UPDATE from SHEABOYS:
I called today, first time they sent me link to reset password, that did not work. Called again, she said I have 4 accounts.. Fairly certain that is untrue. Said she selected my email as my username (which it always was) and bingo worked. However, no longer in my name, but in my husbands. Weird, but then I thought about it and when I first logged on to BOG fast pass site, the reservation was in his name, not sure why since I made it but whatever. Never really thought about it. I was also gone from the list, but there were 2 of my husbands name, so it showed him as tinkerbell, Mrs., and my D.o.b., and I also noticed for what ever reason our room reservation changed to me? No idea why. So I left the account in his name and changed the him to Mr. Incredible and left birthdate as mine, figured that does not make much difference anyway. Did the same for his additional one but put my name in there and changed it to tinkerbell.
Good news, all the stuff was there, reservations, adr's and all our fastpasses.
So I will guess the MDE sign in and BOG fast pass sign in are now compatible, maybe now I will get an invite...just maybe.
So bottom line, it is A OK!