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[C.Ann]

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[cepmom]

C.Ann ~
don't feel bad for one second about taking your family to WDW. There's nothing writen anywhere saying that they need to go too!! Can't they take your DGD another time? Maybe you can all plan another trip for next year or something. From you previous posts, it sounds like your DD and you have had a rough year. You guys deserve to have this vacation. Oh and I would definitely be looking into the Park and Fly ~ you don't need a last minute guilt trip

 

[DawnCt1]

you are unselfishly taking them to wdw. if the other grandparents want to take them....they can; next CHRISTMAS. have a wonderful time, do the park and fly thing and donot think twice about it.

 

[momof2inPA]

Would you be paying for them or would they pay for themselves? If it's the second, then let your daughter decide.

 

[alliecats]

I don't understand why the MIL thinks she should have been invited on YOUR trip? It would be different if your DD initiated the trip, but you did, so I don't see why you would be expected to invite them. If they want to go to WDW with your DGD, then they can ask her next year. I would not invite them, not to be mean, but because you want a trip with your immediate family.

 

[AuntieM03]

I would not take the other grandparents. Though your grandaughter may be upset in the short term it is better than having more of you unhappy the whole time. I went last December with my best friend, brother, sil, niece and nephew. We left my older nephew at home (he was 20 at the time) because we knew as much as we love him it would cause alot of stress to have him along. As sad as it made me it also made for a very pleasant vacation

 

[akhenaten]

PLEASE..... if your DD is looking forward to a wonderful trip without her MIL....don't give in!! Take the park n fly and buy a nice gift from Disney for your DGD to give her other grandparents.....

 

[Chattyaholic]

A few years ago our daughter's husband's family took a cruise and paid their way as well. They didn't ask us to go along. It never occurred to me that they would. It was THEIR family vacation. If we want to take DD and her DH on vacation, we will do so.

If I were you I would NOT feel guilty about taking my DD, her DH and my DGD on vacation with me. As others have said, if the other grandparents want to take them on vacation they CAN...at another time!!

Go! Enjoy! DO NOT FEEL GUILTY!!! NOT FOR ONE SECOND!!

 

[Stitchfans]

I wouldn't give it a second thought. Go have fun with your DD and her family. So sense bringing along others who could spoil all the fun.

 

[dmslush]

The first time we went to wdw, dd had NEVER been away from my mom for that long. We had always either lived next door to mom or with mom for all of dd's life. She just couldn't imagine going anywhere without her nanny. We went by mom's place of work as we were leaving so that dd could tell her goodbye (we were driving to FL). Of course, dd cried, (and so did nanny!), but about 30 minutes down the road and she was fine. It didn't ruin our trip or anything and she was so excited to tell nanny everything when she came back. So, if grandpa wants to take you to the airport, let him. If dgd cries, she will only cry for a little while before she is distracted and it won't ruin the trip!

 

[C.Ann]

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[akhenaten]

Isn't that just passing the guilt on to your DD's shoulders?

Let the guilt go as others have suggested.......you planned a wonderful trip for you DD and her family and they are happy and grateful......just let it be and enjoy the trip.....

 

[Hedy]

Enjoy your trip, do Park and Fly.

 

[minniecarousel]

I think your DGD can take it - let her know that this trip is just the 4 of you. Explain that her other GPs can take her someplace special some other time. (But let her know this before you go to get on the plane!)

 

[alliecats]

Isn't that just passing the guilt on to your DD's shoulders?

ITA. Even though that is not your intent, that is what this will do. If she wanted to invite them she would have said so by now, so why bring it up and risk making her make a bad decision out of guilt? Let this go, don't say anything else about it, proceed as planned and have a wonderful time.

 

[hydster]

They are adults and can book a trip to Disney just as well as you can book a trip to Disney. I would think the other grandparents would LOVE to have DGD by herself and not have to "share" with you! My inlaws would hate to travel with me and my parents. They like the alone time and not having to share.

Go have a good time with the plans like you made them. You have NO reason under the sun to feel guilty about this trip! Maybe this is why you haven't been too excited to go?

Your dd and dgd deserve alone time with you and you only! If the other parents are upset they'll have to learn that life ain't fair and they can take them on a trip anytime they want without you tagging along!

I swear extended family makes me want to scream sometimes but please just go and enjoy your time. You can only feel guilty if you allow yourself to feel guilty!

 

[momrek06]

C. Ann...Although I do not have children that are married...I would just like to make the comment....I think you need to FIRST please your DD....if she does not want MIL along....then that is it. You cannot possibly please everyone, so start with your DD...if she is pleased as punch that MIL is not going and knows her DD is going to miss "grandpa"...then YOUR DD will explain to her DD that one day soon, maybe they can go on vacation with DH's family.

BTW...how old is DGD?

C. Ann...you should not be getting yourself all upset like this, causes too much stress, and stress causes a meltdown, which causes colds and flus and that is the LAST thing you want before your LEAVE in a few weeks!!!

 

[inaminute]

C.Ann--Young lady you STOP IT! Right now!

You are not responsible for making your SIL's parents happy. This is YOUR trip with YOUR daughter and her family. If the other grandparents want to take their son with his family to WDW, they can do so at a later date. I wouldn't think twice about it.

Now call that Park & Fly place and don't let them guilt you into anything you don't want to do!

 

[C.Ann]

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[Nancyg56]

Isn't that just passing the guilt on to your DD's shoulders?

Let the guilt go as others have suggested.......you planned a wonderful trip for you DD and her family and they are happy and grateful......just let it be and enjoy the trip.....

What she said! Please enjoy your very special trip with your family and call the other Grandparents from Disney.

We have this same issue coming up in January with our family trip. This involves my DD's aunt. She wants to come with us and my family will mutiny if I give in. She has made a lot of comments that make everyone uncomfortable, but I think that this is rude. I am looking forward to my entire family being together and not having any extra family dynamics that may cause a strain.

You are not obligated to include your DD's inlaws on your family trip and they need not include you when they decide to vacation. They will have the opportunity to enjoy the family if they choose. I agree with all of the posters who encourage you to let it go and let your DD deal with your DGD missing Grandpa. I bet she will be fine and so will they.