spacemountainmom
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jul 19, 2010
I think it is possible for men and women to be just friends. My husband and I have never had it become a big issue. DH had a buddy he played hockey with. I got to know the guy as well and he and I were both stay at home parents at the time. We used to get together and hang out with the kids every now and again. My dh was fine with it and his wife was as well. The funny thing is...neither dh or I have ever even met his wife. The kids got a bit older and we both started working again so we quit hanging out. No big deal.
We were friends with a couple and the wife (and both of their kids) had worked at one time or another for my dh. The couple split and the wife was still working for us. She ended up going through a pretty rough patch and my dh would help her out when he could. I didn't have a problem with it since she was nearly old enough to be our mother. However, it did hit a point where she was getting pretty "needy" and I did finally ask my husband to back off. We discussed it and he agreed that it was time to put up some more boundaries where this person was concerned. Problem solved. We're still friendly with this gal and her new husband so it all worked out in the end.
We were friends with a couple and the wife (and both of their kids) had worked at one time or another for my dh. The couple split and the wife was still working for us. She ended up going through a pretty rough patch and my dh would help her out when he could. I didn't have a problem with it since she was nearly old enough to be our mother. However, it did hit a point where she was getting pretty "needy" and I did finally ask my husband to back off. We discussed it and he agreed that it was time to put up some more boundaries where this person was concerned. Problem solved. We're still friendly with this gal and her new husband so it all worked out in the end.