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[minkydog]

I agree with others who have suggested giving the child a small girly bag and a little girl-to-girl talk about how our bodies change when we get about 8yo and we start sweating more and our hair gets oily & dirty. We get stinky and then our friends might make fun. So here's what *I* do (you,that is): "I use *this* for washing myself with, especially under my arms and in all the girly places that you don't want to be stinky. I use *this* for my hair every other night. And I use *this* to make my skin soft. I have to use all three or it won't work!"" And send her on her way. Tell her to come back after she uses all her products and you will paint her fingernails for her. I'd get her a little bow for her hair too, and maybe take her picture.

My younger sister was one of those stinky girls. OMG, she could clear a room! Everyone in the family had to tell her to bathe and she still didn't get it right. I don't think she was even getting wet! But we all lived through it.

Now I'm going through it with DS14 and no matter what I do I can't get the smell off (and I bathe him myself, so I KNOW he's clean!) He smells like a goat-boy.

 

[Stacerita]

Now I'm going through it with DS14 and no matter what I do I can't get the smell off (and I bathe him myself, so I KNOW he's clean!) He smells like a goat-boy.

 

[mjkacmom]

Ds11 has needed a daily shower (or 2) for years now, plus deoderant. He asks why all of the time, and we tell him he stinks! Talk to the girl, talk to the grandfather - she will be teased horribly in school if she doesn't bathe.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

...Now I'm going through it with DS14 and no matter what I do I can't get the smell off (and I bathe him myself, so I KNOW he's clean!) He smells like a goat-boy.

You bathe your 14 year old son? He lets you?

 

[C.Ann]

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[Liberty Belle]

First of all, thanks for all of the replies..

To answer a couple of questions:

"Mom's" behavior is common knowledge - I had a long talk with "grandpa" about her at the campfire last night.. He also knows that I have posted about it here - on another thread (Mom's issues).. He wanted me to ask for some guidance from all of you, but I told him I thought he would be better offer seeking professional help with this matter (no offense to anyone here, because sometimes the greatest suggestions are ones on the DIS).. He's beside himself - hasn't even been allowed to grieve his wife's death and now has all of these other issues to deal with..

DD and I talked this morning and I think we may have come up with the only possible solution.. We're pretty sure this is more than just a BO issue - based on things we have seen; conversations with this little girl; and unusual behavior.. DD had her spend the night with her last night and they had a long talk about what has been going on in her life the past 8 months.. That's all I can say at this point..

We're contacting another family member today - who will take the action that needs to be taken - sparing grandpa anymore stress.. I'm sorry if that sounds "cryptic", but it's all I can say at this point..

I do appreciate all of the responses - all suggestions as to what might be the cause have been considered - and due to those suggestions, some pieces fell into place that supported our own line of thinking..

Thanks again - and if you don't mind, please keep these 2 girls in your thoughts and prayers - especially the youngest one..

Will do, C.Ann.

 

[minkydog]

You bathe your 14 year old son? He lets you?

Yeah, he's mentally disabled. He can't do it himself.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Yeah, he's mentally disabled. He can't do it himself.

 

[Disney Doll]

First of all, thanks for all of the replies..

To answer a couple of questions:

"Mom's" behavior is common knowledge - I had a long talk with "grandpa" about her at the campfire last night.. He also knows that I have posted about it here - on another thread (Mom's issues).. He wanted me to ask for some guidance from all of you, but I told him I thought he would be better offer seeking professional help with this matter (no offense to anyone here, because sometimes the greatest suggestions are ones on the DIS).. He's beside himself - hasn't even been allowed to grieve his wife's death and now has all of these other issues to deal with..

DD and I talked this morning and I think we may have come up with the only possible solution.. We're pretty sure this is more than just a BO issue - based on things we have seen; conversations with this little girl; and unusual behavior.. DD had her spend the night with her last night and they had a long talk about what has been going on in her life the past 8 months.. That's all I can say at this point..

We're contacting another family member today - who will take the action that needs to be taken - sparing grandpa anymore stress.. I'm sorry if that sounds "cryptic", but it's all I can say at this point..

I do appreciate all of the responses - all suggestions as to what might be the cause have been considered - and due to those suggestions, some pieces fell into place that supported our own line of thinking..

Thanks again - and if you don't mind, please keep these 2 girls in your thoughts and prayers - especially the youngest one..

I think I know where this is heading C.Ann...the ppor baby...

Make sure she sees a physician for proper medical care...

 

[C.Ann]

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[OceanAnnie]

That poor little girl.

 

[babytrees]

Info was provided to another family member today and appropriate action is being taken..

Grandpa will find out soon - but at least not tomorrow - which would have been his 40th wedding anniversary..

I could take "mom" and literally wring her scrawny neck - snapping off her booze/drug-crazed head in the process..

the poor Grandpa and those poor kids. They are lucky to have somebody in their life that was able to connect the dots. They will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Disney Doll]

I could take "mom" and literally wring her scrawny neck - snapping off her booze/drug-crazed head in the process..

Call me...I'll be happy to help.

 

[horseshowmom]

Call me...I'll be happy to help.

Me too