2nd Grade Son

[Steamboat Marti]

My second grade son (age 8) is now downstairs talking to a girl. It seems like once a day he gets a phone call, each time from a different little girl in his class. It's all innocent (I hope!) but I was wondering: has this been happening to others? Is this the age when it starts? I swear I thought I had a little more time!

 

[flipturngirl]

Um... That seems a little strange lol. That an 8 yo is able to make a phone call to a boy class mate. hmns I might be checking into this. Like asking your DS questions like "Who was on the phone" "What did she want"... things like that and if it is typical answers then I would cotact the teacher. I do not remember being allowed to give my number out to someone other then a girl when I was in elementry school lol I would just check into it. Have fun!

 

[ryka]

I always had friends that were boys and girls. They use to call me on the phone. They were just friends. My daughter is 5 and she has given our number to a couple of friends ( boys and girls) I don't have a problem with it. She gets all excited when somebody actually calls.

 

[daisyduck123]

I don't see any problems.

My DS8 is also in the 2nd grade...he's a student at the school where I teach.
He actually has a "crush" on a little girl in his class & this week even wrote a little song for or about her (I'm not sure which). One day after school this week, he sat down at the kitchen table & started writing. Then asked me to listen to it & sang it for me. I thought it was so cute.

He's told me several times that he plans to tell her on the last day of school that he likes her. Oh goodness!! I know he'll never do it but I do think it's cute.

I've seen them at school together, where, of course, they don't even speak to each other.

 

[VickiVM]

My daughter is in 2nd grade - or was, yesterday was last day of school. Anyway, this is just MY PERSONAL OPINION and I don't even have a good reason why, but I don't think I would even allow her to make calls to boys or have boys call her, unless it's for something school specific. Like I said, I don't have a specific reason other than I don't want to start that stage of growing up yet. My 12 year old is just now working up the nerve to call a girl he likes.

Again - only my opinion of what's appropriate for my family.

 

[Microcell]

DD was in 2nd grade this year too, and had her first crush. I know about it only because she wrote "I love _______" on the bathroom wall and turned herself in.

She knows she is not to call boys that she likes or to "date" them. She is far too embarrassed anyway.

This seems to be at least crush time.

 

[NikiM20]

my 2nd grader is not allowed to use the phone except to call her grandparents to tell them goodnight....If someone calls here i quiz them before i let her talk to them...I am a very paranoid mom

 

[Disney Hot Mama]

My daughter is in 2nd grade - or was, yesterday was last day of school. Anyway, this is just MY PERSONAL OPINION and I don't even have a good reason why, but I don't think I would even allow her to make calls to boys or have boys call her, unless it's for something school specific. Like I said, I don't have a specific reason other than I don't want to start that stage of growing up yet. My 12 year old is just now working up the nerve to call a girl he likes.

Again - only my opinion of what's appropriate for my family.

My daughter is also in the 2nd grade (well for 14 more days!) I would not allow her to make any calls like this. I dont think it is appropriate. Now she has on a few occassions called another class mate - boy or girl - for a homework issue. I was standing right there to make sure she kept her question on tract and it was understandable. I would not have her be on the phone without me listening to a boy.

I don't think I am a prude but I think 8 is way to young for this........

 

[FreshTressa]

Nah..no girls ever call here...son is 8yo. He has gotten a few love notes though, lol. It wouldn't bother me. What could come of it??

DS does tell me that kids talk about baby making, french kissing, etc. at school. The second graders already know a lot!

 

[laurie31]

I remember having a "boyfriend" in 1st grade. He of course had no clue and we never spoke to each other, much less played together. I just thought he was cute.

The stuff that little kids do is not the same things as what middle school kids do. When my girls are 12 I would NOT want them calling boys, saying they are "going together" or whatever they're calling it this week, but in early elementary school, it's so innocent. DD1 happens not to have any friends who are boys and she only calls her 2 best friends on the phone. DD2 however, has lots of friends, male and female, and she calls them. Not a lot, but from time to time. She has one friend (a girl) who calls her nearly every night. That's a bit annoying, but it's not a huge deal. (I can overlook it because 2 years ago DD did this herself - only for a few weeks. I did ask the mom if DD was bothering her, and if so I would absolutely put a stop to it, but she said no. We both thought it was cute. And yes, the friend happened to be a boy, but it's not like they talked for more than 30 seconds and certainly not about anything "inappropriate.").

Near the first of the year, DD2 told me about a boy who was "bothering her" on the playground. My first instinct was to write a note to the teacher. Then I asked her some more about it.He wasn't doing anything terrible. No bullying or harrassment. I told her sometimes boys acted like that because they liked you. She rolled her eyes and said, "Oh yeah. I know he likes me. He wants to marry me." So...there was no note to the teacher, and the boy found another girl to like in a few weeks.

Anyway, MY peronal opinion is not to sweat the small stuff. Soon they will enter the stage where boys are "icky" and it will be a non-issue, but THEN they progress to discovering they aren't and that's when we moms have to really worry.

I can't imagine not letting my girls talk on the phone, but my older one is already begging for her own cell! (NO WAY on that!! I know some kids have cells for legitimate reasons, but not just to chat and play games, which is why she wants one. )

My concern is what can happen when you make something a "forbidden fruit" vs. treating it like it's no big deal. I understand every parent and child are different and you have to do what feels right to you. I just don't think the OP needs to worry that "real" boy-girl stuff is starting yet In four more years, though - watch out!!

Laurie

 

[Diva of Dragons]

I actually had my first "boyfriend" in second grade!

 

[MUFFYCAT]

My daughter is in 2nd grade - or was, yesterday was last day of school. Anyway, this is just MY PERSONAL OPINION and I don't even have a good reason why, but I don't think I would even allow her to make calls to boys or have boys call her, unless it's for something school specific. Like I said, I don't have a specific reason other than I don't want to start that stage of growing up yet. My 12 year old is just now working up the nerve to call a girl he likes.

Again - only my opinion of what's appropriate for my family.

i agree.
from what i've seen from my 2 dd (12 & 15)
the kids who start calling each other, giving gifts at this young age tend to
continue, so by the 6th grade threy've gone through 10 boy/girlfriends.

it is innocent at an early age but why should they be learning about
it so young?


i personally think all that calling should wait in middle school.

there was thread a few days ago about this subject.

 

[tiggerlover]

My DS will be 10 in a couple of weeks and although he uses the phone to talk with family he does not give out our phone number to his friends. Girls were cool in 2nd grade, but now they are just plain icky...lol.

 

[aprilgail2]

My daughter is in frist grade and gets calls from both boys and girls and she calls both too. I have no problem with her giving out her number and getting calls....boys and girls both call to see if she can come over and play or if they can come over here..I have no problem with her playing and calling boys or girls. My best friend from 1st grade through high school was a boy, we used to call each other and hang out all the time and we were just best friends..imagine that..a boy and a girl can be just friends...
The kids don't even have to get each others phone numbers if they are in the same class though, the play date list comes home with 99 percent of the kids numbers on it from the school..of course there is alway the one person in class that won't put their number on it but that is usually the kind I wouldn't want her playing with anyway.

 

[Daxx]

I am a Kdg. teacher and my students are constantly exchanging phone numbers! They'll go around asking their buddies for their phone numbers, writing their own number on paper and giving it to their friend, etc. When it started happening in my classroom, I nipped it right in the bud. Now, they've started to do this in the cafeteria.

I have a Kindergarten girl who calls everyone in the class every day! Recently, she has started focusing on one particular boy, calling him every day, constantly. Not just once or twice, but up to 10 times a day, according to the boy's parents. Once, she called kids at 6 am on a school day!

I did have a talk about not giving out their phone numbers and limiting their calls to each other but I can't control what they do in their homes!

 

[corie161]

My DD is in 2nd grade and her friends are girls and boys. We live in a small town and I can about guarentee that the kids that the friends she has now will be the same ones she graduates with in 10 years. She doesn't ask to talk on the phone a lot, but we have had an occasional boy/girl playdate. They really have no intentions of anything else but playing either. I wouldn't have an issue if she wanted to call a boy, but I also know my DD and write now she really isn't thinking down the lines of having a "boyfriend".

It always bothered me going through High School myself that you couldn't be friends with a boy/guy without it 'looking' like something else. Some of my better friends were guys. They just aren't as catty as girls can be.

 

[disney junky]

If you are uncomfortable with it, put a stop to it.