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[minniepumpernickel]

Hang in there! Sometimes when things little really bad, good things happen and kind of come out of nowhere. So...I'm sure that things will look brighter around the next corner. You can talk to us about it!

 

[helenabear]

C.Ann, wish I had something good to say to you... I just hope things will feel better for y'all soon

 

[dumboiu]

I am so sorry, CAnn. Please try to take things one day......or one hour........or one minute at a time. While it won't change your situation, it may help you to get through each day.

Come here to vent, laugh, or just to get away. Also, as another poster suggested, just step outside from time to time to get some sun. Most importantly, be good to yourself. Don't beat yourself up so much. You are doing the absolute best that you can.

 

[C.Ann]

 

[christineann]

My aunt and cousin are taking care of my uncle 24/7, and I see the toll it has taken on them. I wish I had some advice for you, but all I can offer is a hug and wishes for inner strength for you.

 

[Otto's Doll]

Just wanted to offer you a hug...

 

[bsnyder]

A big ((((HUG)))) from me!

 

[goofygirl]

A link to a caregivers support board:


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhcaregivers

 

[C.Ann]

A link to a caregivers support board:


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhcaregivers

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Thank you so much! I'm going to check it right now..

 

[ckret01]

C.Ann I wish I lived close to you cuz I would come over there and help you out in a heart beat!!!!! Even if it was for a half an hour so that you can go to the store and just have some time for yourself.

 

[NHAnn]

C. Ann...just want to send a hug and say that I admire you on many levels!

 

[antkim]

I'm so sorry C.Ann....please know that we are all here for you.

Kim

 

[Serena]

C.Ann, you've dealt with this with honor and class for like you said 10 years. I say it's about time for a little temper tantrum. You have dealt with so much, I don't know how you do it. I just wish I could anything that could be half as helpful as you've done for me.
You are strong, you may not feel like it right now, but you are not super human, you are not a saint. You can only handle so much before it does start to affect you. You've done so well for so long, do not feel badly that you are feeling emotional right now.
I wish I could help. All I know is that you have done a wonderful job taking care of your husband, and having a bad time right now has no bearing on you.

I do hope you get some help, if anyone deserves it or needs it, you do. I just wish I could do more than give you the hug I want so badly to give you.

It'll be alright. You'll see.

 

[C.Ann]

C.Ann, you've dealt with this with honor and class for like you said 10 years. I say it's about time for a little temper tantrum. You have dealt with so much, I don't know how you do it. I just wish I could anything that could be half as helpful as you've done for me.
You are strong, you may not feel like it right now, but you are not super human, you are not a saint. You can only handle so much before it does start to affect you. You've done so well for so long, do not feel badly that you are feeling emotional right now.
I wish I could help. All I know is that you have done a wonderful job taking care of your husband, and having a bad time right now has no bearing on you.

I do hope you get some help, if anyone deserves it or needs it, you do. I just wish I could do more than give you the hug I want so badly to give you.

It'll be alright. You'll see.

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[Dan Murphy]

's C.Ann. Wish I could do more than that.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Hi C.Ann,

I'm glad you are feeling a little better. You are in a tough spot.

Have you looked into an online book club? That might be fun. And while a caregiver board would be nice to commiserate, it would be a good thing to "get away" mentally too.

A journal might be another place to express yourself (in addition to the DIS). Maybe there are some hopes and dreams you can revisit and rekindle. Maybe even plan for something in the future. There are even free journal websites, "blogs" that you can just go to town and let it go.

Play music! A little jazz always brightens my mood.
Burn scented candles if you can. I keep mine in the sink!
Someone said bubble baths. Good one!
Teach yourself how to crochet or knit. (You may already know how.) I *think* there are some websites that will walk you through it.

Now might be a good time to talk to your DH and record some of his thoughts and yours on your journey together over the years. Maybe even scrapbook it. I've seen scrapbooking materials at the Dollar store! He's probably feeling some guilt too (over putting you in this situation). It may be a good way to talk about your feelings and his about where you both are now.

I'm sorry for what you and your DH are going through. I know you will find a way to turn it around.

 

[Serena]

LOL, yeah Payback.

I would take the trip. You have to recharge yourself. I don't know how, but if you don't get a break now and then, well, it can't be good for you.


I know about the couples thing. Everywhere I go, especially right now, couples are everywhere. I just have to keep telling myself that I don't want it any other way right now. I chose this, I keep chosing this. I could do things differently, as could you. But neither one of us are like that. You could have left your husband a long time ago, I could go out to bars every night searching for company.
But it really sucks sometimes.

 

[DMickey28]

 

[C.Ann]

 

[Serena]

I think they are good plans. I think they are also needed plans.

As for crazy? No, but who cares, do it anyway.