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[akhenaten]

I think youcould certainly say......that maybe "grandpa will plan a special trip with you sometime".....if she mentions it again...

have a wonderful trip!!

 

[inaminute]

I'll "zip my lip" - but if I hear my DGD (just turned 8) having this kind of conversation with her Grandpa again, would I be totally out of place if I piped up and suggested they do the same next Christmas?

I wouldn't give a specific timeframe, just tell her that Grandpa's not going this time, but maybe they can go together another time.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

You shouldn't feel badly about doing something so nice for your family. If you decided to buy them a car would SIL's parents kick in? I agree with the idea of the Park and Fly, let DGD get it out of her system the night before.

If Other Grandma wasn't so "fussy" she might be more welcomed. You can't hold yourself responsible for that.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Three words.... PARK AND FLY!!!!!

Live without guilt!!!

I do however, have a question.
Has nobody been able to explain this to your grand-daughter in a very definite way that she can understand????

Why is she continuing to make to make these comments to her other grandparents and bring up the whole debate again???? Something seems amiss with that.

 

[EthansMom]

C. Ann,

Don't you feel guilty for one minute. The ILs have are perfectly capable of booking and paying for their own vacations. I don't understand why your DGD's other grandparents can't just say, "Oh no, honey, we're going to stay home. But you're going to have a great time with Grandma C. Ann!"

Personally, I would ask your DD to explain to DGD that this vacation is your special time together. DGD will have some things she does with her other grandparents, and some things she does with you, and some things she does with all of her grandparents at the same time. I'm sure she's capable of understanding that.

If you think it would help, then just do the Park N Fly thing. That's what we do for our trips and it works out well.

If you want to alleviate some guilt, you could have copies made of your photos for the other grandparents and help DGD send them a postcard from WDW.

Enjoy your trip!

 

[disykat]

I'm honestly having a hard time grasping why you would feel the slightest bit guilty about not taking them on your vacation. Do they take you on all of theirs?

 

[annegal]

I don't understand your guilt.

We've gone on family vacations with either set of grandparents, and never the both together.I never felt "guilty" if I was at the beach with granparents "A" and that Grandparents "B" were not there.

8 years old is not a baby. I can't imagine why she thinks the other grandparents are going. Haven't you discussed the room , how you are sharing the room , where you are eating , what parks you are going to?

 

[dementia412]

Isn't this a gift to your daughter and granddaughter? Then why in the world would you for one moment think of taking along people your daughter doesn't want there? Just to ease your mind? Come on, that would be selfish. The other grandparents impossing themselves just because they can't miss one Christmas with the grandchild is selfish! Giving a great gift to your child and her family is wonderful.

 

[va32h]

If my mother invited my MIL on our vacation, I'd be beyond furious!

There's a reason your daughter doesn't want her along, that's all I'm sayin'

And eight years old is plenty old enough to understand that everyone can't go on every trip.

 

[Byrd]

C. Ann you are a wonderful mom and grandmother. You have nothing to feel guilty about! Please enjoy this time with your family.


Have a blast!

I'm not taking my DH on my retirement trip. I love him dearly, but he is high maintance. Doesn't care for Disney. I don't feel guilty since I know he would be miserable!

 

[CEDmom]

I think if her other grandparents want to spend Christmas in WDW with their granddaughter they should plan a trip of their own for next year. I know if my mom had planned a special trip with DH, DD and I and somehow my MIL tagged along I would not be happy at all. It would pretty much ruin the trip for me although I don't think my DD would care one way or the other.

Don't let them guilt you. I think it might be a good idea if your DD and her DH had a talk with your DGD as to who is and isn't going on this trip.

 

[Serena]

I cannot imagine how much the guilt would cost you. It works this time, then they ruin your dd's trip. And next time you do something and they find out, it'll be easier for them to manipulate.

Just say that maybe next time they will have something planned. But this time is just for the 4 of you.

 

[C.Ann]

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[AprilShowers]

A Merry Christmas to All Indeed!

 

[momrek06]

ABSOLUTELY...a Very Merry Christmas INDEED!!!!!

ALL SETTLED and everyone is !!!!!

Now get out of here and have the best time ever!!!

 

[katerkat]

I *am* taking my ILs and my parents and my sister to WDW in a week and a half, but I like my ILs. My parents and ILs will overlap one night - we're going to the HDDR. I love that the families get along enough that we can share Russ's first trip with everyone.

That being said - we have not told my FIL and SMIL about this trip at all. :

 

[canwegosoon]

C.Ann...when are you going? I am going 12/23-12/29(I am leaving for LI on the 22-we are flying out of JFK)...but If you are going before the 22nd I'll might be able to bring you to the airport (ALB right?). I think I live close to you...PM me I will be back on Saturday! HAppy Thanksgiving

 

[Nancyg56]

I'm sorry she has to have surgery - and sorry she's in pain - but at least now the problem has been solved..

Merry Christmas To All - And To All A Good TRIP...err, I mean "Night"..

Yes Virginia, there is a Santa Claus........




Have a great trip!

 

[MsDisney23]

Well - the "Barone's" were here tonight.. "Frank & Marie"...

"Marie's" knee replacement surgery has been scheduled earlier than previously thought and 3 weeks prior she needs to have a series of tests done and "Frank" has to donate 2 units of blood (luckily they're the same type) because "Marie" suffers from anemia.. They explained to DGD that they wouldn't be able to make the trip even if they "wanted" to because "Marie" can't do that much walking - her knee is literally getting worse by the day..

I'm sorry she has to have surgery - and sorry she's in pain - but at least now the problem has been solved..

Merry Christmas To All - And To All A Good TRIP...err, I mean "Night"..

Oh my, C Ann this just cracked me up... , I'm glad everything worked out for you! Have a safe and wonderful trip.

 

[dianeschlicht]

As soon as my DD gets home from work, I'm going to tell her about the conversation I overheard this morning.. If she's still adamant that having her MIL along would entirely ruin the trip, then that will be the deal breaker and I'll go with the Park and Fly..

The next trick will be to convince myself that I'm not being a selfish witch..

Ugh! Why couldn't they have like 6 other grandchildren?????

Don't make your DD feel guilty too. You are NOT a selfish witch! THis is YOUR family trip, not thiers. Take your DD, her DH and your DGD and enjoy.