16 and Pregnant Part 2

[MainStMandy]

Very well said! I think Lori's parents pushed her to chose adoption b/c the baby would "inconvenience" them (Lori's parents). Yes, of course its not going to be easy, but when you are family that is what you do. I just wonder what Lori is feeling now, does she resent her parents for pushing her to that decision. I mean, I am sure if her parents said we are behind you in raising your child then I am sure she probably would have led more towards keeping her child. I think she felt that she was going to be doing this totally alone. I really felt bad for her.
Don't get me wrong, I am def. NOT bashing people who put their children up for adoption, but I see that Lori was really struggling with the idea and it wasn't something that she 100% wanted to do.

I also wondered this...I feel bad for Lori that she might end up resenting her parents for pushing her into the decision. I think her parents were very harsh in some of the comments. And it's ridiculous for her mom to say things like, I KNOW this is going to end badly...go ahead and try it! And she didn't seem to condone the whole pregnancy but she was willing to let her 16/17 year old MOVE in with boyfriend...to teach her a lesson?

 

[NeverlandClub23]

Also, while teen dads get a bad rap, if he was soooo super serious about wanting to keep the baby, he could have without Lori. I think a course needs to be given to teen dad's about their rights as well. He could have chosen to take the baby and work out a visitation arrangement woth Lori......ahhhh oh, well, that's a dream world that doesn't exist.

Exactly. I felt so horrible watching this last night. My heart really went out for Lori. You could tell she wanted to keep the baby but her parents weren't giving her the option of staying there and her bf didn't really want her either. And it looks like she's been living a comfortable life and was probably scared to death at the idea of trying to make it on her own. So sad.

My cousin got a girl pregnant when he was 17. It was more or less a one night stand kind of thing (she was 17 too). 8 months later she came to him with papers to give the baby up for adoption, he didn't even know she was pregnant. He wouldn't sign them and she didn't want to keep the baby, so he took her and raised her himself (living with my aunt and uncle and with their help). She's now 10 and they're doing great and he has his own house and a decent job (not that it's been easy).

I really feel for these girls and I hope that this show doesn't turn into encouraging even ONE girl to get pregnant 'cause it would be "cool" to try and be on MTV.

 

[MainStMandy]

I really feel for these girls and I hope that this show doesn't turn into encouraging even ONE girl to get pregnant 'cause it would be "cool" to try and be on MTV.

I wondered that too, but personally I think MTV has done a great job at NOT glamorizing pregnancy. I don't think one bit of the show has been about how it's easy or how your parents will just take care of the baby when you don't feel like it. I really hope it's getting the message across...but I think there is still a large population of, "It Won't Happen To Me".

 

[simba20]

I wondered that too, but personally I think MTV has done a great job at NOT glamorizing pregnancy. I don't think one bit of the show has been about how it's easy or how your parents will just take care of the baby when you don't feel like it. I really hope it's getting the message across...but I think there is still a large population of, "It Won't Happen To Me".

Lori herself said that she didn't know until WHOOPS, that two medications she was on reduced the effectiveness of BCPs. Again, somethign to be stressed during sex ed.....in addition to the lovely "pull out" method of BC.

I also realized after leaving the doctor's office that the abx they gave me for a staph infection on my finger, did not come with a "use a backup method" from the doctor or nurse when they handed me the script. Although I am 33 years old, but usually, even when I get a Z-pack for bronchitis I got the "use a backup...just in case" lecture.

 

[HonnyDipp]

I watch the show every week with my DD15. It gives us an excellent format to discuss these issues. Its a great show!

 

[stahshee]

Lori's parents basicly gave her no choice.. that poor girl.. Its almost as if it was the 1960's

 

[Hoodie]

OK, I'm going against everyone and saying that I think ALL the girls on this show should follow Lori's example. I think more of the parents should follow Lori's parents' example. Look at Teen mom and the mom's from this year. Those who left the house are attempting to step up and parent. Those who stayed with mom/dad end up having the grandparents parent. Frankly, from what I've seen every baby, with the exception of Bentley/Maci, would have been much better off in an adoptive family.

I'd encourage everyone to watch the after show on MTV.com. In the interview a lot more comes out than on the show. For instance, the baby's father, despite his protests, called Lori's dad and told him that he couldn't be a parent and was ready to sign the papers. From the sound of things, he didn't want adoption as long as he thought Lori could stay with her parents and keep the baby. Lori admits that once the child's father admitted that he couldn't parent, that she decided for herself that adoption was the best option. She admits that she felt forced into it at first, but as she was really beginning to face reality, that she thought it was the best choice. Admittedly, MTV didn't frame it that way in the show so I found it interesting.

 

[Raecheal]

This episode broke my heart....Lori has some serious self-esteem issuess.

I feel like Lori made the wrong decision.. she was clearly pushed into the 'adoption' decision. I hated hear her find reasons to justify her parents decision.

Her parents should feel ashamed of themselves...

 

[AKL_Megs]

I think that once Lori gets older and more mature and independent, she is REALLY going to resent her parents.

Just because there ARE childless couples who want to adopt, and THEY were one of those couples, is NOT a reason to make adoption the ONLY option for Lori.

I really only caught the show in the middle, but I felt bad for the father. He seemed to want his son around in his life, and HE had no decision in the matter. I know, I know... he might not have hung around or provided, and it's "her body, her choice", but I still felt bad for the guy.

But that Lori, she is going to resent her parents one day. I feel sorry for them that they had to act that way.

 

[C.Ann]

I only watch this once in awhile - if I find it by accident while flipping through the channels.. I can never remember what night it's on, what time, or what channel..

I did catch a few back-to-back episodes one Saturday or Sunday a couple of weeks ago.. Some of the girls/boys I felt bad for - like the young couple who made the very difficult choice to have their baby adpted out - but some of the others? Wow!! I can't believe their attitudes - and the assumptions that their mom's will take care of these babies and they can just go back to being a teenagers again..

 

[woodkins]

OK, I'm going against everyone and saying that I think ALL the girls on this show should follow Lori's example. I think more of the parents should follow Lori's parents' example. Look at Teen mom and the mom's from this year. Those who left the house are attempting to step up and parent. Those who stayed with mom/dad end up having the grandparents parent. Frankly, from what I've seen every baby, with the exception of Bentley/Maci, would have been much better off in an adoptive family.

I'd encourage everyone to watch the after show on MTV.com. In the interview a lot more comes out than on the show. For instance, the baby's father, despite his protests, called Lori's dad and told him that he couldn't be a parent and was ready to sign the papers. From the sound of things, he didn't want adoption as long as he thought Lori could stay with her parents and keep the baby. Lori admits that once the child's father admitted that he couldn't parent, that she decided for herself that adoption was the best option. She admits that she felt forced into it at first, but as she was really beginning to face reality, that she thought it was the best choice. Admittedly, MTV didn't frame it that way in the show so I found it interesting.

I 100% agree with you. Lori's parents know her and her bf better than we do and they knew that neither of them were prepared to be appropriate parents. It is their job to support their daughter into making the best decisions for her and their family. Her son for sure will have a much more stable environment and have more opportunities in life with an adoptive family that is ready to parent, and he will still have the opportunity to know his birth family as well.

 

[powellrj]

After reading all these posts, I was ready to dislike Lori's parents, but I think they were right.

If Lori had really wanted to keep the baby, she needed to make some kind of effort. She had done nothing to show she was ready to be a parent. I think if she and her boy friend were serious, they would have made arrangements to at least have a place to live after the baby was born. Its easy to say you want to keep the baby, but I think her parents saw they would be the ones to raise it. Lets face it. They weren't young people. I am guessing they were in their late 50's or early 60s. They wanted to be grandparents, not parents to their DDs baby.

I forget the boyfriends name, but he kept saying his family was being supportive of him keeping the baby, but I never show any sign that they were doing anything other than offer him support. Its easy to tell your kid to keep his child if you aren't the one going to be raising it. If he was serious, than he would have gone to her parents with a plan. He would have had a place for the baby to live, I am not even sure he had a job. I know he said people were waiting for him at the bar, but did he work there or was he just in a hurry to leave.

 

[HonnyDipp]

Macy and her son Bentley and Chelsea and her daughter Aubrey was on The Today Show this morning discusing teen pregnancy

http://community.todaymoms.com/_new...egnant-could-have-kept-me-49-and-not-pregnant

 

[hereyago]

I thought Lori and Cory weren't together anymore at the beginning of the show? I think they were trying to live in the same place just to keep the baby, but COry seemed to wuss out at some point, then when the baby was born, then he was wanting him.

From the jump, Lori's Mom was pushing the adoption issue. She didn't even want to be around a baby shower, so how could Lori start to prepare to be a parent without some sort of support?

 

[hereyago]

Who else watched the newest one? It was actually a good one except she ended up getting a c section after like 24 hours of labor. Her mom, well, I can't imagine being pregnant the same time my daughter is even though she had her young.

Her boyfriend was trying but having to do school and work, it was al ot.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Who else watched the newest one? It was actually a good one except she ended up getting a c section after like 24 hours of labor. Her mom, well, I can't imagine being pregnant the same time my daughter is even though she had her young.

Her boyfriend was trying but having to do school and work, it was al ot.

She looked like she was in so much pain. I felt so sorry for her. At the end, it looked like she was really trying to step up and be a mom, even the dad was trying to help her out. I couldn't imagine having a baby and a grandbaby that is the same age in the same house.

 

[EveDallas]

OMG. The guy is this latest episode (where the gilr had twins) seems to be a way better parent and much more mature than the girl. He is all about working hard and being a family man, and all she wants to do is hang out with her friends. Guess what - you give that up when you have kids as a teenager.

 

[WeLoveLilo05]

OMG. The guy is this latest episode (where the gilr had twins) seems to be a way better parent and much more mature than the girl. He is all about working hard and being a family man, and all she wants to do is hang out with her friends. Guess what - you give that up when you have kids as a teenager.

I just tuned in about 15 mins ago and got the same vibe as you did. I'll watch the first hour that I missed when its over as they will air it again.

She tried to be all "motherly" when she had the ex-boyfriend over, like she was putting on a front for him.

 

[WeLoveLilo05]

maybe I am being too judgmental but I just noticed as she was driving the car seat bouncing back and forth, were they even buckled in properly?
and she's all upset b/c he is out with a girl, she broke it off with him b/c she thought that there was something between her and her ex, but after he saw the twins he wasn't seen or heard from again....so now, since that did not work the way she planned, she was Corey back.

 

[PirateSnowmen]

OMG. The guy is this latest episode (where the gilr had twins) seems to be a way better parent and much more mature than the girl. He is all about working hard and being a family man, and all she wants to do is hang out with her friends. Guess what - you give that up when you have kids as a teenager.

She realized that once Corey was gone and she was on her own

She also thinks he left because he couldn't handle the twins. Um, wrong. He couldn't handle YOU.