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[C.Ann]

 

[PamOKW]

If you invited them and they have already accepted, I think you are asking for trouble to "uninvite" them now. Trouble that could linger for many Christmases to come.You'll have to weigh how much this will effect the future versus putting up with them for this year.

The job might be a way out. Although they might wonder how come you are too busy for them but not their son and his family. I'd ask your daughter how much the in-laws are counting on coming. Maybe you'll get lucky and find out they don't really want to come to your house either.

 

[Serena]

C. Ann, I can't think of a way that wouldn't cause more bad feelings between you all.

Good luck, I hope you do find a way.

 

[DisMNagain]

I plead to having done this once or twice...after having opened my own big mouth!

With a very heavy *sigh* say to your relatives "*sigh* I'm just soooooooo tuckered out, that I'm just not UP to having company, even though it IS the holiday!"

Be honest, and forthright...you don't HAVE to have company if you don't want to, even if you already DID invite them.

If you give them enough time, they should be able to make other plans/arrangements for Christmas eve...so the longer you wait, the harder it will be for ya to give your excuse! LOL

GOOD LUCK!

 

[Kermit]

If it were me, and I had made it clear that it was a tentative invitation to begin with, I'd see if there was a way I could make plans that would keep me away from home that day. But that would be hard with your DH.

I guess I'd probably let the invitation still stand, but is there any way you can attach a small time period to it? That way they'd come over but not for any longer than necessary.

 

[jldriscoll]

Originally posted by DisMNagain
I plead to having done this once or twice...after having opened my own big mouth!

With a very heavy *sigh* say to your relatives "*sigh* I'm just soooooooo tuckered out, that I'm just not UP to having company, even though it IS the holiday!"

Be honest, and forthright...you don't HAVE to have company if you don't want to, even if you already DID invite them.

If you give them enough time, they should be able to make other plans/arrangements for Christmas eve...so the longer you wait, the harder it will be for ya to give your excuse! LOL

GOOD LUCK!

DITTO!!!

 

[Boo'sMom]

just tell them they annoy the daylights out of you....oh no...you didn't ask what I'd want to say....


honestly....just let them know now that since you go the new job, you just can't follow through with such an invitation.
If they don't understand.....where is that rasberry icon when you need it?????

Hope it all works out...and congratulations on the new job.

 

[snoopy]

Gotta agree with DisMNagain. I probably wouldn't do what she said, I would probably have them over and regret every minute of it, but I would WISH I did what she said to do.

If you have the nerve, and you really don't want them over, follow her advice. You really SHOULD spend the holidays the way you want to and not let your guilt override what you really want to do.

 

[robinb]

Originally posted by DisMNagain
With a very heavy *sigh* say to your relatives "*sigh* I'm just soooooooo tuckered out, that I'm just not UP to having company, even though it IS the holiday!"

This is not going to work ... because it's not true! C. Ann still wants to have her DD, SIL and DGC over for Christmas Eve. Personanally, I think she's stuck with unwanted guests. Maybe she can ply the FIL with Christmas Cheer ... I mean egg nog with pleny of rum .

 

[piratesmate]

I think I'd call them & explain the situation. i.e. You're thrilled you got the job, but you're kind of stressed out about starting someplace new. You'll be working until 6 & won't be home until 7. (No one wants to come home from work to company IN the house & starting at 8 is really too late for the little one.) DH isn't feeling up to the extra commotion . . . and any other tidbit that "sounds good."

I'd also either ask your daughter to bring part of the meal, if possible . . . . or order out for Chinese! (Always my 1st choice when asked! )

Deb

 

[Kallison]

Whatever you do, don't put your DD in the middle. I think there is no way out of having them over without causing hard feelings. My Mom does this a lot, she puts me in the middle and I'm 41 and it still annoys the heck out of me.

 

[C.Ann]

Thanks for all the suggestions..

 

[eeyore0062]

Call and tell them that the plans have changed and you will have to cancel the Christmas Eve get together with them, because your job doesn't allow you enough time to prepare. Apologize profusely, and vaguely say that perhaps you can get together another time, when things aren't so hectic. Since you left things tentative in the first place, it shouldn't be that big of a deal to get out of it! Be sure to slip in the "with them" though... so you aren't lying!


You have every right to want to see your granddaughter, by herself at Christmas, and since they will see her on Christmas Day, it is only fair!

By the way, who wants a Scrooge like the paternal Inlaw around to ruin everyone's good time, anyway?

....and.... if your DH doesn't want them there, it is best to cancel... since NO ONE will be happy otherwise.

Don't give into it... you deserve to have the kind of Christmas Eve that you want... so take a deep breath and pick up the phone and get it overwith... you will feel much better once you do!

Hope everything works out for you, and you have a wonderful Christmas Eve with your Granddaughter!

 

[ToyStory Fan]

Someone could all of a sudden be "sick" and you don't want to spread the "germs". Maybe we can do it another time. ....and no I've NEVER used that one before (wink wink).