will want a regular funeral with all the visitation times, etc. Fine, I'll go along with that. But, if Mom goes first I cannot guarantee that she will have the funeral that SHE wants. My Dad is NOT in good health and I'm not sure a 3-day funeral is something he could endure so it will depend on HIM whether SHE has it or not.

 

[C.Ann]

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[wickey's friend]

Just wanted to add my support and prayers. Bless your heart, you are a remarkable woman to have all this happen to you and still be going on. You do what makes you happy in all of this -- everybody else can just get over it.

 

[nrsldy]

My thoughs and prayers are with you and your family!

 

[DoeWDW]

C. Ann, sorry I don't have any funny stories to help lift your spirits, but I'm sending prayers up and good peaceful thoughts your way. Just keep going, minute by minute. Soon you'll get some time to just rest and recuperate from all the stress.

 

[goofy4tink]

C.Ann, my funeral stories sure wouldn't cheer you up. They might make you know that you aren't alone in your 'experiences' tho. Nope, nothing brings out the 'less desirable' in family than a family members funeral. I just thank God that my mother and I had discussed funerals so often. And we had discussed her belongings and what she wanted for a service. And thank God that one of my brother's actually witnessed these discussions. He could actually say that Mom had talked to me about her wishes. Sure shut up my estranged brother. And I thank God we had such a wonderful funeral director. Yes, I, and my mother, had worked with him many times in our capacity as altar guild directresses at church, so we got wonderful service from him and his people. But, I have seen them in action with other families. Those families were treated with the dignity and courtesy they were entitled to. I'm so sorry you are not getting this service. A good funeral director is worth his weight in gold.

Hang in there girl. The tough 'family' part is almost over. Then you get to sit by yourself and do your own thing. Yes, it's hard to do. But, my god...you deserve to sit in a nice hot bath, with a big glass of wine. Stay strong. We'll be thinking about you this afternoon.

 

[m&m's mom]

I know laughter can so help - even when it seems inappropriate.
8 years ago my 1st DD was born 4 months premature at 1 pound in Dallas. My DM was in NM taking care of her very ill DF at the time. She came and stayed w/ me because her DF would want her to (he was kind of out of it). Well w/ in a 4 hour period my DM found out her DF died, my DD was going to have to have heart surgery (at way less than 2 pounds), and her beloved dog died.
I drove my DM to the airport to start planning my Grandfathers funeral and we just started laughing and laughing. We said "What else can happen?"
Fortunately that was it and DD is a perfect 8 YO now.
Keep strong. You are doing great!