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[cabanafrau]

Wow. Calm down. You are the one out of line. It’s not that serious I don’t know why you feel the need to be so rude.

If it's not so serious why would you get wound up about enough to bring it here and refer to it as stealing?

No big deal IMO. Especially with it being middle names but even if it was first names it would have bothered me.

On a side note...all I can think of is the scene in My Big Fat Greek Wedding where he is getting introduced to all her family (paraphrased) “My brother and his kids Anita, Diane and Nick, my other brother and his kids Anita, Diane and Nick. Nick, Nick, Nick, Nicki and Nick.”

Greek Wedding was what came to my mind as well. Love that movie!

 

[Hikergirl]

I would like to know yes. If i never ever know, that’s fine too. I don’t think that’s out of the ordinary.

Wanting to know is different than thinking you are owed an explanation.
I understand being curious, however I don't get being upset that she used the name. Your dd is 9, she has one of, if not the most popular middle names for girls. I think it is strange to expect someone, even someone in your own family to never use it just because you did. It is a middle name, it isn't even uncommon for family members to have the same one.
I forget how this woman is related to you- your BIL's wife? So no blood relation to you? It isn't really your business why she chose it so if you think you are owed a reason why I would disagree. Like I said though, I get being curious why and just asking out of curiosity.

 

[wvjules]

My sister just had a baby. Her middle name is the same as my DD's. The horror!

I have 2 cousins that had daughters 2 days apart. They both have the same middle name.

I come from a family of heathens apparently.

ETA: It is none of your business why your SIL gave her DD the middle name Marie. If she said because she liked your daughter's name and that's how she came up with it, or if it is her favorite great aunt's name, what difference does it make?

 

[DisneyHardin]

I know a Carol Cook (married now, so last name is different.) Some friends of their family, also last name Cook, wanted to name their DD Carol, figuring that they lived in different states, so the chances of the two Carols crossing paths would be very rare. The first Cook family was fine with it. Fast forward a few years -- both girls ended up in the same classroom in elementary school. oops.

I’m a teacher and we’ve had a couple unrelated kids with the same first and last names. Right now we have a class with two Alyssa Millers in it. One year we had two Jayden Embrys.

 

[fortwildernessishome]

We named my oldest James, 25 years ago after his Dad and Grandfather. In the years following, six nephews were born on my husbands side and three of them have James as a middle name, all after their Grandfather. I never thought anything about it. I couldn't even tell you what the middle names are of the other three!

Growing up the two brothers next door had the same middle name of Alan, after their Dad.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

Marie has to be the most common, basic girls middle name ever. Growing up I swear every girl had the middle name Marie. Now it seems it's Grace. Add in Ann, Nicole, Lynn.

In my family Luis is very common for the boys since it's my grandfather's name. My brother has Luis as his middle name and about a year later my aunt gave her son the first name Luis. No one ever cared. Years later another aunt gave her son the middle name Luis after my grandfather. Now my nephew's middle name is Luis.

 

[bethbuchall]

I have two first cousins who had the same first, middle, and last names growing up. They are both now married, so their last names differ. The dads were brothers. The mother who had the second one had her heart set on the first name. I think they double-checked that it wouldn't cause hard feelings, but I'm not positive. The middle name was an accident. They didn't realize that they were using the same middle name. It's one of the common ones like Marie. Everyone just laughed about it. One was called by a nickname, and they didn't grow up in the same area of the country.

I honestly don't think it would bother me at all, but we're all done having children, so I guess I'll never know.

 

[Wendy31]

I would like to know yes. If i never ever know, that’s fine too. I don’t think that’s out of the ordinary.

In all seriousness & not to be offensive at all, why does it matter?

And why would you think your husband's brother's wife was stealing your child's middle name 9 years later?

 

[design_mom]

I would like to know yes. If i never ever know, that’s fine too. I don’t think that’s out of the ordinary.

I'd be curious, too...mainly just because I like to hear the thoughts behind baby names. If you could broach it in a purely curious way, I think it'd be OK to ask. "Little Emily is so adorable. I heard that her middle name is Marie. Sarah's middle name is also Marie because that's my mother's name. Is Marie significant to you, too, or did you just like it?"

But if you think you'd come across judgemental in any way -- or you think you'll be upset if she doesn't have a "good enough" answer -- then it would probably be better just to leave it alone.

 

[Pooh2]

My brother gave his little boy the same name as my son (his son was born 10 years later).
My son was honored that his little cousin had the same name.
My brother's little boy died when he was 9 years old.

Life's too short to make a fuss over silly things.
Hope OP enjoys her new little niece.

 

[Magical2017]

I'm not sure if you mean this the way it sounds but do you think the mom owes OP some sort of response or explanation of why she chose to give her child the middle name she did?

Nope, I don't think anything is owed to OP and would personally let It go. However, It is clearly a sore subject for OP.

 

[Kitty 34]

I would like to know yes. If i never ever know, that’s fine too. I don’t think that’s out of the ordinary.

Then go to the source. Case closed and hopefully not this thread.

 

[jrmasm]

You can’t steal a name.

 

[CarolAnn856]

So many questions running through my mind right now. Like, why is the OP just blaming the wife, and not the father, too? Who thinks Marie is a unique enough middle name for it not to be used by many people (I can name three in my family...sister, aunt, and grandmother)? Oh, and how controlling does one have to be to get upset over an issue so small you need a microscope to see it?

 

[MillauFr]

You don’t have anything to add just keep scrolling. I’ve seen worse on here

I think it is a perfectly acceptable comment.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

I could KIND OF see the argument if it was a super unique or uncommon name. However, you could throw a rock and hit 17 people with middle name Marie.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

My daughter and her first cousin have the same middle name. My daughter was born first. They’re both named after the same two people. No discussion was had and no offense was taken.

 

[georgina]

Gee, 2 of my sisters have the middle name Marie!

My mom Mary Ellen has 3 first cousins, all named Mary Ellen after their grandmother. (All the first born daughters were named that, different families!)

 

[Allison]

I know you’re being funny but those are all his children. You see the difference? I don’t have 5 kids named Jane and then my sister names her kid Jane.

You obviously still see this as an issue. It's not.

 

[sam_gordon]

OP, some tips...

#1... changing a thread title to '.' makes everyone WANT to look at it.
#2... deleting the OP doesn't help when someone (in this case, multiple someones) has quoted you.

ETA: should that be 'has' or 'have'? I think 'has' because singular someone but grammar is not my strong suit.