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[Planogirl]

I hate it when people cuss in front of others. It shows a complete lack of respect for people around them but this is all too common nowadays.

 

[Mickeyistheman]

Sometimes I change lanes when there are kids in front of me who are screaming and carrying on while the parents are doing other things. Should I complain to the Manager about that? I left the store once b/c I couldn't take it anymore. They lost out on my business that day.

I agree that when in certain places people should watch what they say but its a free country last time I checked and well if I am having a private conversation I can say whatever I want.

BUT here is my question about this mother.....Was she yelling at the kids OR was she upset with the clothing that she was buying for her daughter? That it is made too short and revealving etc.? Maybe she was having a really bad day and this set her off that she can't find decent clothes for her young daughter? If she was literally yelling like that at her daughter...I would have went to another line.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

If it was just me I wouldn't have said anything. But if my kids were there, that would be a different story.

I was standing in line at Wal-Mart, go figure in the summer and these 4 girls (high school) got behind me and my kids. Their conversation wasn't loud, but loud enough that myself, my kids and a few people around us could hear their potty mouths.

I turned around and told them to knock it off, plain and simple. I don't talk that way around my kids and neither will they , if they continue to do so I'll go to the manager. And I also added if talking like that makes them think their cool, it doesn't it makes them sound stupid.

They all mumbled something under ther breath, but shut-up.

 

[NotUrsula]

Once we happened to be at IOA on Gay Day, and ended up in line for Spiderman behind a party that was celebrating just a bit too much. To escape the language I asked the ride operator to let three more parties after us load before we did.

I think that the ride operator thought I was a bigot for not wanting to share my ride car with a group of out lesbians. I know that the group of women I was trying to separate from did, because they chose to make some choice remarks about it as the car started up.

Not so at all: I just didn't want my young child riding in a car with 5 drunk women who were cursing at the top of their lungs all through the ride queue AND the ride itself.

 

[MushyMushy]

I think that the manager's response that it would be "too much of a hassle to void it alll out and return it" was totally uncalled for and crazy... BUT... I don't think he had any right to ask the lady to leave, either.

If the lady made you guys uncomfortable, you should have done.. exactly what you did. Distanced yourself from her.
I don't see what the manager should have done, or why you're shocked he allowed it to continue?... customers are all different. He doesn't have a right to ask a smelly one to leave and thats pretty offensive to other customers as well. Why would he have a right to control a grown adult's language choices, no matter how non-PC they may be?

She wasn't doing anything illegal and while I might have been shocked I never would have complained to a manager. She wasn't harming her child, or any of the other customers.

I don't really see why you would call and complain? I don't know where there is a valid complaint... unless it had been an employee with the dirty mouth.

Of course he had a right to ask her to leave! When I worked retail any sign of that would have been cause for us to call security. And my word, I had a manager threaten to escort me out of a Walmart for much, much, much less (I was quiet and not cussing, but very upset that I wasn't permitted to pick up a layaway in my husband's name that I set up myself! Somehow his name was already in the system with our address and they went ahead and set it up in his name. I never raised my voice, never insulted anyone, and never cursed, but just quietly argued the point.)

As for harming the child, it's called verbal abuse. If someone speaks to their child that way in public, you can only imagine how much worse it is in their home.

 

[MushyMushy]

I think that the manager's response that it would be "too much of a hassle to void it alll out and return it" was totally uncalled for and crazy... BUT... I don't think he had any right to ask the lady to leave, either.

If the lady made you guys uncomfortable, you should have done.. exactly what you did. Distanced yourself from her.
I don't see what the manager should have done, or why you're shocked he allowed it to continue?... customers are all different. He doesn't have a right to ask a smelly one to leave and thats pretty offensive to other customers as well. Why would he have a right to control a grown adult's language choices, no matter how non-PC they may be?

She wasn't doing anything illegal and while I might have been shocked I never would have complained to a manager. She wasn't harming her child, or any of the other customers.

I don't really see why you would call and complain? I don't know where there is a valid complaint... unless it had been an employee with the dirty mouth.

Of course he had a right to ask her to leave! When I worked retail any sign of that would have been cause for us to call security. And my word, I had a manager threaten to escort me out of a Walmart for much, much, much less (I was quiet and not cussing, but very upset that I wasn't permitted to pick up a layaway in my husband's name that I set up myself! Somehow his name was already in the system with our address and they went ahead and set it up in his name. I never raised my voice, never insulted anyone, and never cursed, but just quietly argued the point.)

As for harming the child, it's called verbal abuse. If someone speaks to their child that way in public, you can only imagine how much worse it is in their home.

 

[allison443]

I was in the dressing room at Target with my dd who was about 5 years old at the time...In the adjacent dressing room were two girls in their late teens trying on clothes and talking very loudly. Literally every sentence they said contained an expletive. "I dropped the @#% hanger" "I can't get the @#$% zipper up" "Look at the @#$% pattern on this dress" etc. It was almost funny but it was I just tried to get out of there asap. Anyway the dressing room attendant was a very nice older woman who approached the girls and asked them not to use profanity as there were other customers in the dressing room. The girls truly looked suprised. One said, I can't help it, this is how I was raised! My mother talks like this!

 

[Camicar]

When I worked in bridal, I kicked a bridezilla and her spineless mother out of the store for yelling a curse word at me (over purple gloves). I'm not putting up with that behavior. After all, trash always needs to be taken outside.

 

[*Fantasia*]

Some communities do indeed have laws against profanity. (cursing). It depends upon your community. My usual response to that is, "Do you eat with that mouth".

Some places do have laws against it. I have a friend who got fined $50 for yelling [edited] on the street at her ex husband. I'd say she was highly provoked though. Her child had recently died and her ex was trying to prove in court that she was at fault, when it was really just a freak accident.

Yep. we went to virginia beach and there are signs all through out the street along.. hmmm I believe it's Atlantic Ave. My bf took a picture of it. I don't know if he still has that on the card. We thought it was odd because we have never seen any signs like that before.

 

[Justanopinion]

I have many times asked a teenager or young person to please watch their language and would do so again in a heartbeat. I have never gotten a rude response in return. Most either shut up or apologize. I remember once telling a group of football boys since they were wearing their jackets that they were not doing a good job representing their team or school and I'm sure coach wouldn't be happy with them if he heard them. That shut them up real fast...they didn't want me telling coach.

Yes, it is illegal here. My DS's best friend got a $200 ticket for using a foul word.

I don't know what I would have done being in the OP's situation, every situation is different but I probably would have said something.

I don't know that the manager should have asked this guest to leave but a minimum he could have asked her to refrain from such words.

I remember when I was in high school, our church youth group did a scavenger hunt once. One of the things we had to do was go through Shopko saying "goosy goosy gander" until we found the person who would give us the clue(youth pastor's parents)...we ended up getting kicked out for that, and there was no foul language from us.

 

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[MeghansMommy]

I know it's against the law in Michigan to swear in public, at least it was about 10 years ago. My cousin was arrested for swearing outside of a bar. He always had a potty mouth.