In talking to dining this morning they told me to just make the reservations for the places you want and then when they are added to dining it's not a problem. If for some reason they do not get added to the dining plan we can either pay out of pocket or cancel the adr. Made sense to me.
Only problem is, you pay in advance for the Dining Plan (per day) to avoid paying out of pocket. So you now would have two Table Service meals to use in 1 day (if that happened) That's more than most can eat. Also, might be pretty hard getting a reservation at another participating restaurant (that you like) at that late of a notice.
this is our first and probably last trip for a LONG time...
Thanks everyone for all the advice though!
I called last night after the kids went to bed and stayed on hold with ADR with over an hour. Then I got everything I wanted at the times I wanted. Such a relief. If anyone is curious, this is what we are doing:

Paying out of pocket for H and V... Hmmm that is a good idea, seeing the kids arent coming with us to Kouzinna, my aunt will have them in greater Orlando somewhere... I will have their table services to use for them at H&V, then we can just pay for ourselves...
I've asked two different cast members at disney...one said she assumes that they will eventually go back on the plan (the plan's not finalized she said), the other said it probably is final. I was wondering, does anyone have idea about this? Do you think the DDP will be updated further before 2010 comes? Thanks!!