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[Wishing on a star]

A middle name that is a very common name, and I suspect may also be a family name....
'stealing'.
No.....

Thinking one has dibs or ownership over something like this...

 

[Turn the Page]

My daughter has a very uncommon but not unheard-of name. I was out once and heard a woman call her daughter by that name. i said, "Oh, her name is _____?" The woman proudly responded "We like unusual names in our family. I know she'll never meet another ________."

I decided not to tell her that that was my daughter's name as well.

I named DD12 a lovely but almost unheard of name as well. We were at Epcot a few years ago and DD had gone to the bathroom. A few minutes later I heard a woman calling DD's name and I couldn't figure out why a stranger was calling my DD. Turned out her DD had the same name, she was pretty close to the same age too. The woman and I had a good chuckle about it. Neither of us had found another person with our DD's names before.

 

[SirDuff]

I had to reread it several times too, I thought “Girl” was a really unusual for a first name and was very surprised that the SIL also chose to name her daughter “Girl” lol

Glad I'm not the only one

My cousin, niece, and I all have the same middle name. As did my mother. And more extended family. And it happens to be Maria/Marie - tradition is that first-born daughter gets it as a middle name to honour my great-grandmother.

I'm in the - "No, it is not stealing" camp.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

eh, what? Should I not name my son "Robert" if my wife's brother's wife decided to name their child "Robert"?

 

[FlightlessDuck]

LOL I have a cold/flu and my brain isn't working right. I was like, wait a minute, did they both name their kids "Girl Marie" lol

Now, two kids named Girl Marie, that would be something lol Two middle names with cousins, I don't see a big deal.

I just assumed OP just didn't type her question correctly. It never occurred to me "Marie" was the middle name.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

Maybe her mom was also named Marie?

 

[SirDuff]

I just assumed OP just didn't type her question correctly. It never occurred to me "Marie" was the middle name.

At first I was wondering if there was some male version of Marie that I didn't know about, so the OP was pointing out that both Marie's were girls (i.e. I could with a name like Bailey where I know both boys and girls with the name).

 

[Kae]

on my mom's side, most of us have the middle name Marie, Lynn, Elaine or Jean. 1st cousins, 2nd 3rd & everybody. In high school we had 24 girls on drill team 19 of us had the middle name Marie and the Coach. Marie is a great Middle Name it goes with every name it just flows.

 

[aripantaloon]

I don’t think it’s stealing. It’s just a middle name and it’s a fairly common one at that.

I have 3 girls and each of their middle names are after their grandmothers’ first names and my grandmother’s first name. My DH has 3 sisters, 2 of whom have a girl. Each of them used their mother’s name as a middle name. That means that 3 cousins share a middle name. No big deal. My dd is the oldest with that name. No one stole it.

You never know. Marie could be her mother’s middle name or a grandmother’s name.

 

[Skellingtonj]

I just assumed OP just didn't type her question correctly. It never occurred to me "Marie" was the middle name.

No. I tried to clear this up. There middle names are the same. NOt their first names.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

No. I tried to clear this up. There middle names are the same. NOt their first names.

Honestly, I didn't read all 6 pages.

 

[Feralpeg]

In my family, the same couple of names are used over and over. Half the men on my dad's side of the family have the middle name Kay. On my mom's side, the names Louise and Adella are very common. My middle name is Louise. I have a first cousin who has the same first name as me. Names don't belong to anyone. If someone likes a name and wants to name their kid that, it shouldn't matter to anyone else.

Oddly, I do a lot of ancestry research. In the old days, if a child happened to pass away, they often reused the name for a new child. Bizarre? Now days, yes. Not so much then.

 

[1Mouse2RulethemAll]

Asking here because I’ll get the most honest answers. My brother In law’s wife gave birth to a girl. Her name is girl marie. Now my daughter is also girl marie. My kid is named for my mom. I have no idea who her kid is named for.
Is she in the wrong? I know it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme but it’s not something i would have done.

DH's grandmother was named Marie, my middle name is Marie and my second DD also has the middle name Marie. Depending on religious/ traditional factors, it is a pretty common name.

 

[skyblue17]

Aren't there a handful of names that are SUPER common for middle names? Ann, Marie, Rose, Lynn, Elizabeth, etc. Most people aren't super creative about middle names because most of us go through life not even knowing what someone's middle name is!

Either way, I can't imagine thinking that someone shouldn't go with their first choice in name for a child simply because someone else has that name. You only get so many chances to name a kid!

 

[starry_solo]

To answer your question, no.

 

[Skellingtonj]

Honestly, I didn't read all 6 pages.

I don’t blame you.

 

[Skellingtonj]

To answer your question, no.

Thank you.

 

[Skellingtonj]

In my family, the same couple of names are used over and over. Half the men on my dad's side of the family have the middle name Kay. On my mom's side, the names Louise and Adella are very common. My middle name is Louise. I have a first cousin who has the same first name as me. Names don't belong to anyone. If someone likes a name and wants to name their kid that, it shouldn't matter to anyone else.

Oddly, I do a lot of ancestry research. In the old days, if a child happened to pass away, they often reused the name for a new child. Bizarre? Now days, yes. Not so much then.

That’s interesting. I don’t think i could re use a name if I, heaven forbid, lost a child

 

[design_mom]

When I was in school, I think at least 75% of the girls in my class had one of two middle names: Ann/Anne, Marie. Even though you chose your daughter's name for your mom, I think it's *very* likely that your BIL and his wife know a Marie, too. Heck, they might have even chosen it to honor their beloved niece!

I agree that it would be awkward if two first cousins had the same FIRST name (although there's not much you can do about it). But, like others, I think if it's a middle name, it's a non-issue.

For what it's worth, my husband's cousin adopted a baby just a few weeks before we got married. They gave her my first name... so now she and I have the same name first *and* last. They knew my name -- I'd been "around" for 4 years, we'd been engaged for a year and a half, and they introduced everyone to their new baby at our wedding. But...honestly, it's fine... and middle names would be a total non-issue!

 

[china mom]

I think that every female family members on my husband's side carries the middle name Marie. I have no idea if it is intentional or just that Marie goes with almost every first name like peas and carrots.

On the other hand, following the Greek tradition. I am Maria and I have a cousin Maria, not to be confused with my other cousin Maria or my cousin Mario -all first cousins, all named after my Yia Yia Maria.