3 weeks and I still find it terribly sad

[SpecialK]

Me too. It's sad that people react that way.

It's not sad that people react this way, it's realistic. You want to know what's worthy of sadness three weeks later? Try burying a parent or two. Try having a bunch of miscarriages. There are real people delaing with REAL suffering all over this board. You weren't a blip on MJ's radar screen and yet you waste this much of your life on prurient interest in his death? Get real.

 

[WDWBarb]

It's not sad that people react this way, it's realistic. You want to know what's worthy of sadness three weeks later? Try burying a parent or two. Try having a bunch of miscarriages. There are real people delaing with REAL suffering all over this board. You weren't a blip on MJ's radar screen and yet you waste this much of your life on prurient interest in his death? Get real.

Been there, done that, still sad about all of it to this day. Always will be.

Why bother telling people what they should and should not care about? I just don't understand how it should matter to anyone what anyone else feels.

How does it hurt you?

 

[SpecialK]

Been there, done that, still sad about all of it to this day. Always will be.

Why bother telling people what they should and should not care about? I just don't understand how it should matter to anyone what anyone else feels.

How does it hurt you?

Doesn't hurt me - it hurts you.

 

[goin2disneyagain]

It's not sad that people react this way, it's realistic. You want to know what's worthy of sadness three weeks later? Try burying a parent or two. Try having a bunch of miscarriages. There are real people delaing with REAL suffering all over this board. You weren't a blip on MJ's radar screen and yet you waste this much of your life on prurient interest in his death? Get real.

I have buried both of my parents and I am not that old so don't tell me I don't know what is real and what isn't. Wow, you are even more cold than I thought since you just put your foot in your mouth by making judgements on me without knowing anything about me. If you don't like how we feel on this thread then go elsewhere to a thread where people talk about what you want to talk about. I don't participate in threads that I have no interest in. That was extremely rude.

 

[WDWBarb]

Doesn't hurt me - it hurts you.

I'm not sure if, when judging someone, it's the judge or the one being judged that gets hurt.

Either way, I'm not hurting.

 

[JessicaR]

Doesn't hurt me - it hurts you.

Why do you care? Did it bother you so much that you felt it your job to crap on their thread? Live and let live.

 

[SpecialK]

Why do you care? Did it bother you so much that you felt it your job to crap on their thread? Live and let live.

You're right. Continue with your drama. For the record, I was hoping someone would see that it's ridiculous to be so invested in a celebrity. Wallow on.

 

[ginna74]

wow.........

starting trouble in another MK mourning thread...maybe instead of arguing we should just report so topic doesn't get closed for going off topic

 

[teacups]

I dont know the children in Africa, Iraq and Katrina but I care.
I dont know the homeless people staying at the shelter, but I volunteered.
I dont know the women and the shelter with thier children, but I donate.
I dont know the people who pick up food at the food bank, but I give cans.

How cold is it to only care about things one can touch?

I hope I never get like that.

Karma.

 

[goin2disneyagain]

wow.........

starting trouble in another MK mourning thread...maybe instead of arguing we should just report so topic doesn't get closed for going off topic

It was reported.

 

[chell]

Someone earlier in this thread said they didn't know why his death hit them so hard. I wonder if they are around my age. I think the reason it has hit so many people hard is because he really is the first icon from our childhood/teen years to pass away shockingly. He is our James Dean or Elvis to our generation. Just my theory.

 

[goin2disneyagain]

Someone earlier in this thread said they didn't know why his death hit them so hard. I wonder if they are around my age. I think the reason it has hit so many people hard is because he really is the first icon from our childhood/teen years to pass away shockingly. He is our James Dean or Elvis to our generation. Just my theory.

I don't know your age but I think that description does fit it for me. So many of my friends and co-workers are around my age or slightly older and we all feel this way so that probably has a lot to do with it.

 

[chell]

I don't know your age but I think that description does fit it for me. So many of my friends and co-workers are around my age or slightly older and we all feel this way so that probably has a lot to do with it.

I'm in my mid 30's. Guess I should have put that in there. I really do think that is what it is.

Look at all the people that still visit Graceland every year. MJ is going to be the same for our generation.

 

[goin2disneyagain]

I'm in my mid 30's. Guess I should have put that in there. I really do think that is what it is.

Look at all the people that still visit Graceland every year. MJ is going to be the same for our generation.

I guessed that was probably your age by the description and that is my age as well. MJ will be that for our generation. Sadly, for the generation after us I don't see anyone else like an Elvis or an MJ out there. I think it will be a while before there is someone else like them.

 

[froggygrrrl]

I dont know the children in Africa, Iraq and Katrina but I care.
I dont know the homeless people staying at the shelter, but I volunteered.
I dont know the women and the shelter with thier children, but I donate.
I dont know the people who pick up food at the food bank, but I give cans.

How cold is it to only care about things one can touch?

I hope I never get like that.

Karma.

I think you've summed this up beautifully. I totally agree.

As for MJ, I will admit that I have not thought about it much outside of what I have read on the internet for the last few days, but I was broken up during the first several days and pretty much all the way through his memorial service.

To me, MJ's death symbolized the loss of my first crush. I was 5 years old when Thriller became a MAJOR phenomenon, and I was totally enamored with him! Thriller was the first album I ever had (in fact, it had been at my mom's house until his death, when she looked for it and gave it back to me). I had posters of MJ on my wall and even had the doll, complete with one glove. What is funny about all of that is that I have never been a girl to have celebrity crushes/paraphernalia strewn about my teenage bedroom (or school notebooks or whatnot).

When I first heard of MJ's death, I was slightly embarrassed by my reaction, which was total shock and disbelief and grief. I visited my mother the next day and was afraid that she would laugh at me for mourning a public figure that I had never met. But she didn't. In fact, she said that she was sad, too, and that she remembered when the Jackson 5 first became popular and she was a fan. We spent the remainder of the day listening to his music tribut e on the radio and then watching his video tribute on tv. We both agreed that we had always reserved a soft spot in our hearts for MJ and his tortured soul.

I think that, in the end, we cannot control what kind of raw emotional reactions we have to the topics that hit us the hardest. So, to all of you that have been affected by MJ's death, I feel your pain.

And to all of those that don't care, well that's fine, too. But please do not diminsh the beliefs of those who feel differently than you do.

 

[ginna74]

Someone earlier in this thread said they didn't know why his death hit them so hard. I wonder if they are around my age. I think the reason it has hit so many people hard is because he really is the first icon from our childhood/teen years to pass away shockingly. He is our James Dean or Elvis to our generation. Just my theory.[/QUOTE

yes he was at the top when I was starting to listen to music in the fifth grade. I remember him... and I remember him threw-out my whole life....the good the bad and the ugly(people taking advantage). Never will I forget this Iconic figure that was given to us with trials and tribulations of course. And he himself went through hell his whole life just to make us happy....

 

[Stitchfans]

I don't understand why people post in a thread they have no interest in.

the only thing I can think of

 

[mfd25wife]

I've not posted on this thread, but I was lurking. I am sorry anyone was being ugly. I am always amazed when anyone is criticized for how they feel. Everyone has a right to their own feelings regardless of whether someone else understands those feelings.

I cannot imagine the pain that accident caused to MJ. I don't think anyone knew how bad it truly was. I also recently heard that he wore the glove to cover the signs of Lupus. He seemed to go through so much in his short 50 years. I don't think he always made the best decisions. I don't mean that as being mean. I think he was too trusting and naive. Because of that, I think he opened himself up to people taking advantage and giving some too much control of his life. I'm not saying he's perfect, but I am sad that it took his death for his good qualities to be shown to the world instead of just his problems and eccentric behavior.

 

[WDWBarb]

Someone earlier in this thread said they didn't know why his death hit them so hard. I wonder if they are around my age. I think the reason it has hit so many people hard is because he really is the first icon from our childhood/teen years to pass away shockingly. He is our James Dean or Elvis to our generation. Just my theory.

I think this has a lot to do with it.

When I first heard, I will admit to not really feeling much of anything. I was speaking to my boss on the phone on the way home from work and I told her about it and I had about zero emotion. It was just a statement of fact.

But as the evening wore on and the news coverage was playing, they were showing clips of songs and videos. DH heard "Smooth Criminal" playing it the background of some newscast and he decided that he wanted to see the entire video so he grabbed "History" on DVD. I remarked when he grabbed it that it was one of the oldest DVD's in his collection and then we realized that it was the FIRST DVD in his collection. Ok, so I get a little teary.

We watch some videos and then I say that I wish we could see MJ's Motown performance - you know, where the whole world stood in disbelief at the young man on stage who just seemed to be "floating." So, he put that DVD in.

That's where it hit me like a ton of bricks. I think watching that finally brought up that teenage girl inside me and suddenly it wasn't just this guy in the media that everyone called "Wacko Jacko." It was now this young man, the one who I ADORED, the one who brought so much faith and hope into my young life. And not only was he talented, he was such a GOOD person. He gave to others and was always kind.

He was always there - One of my first memories is watching him on TV doing "Dancing Machine". I drove my mom crazy asking her to buy me that record (and we also had to buy a record player!). When I was 14 and the "Thriller" album was hot and my friends and I watched that video over and over and OVER again. He was there when I was 18 and in the College Program and my roommate and I would go to Epcot and watch Captain EO as many times as we could in a day (and the pre-show, Makin' Memories, was just so appropriate!). She and I were so different in so many ways but our common bond from the first day was my MJ.

A few years later, I meet a guy who seems very sweet and we liked each other. One of the first things we talk about is our tastes in music (because he worked in the music industry). We both admit our love of Michael and share some memories of him and listen to his music together. We stay up late into the evening listening to MJ remixes. He became my DH not long after.

A few more years pass and now we have a beautiful daughter. She fell in love with MJ when she was in 2nd grade and listened to him all of the time. Her first iPod had nothing but MJ music on it and here she was, my daughter, learning the Thriller dance just like her mom did so many years ago. It was just.... cool

Then, on the night he died, he brought my family back together to watch his videos and talk about memories of him. We spent a rare evening together. DD is now 15, but she never stopped loving MJ.

So, it may sound cliche, but Michael has just been a part of my life for more than two decades. He has helped me get to know people and been a huge part of the soundtrack of my life. I danced to his music at my proms and I danced in the street with thousands of people in celebration of his life just a few weeks ago. It's more than a loss of a celebrity to us.. it's a loss of a commonality and something that brought so much joy.

And for some reason it makes me feel so... old.

But, for those who wonder how you can mourn the loss of someone you never knew... this is my response. I'm just glad he left a legacy of music and videos that I can enjoy with my grandchildren. Heck, maybe even my great-grandchildren.

 

[kirbsam]

I dont know the children in Africa, Iraq and Katrina but I care.
I dont know the homeless people staying at the shelter, but I volunteered.
I dont know the women and the shelter with thier children, but I donate.
I dont know the people who pick up food at the food bank, but I give cans.

How cold is it to only care about things one can touch?

I hope I never get like that.

Karma.

i think everybody cares about all this stuff. the point of the opposition posts were that you arent losing sleep over these much worse things that are happening now. this forum is about expressing opinions. if someone thinks it is silly to still be broken up 3 weeks after a celebrity dies, who cares if they state it. doesnt mean they dont care about these other things. i am sad that michael jackson died. but the things above bother me far worse, and have a much greater impact on me right now than michael jackson.