Hey Samantha and all Your problem really resonates with me. I never stood up to my in-laws, although they did the same kind of religious belittling that you describe. My dh also worked for them, which added considerable stress to our lives. Now we've been married 37 years. Both my in-laws have passed. My greatest regret in my life in that I didn't succeed in having a loving relationship with them. Yes, they didn't make it easy, but I stopped trying. When that show "Dharma and Greg' was on the air I used to love it because of the loving but firm way Dharma dealt with her in-laws. How I wish I had behaved similarly. I hope that you figure out a way to co-exist lovingly and respectfully. I believe it is worth immense effort. Now that my kids are marrying, I'm trying very hard to be loving and non-judgemental. It is not an easy nor natural relationship imo! Good luck!