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[Disney Doll]

You are missing the point.

I wouldn't care who is paying homage to whom, I would want to meet the mother of a child that is friends with mine and is always at my home.

If she doesn't want to make an effort to meet me, I would still want to meet her, and I would make an effort to do so, especially if she is sitting in my driveway waiting to pick up her kid at my home.

Why? Meeting the father isn't good enough?

If there is a child at your home frequently, and you have met the mother, do you also insist on meeting the child's father?

 

[talulabelle]

Well, I agree. I assume the Mom trusts the Dad's judgement, since she hasn't taken the time to find out for herself. I can't say I think she has a "social anxiety disorder" because C.Ann said she works, dates etc. I would think that dating, at least, would be quite difficult with a social anxiety disorder.

I was able to do all of those things with social anxiety disorder. Because usually there is someone willing to take the first step and approach me. I was able to "get by". But I certainly wasn't in line for a promotion, because I never took initiative to introduce myself to higher-ups. I just "got by" at my desk. I avoided contact with people I didn't know. I dated, because like I said, my husband reached out to me first. If I had to take the first step to meet, we would have never met. Even if he looked like Brad Pitt and richer than rich and the absolute perfect man.

 

[irishbosoxfan]

When I read this I laughed as it it me! Not really me, but I am just like that woman. And I hate it!!!!

I work in a school and talk with people all day every day, but they approach me (in person or on the phone). I have a very hard time approaching people myself. I do not know why, but I cringe everytime I have to make the initial contact with someone.

When I have to do this, I will work out in my mind a million times what I will say and anticipate their response. I work myself into a tizzy over the stupidest things. I guess it is a form of social anxiety. As another poster said, if I know the people I am fine, but if I am in a new setting with no one I know I am very very shy and standoffish.

I also hate cold calling someone - even people I know. Many times I will get my DH to call for me and then put me on the phone. If people call me, I am fine. Crazy I know, but I am now in my 40's and I feel I have improved somewhat. Not quite as bad as I used to be.

I am the Mom in the car on the cell phone. If the parent comes out to meet me I am fine, but I will not go to the door. DH is great at talking to people, so we make a great pair! He usually makes the initial contact and then will introduce me. We know how to make it work for us! It is not that I do not want to know the parents of my children's friends, I just cannot approach them myself.

Just remember we are all different and the OP's situation may be different from mine, but there may be a reason for it.

I think there's quite a few of us!!

I have been this way for the better part of 20 years. I can go out and do things but don't expect me to initiate it. Someone has a bbq or softball game and DH has to practically drag me out of the house(not quite but you get the idea) Heck noone believed DH was married because they'd never met me at any group functions!!

I do best at home--I can have the house filled to the rafters with people(some I've never met before in my life) and I am in my element but make me go outside the doors and I freeze up. My job is a volunteer position and I have office hours and meetings and everything and I feel like a blathering idiot whenever I have to meet someone new or meet with higher ups,and this is with being damn good at my job.

My kids have many friends in the neighborhood but I have only truly met one mom. When I go get the kids when I want them home I walk to the house and call for the kids(they're in the yards, never in the house except for the one mom)

I can call people I don't know but I have a list of questions/answers ready to go before I start dialing and I have to add that whenever I talk to someone new or important I have a pit in my chest and feel out of breath until the conversation is over then I can take a deep breath.

 

[C.Ann]

I'll be sure to mention all of these possibilities to DD..

But quite frankly - speaking on my own behalf - I would never "force" myself on anyone for a "face-to-face" meeting.. (And especially with someone who has made it very clear by her actions that she has no interest in such a meeting - regardless of her reasons..) That's just "me" though.. Obviously other people may have other opinions - which they are certainly entitled to..

Interesting to hear other peoples "take" on this though..

 

[Ciao Mickey]

Why? Meeting the father isn't good enough?

If there is a child at your home frequently, and you have met the mother, do you also insist on meeting the child's father?

If the other parent also picks up the child from my home, why not introduce yourself to them too?

If the parents are divorced, I would think of them as two separate households with two separate set of rules, I would want to meet both of them.

Besides, I'm nosey and would want to meet the mother and find out why she is avoiding me.