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[minniecarousel]

Hi C.Ann - I just saw this thread (what was I looking at earlier?) I usually read your posts right away. I'm not much help anyway. You've gotten some good suggestions. I am so grateful that my Mom is fairly healthy and does a lot of things for herself. I get a little frustrated sometimes too.

I am so glad you let your daughter and SIL know what was bugging you. PLEASE plan that trip to your sister's. It will do you a world of good and it will be an eye-opener for your DD. (She sees whats going on, but she needs to be the one responsible to appreciate what you're going through!) I honestly think you have a great relationship with them & that they will continue to be supportive of you - let them take a turn, even if it's a quick weekend.

Finally, a {{{{{HUG}}}}} for you, my friend. Hang in there. I'm so glad you have the DIS - we're here for you C.Ann.

 

[C.Ann]

 

[Kitty 34]

Hang in there CAnn. The holidays can be a great time to be "down in the dumps". Hopefully as they come to an end your spirits will start rising. Many {{{hugs}}}.

 

[Serena]

I would make this first trip short, you may be worrying so much it may be hard to relax. That way, your family won't be overwhelmed, and you can see it will be alright. Then you can plan other trips at regular intervals, and be more comfortable.
A long weekend every now and then sounds like a good option to me.

 

[DMRick]

or..you can go on January 16th (7am flight), and visit Disney first for one overnight at an AP rate at POP..and then be dropped off at your sisters house the next day. Heck you don't even have to do the parks..lots of other stuff to do : )
Let me know.

 

[browneyes]

, C.Ann. You're experiencing what anyone in your shoes would be experiencing. I remember when my best friend's mom was dying last year, and she was her mom's primary caregiver, she vented with me the same way you vented here. She felt awful afterwards, but it wasn't that she was mad at her mom, she was just mad at the situation. She was upset because she didn't know how long she'd have to worry about her mom being in pain, worrying that she was doing everything she could, worrying because it was all on her shoulders. It's a big responsibility. But as I told her, and I will tell you, don't feel guilty for trying to find time for you.

 

[Kallison]

If I could come sit with your DH for a few hours and give you a break I would. Prayers to you C.Ann, I hope you have the strength to do what needs to get done.

 

[Planogirl]

C.Ann, I think that you need to make breaks a regular part of your life right now. You can only do so much and you won't be any help if you fall apart. Good luck with taking that weekend and once you're back, you should start planning your next long weekend.

 

[C.Ann]

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[Mimi Q]

 

[yourtravelpro]

Just wanted to send you a big hug!

 

[DMRick]

Looks like the only flight available on SW on the 16th now is out of Albany at 3:10 pm.. When are you coming back?
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Jan 22, on the 6:50 pm, so maybe you can come to Disney on the 21st and stay until the next day, and we'll get you to the airport with us (I didn't look to see if that was open). The early flight had an opening when I looked. I wonder if it was the last seat, and because I looked, it was frozen for awhile?

 

[auntpolly]

And last but not least, would it be silly to do as auntpolly suggested and go ahead and plan a "TBA" (to be announced) trip to Disney World?? Immerse myself in every little detail??

Of course it's not silly! I never make silly suggestions!

Think of how much fun it is to plan a bunch of PSs, and then change your mind a hundred times - make an itinerary, with all your favorite stuff. Make a notebook with clippings of new things you want to do. Study the thread from the theme parks board about the little things not to miss. Tuck away Disney Dollars. LOL - you could be dreaming about this for years and it would still be fun!! God bless you!

 

[C.Ann]

of course it's not silly! I never make silly suggestions! :d

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[auntpolly]

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Oops! I didn't mean your idea was silly..

Oh, I knew that! Just talking about this with you makes me want to start planning a TBA trip myself! Really, as you've pointed out, having something to look forward to can make all the difference in the world!

 

[Mom2Ashli]

C.Ann - I am so glad that you are going to be able to get away for even just a little bit. Sit back relax and recharge. I agree with Aunt Polly. Plan that perfect trip to Disney, who care when it happens. Get a notebook and start planning. It will take your mind off of other things.

It is nice to see the little smiles in your posts now.

The DIS is an amazing place full of wonderful people. And I am so glad to have found it.

 

[CRB#33]

Even if we are perfect (which we are not), anyone in your situation would need a few days off now and then to "recharge."

I'm glad you may be able to get that.

Please take care.

 

[Denine]

 

[AuroraluvsPhillip]

C.Ann,
You have certainly been through some changes this past year, next year HAS to be better! When it's one thing after another, you tend to lose any sense of control over events, and just end up reacting to them. That's probably why things will overwhelm us, eventually. You're feelings are totally normal and while acknowledging your feelings of anger, guilt and entrapment, they don't need to control you!

You are doing the right things in seeking support, both from your family and from the outside. That way, you are not dealing with this alone. Sometimes we're embarrassed to admit that we need help, but it's amazing how good people are out there and willing to help if we do ask. You should definitely plan frequent brief getaways as well for your own mental health. In that way, you can get a fresh outlook on life! Your trip to your sister's is a wonderful idea...don't sweat the details or worry about it too much; just GO and have a great time!

Hugs to you as well from another friend in cyberspace!

 

[wilderness01]