Patience
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jul 7, 2011
He needs to find a secondary back up for when he is working. I don't think having Grandma as primary back up is a bad thing per se. However, the onus needs to be on the dad to make arrangements.
If the mom is accustomed to the girls being with dad or Grandma on the weekends, then that's what she expects. I don't think it's unreasonable. Giving dad 3 weeks notice that she is going away for a weekend seems like ample time for him to come up with Plan B.
I agree with this. If it's his weekend for visitation and he has to work, he needs to find a babysitter, whether that's you OP or someone else. You said his apartment is not suitable for the girls so he therefore needs to find someone to babysit them at your house, since you are willing for them to stay the weekends at your house. Ideally, he should find an appropriate apartment for them all to live in. They are his children and deserve to have a safe and secure home with him. Until that happens though, I don't see why it's impossible for him to find a babysitter to stay with them at your house until you get back from wherever it is you need to go. And OP, no offense to you, but your son really has not spent much time with his children at all from what you posted. His wife is obviously frustrated by that and feels that all the childcare responsiblities are on her with very little assistance from their father. I can see that she would be angry about that and upset for her children who do not seem to be much of a priority to their father.