13 is too young to have to bury a classmate

[Briar Rose 7457]

Evil Princess, remember the auto accident you posted about last year, where the young man was killed in your neighborhood?

his mother works in my daughters' school.

it's going to be a rough day tomorrow.

 

[ead79]

Oh how terribly tragic. My prayers are with these families and the friends and classmates of these kids.

I lost two friends during high school, and it was just unbelievable. The first died in TWA flight 800, and the second died in a crash of a Korean Air jet. Such tragedy.

 

[poohandwendy]

I lost a classmate in 7th grade to anorexia, she just never came back from Christmas break. It was so confusing for all of us, we knew she was sick (she looked horrible), but many of the adults didn't want us to talk about it. (thankfully, times have changed)

I think one thing that is critical is that the kids be told the truth, they need to know what happened and why. I am not saying scare them with gruesome details, but they are going to hear tons of conflicting rumors, they need someone to make some sense of it all...if at all possible.

Another thing that is a common occurance with MS/HS kids (dealing with a classmates death) is that there will be kids who use this situation to get attention, they make up false stories and sometimes spread hurtful rumors. IMO, it is largely due to gross immaturity, but it can be very hurtful to those who were really close to the person who died or the family.

 

[newholiday]

Im sooooo sorry - I cant imagine what those poor parents are going through.
11yr DS just had a classmate die 2wks ago in his 6th grd class. They had worked on a project together this school yr.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

I bought a sympathy card at lunch. does anyone know the appropriate message for a grieving Moslem family? or should we just keep it very secular?

 

[Kitty 34]

How sad. My middle DS buried a classmate the day after he was out of 6th grade. He knew him well. It was so tragic.

 

[zurgswife]

Very sad...thoughts for the friends and family of these boys..

 

[Pin Wizard]

That is soooooo sad! Hugs and prayers to your daughter, his family, and the classmates. Lake Harmony...I've been there! When I was a junior in high school, a girl in my class was killed in a car accident. She was driving. So sad!