Go Fund Me for College Fund?

[jt'smom]

http://www.gofundme.com/kwjqg4

Is this one ok ???

I find Go fund me accts interesting, also there is no better way to give, then giving directly to a person in need.

I think it is extremely generous that people donated so this nice exchange student could go to Disney. And if I had extra money and felt moved to help a kid out like that, I'm not saying I wouldn't. I've done crazy things for strangers, for a variety of reasons. But, I still think it's tacky and if someone on my Facebook posted a link and it showed up on my newsfeed, I'd ignore it and move on. Can you imagine if each and every one of us started a GFM for a Disney trip, or a Gucci handbag, or a new dog bed, or a new set of tires, or a Vitamix, or tickets to see a Broadway show, or new underwear for a 5 year old who doesn't like superhero briefs, or a trip to the Grand Canyon... the possibilities are endless! Although, it would provide hours of entertainment for people to go on the website!

 

[luvsJack]

Standard etiquette says that a registry card for invites to showers is okay, as that's the entire point of a shower- to give gifts to help the new couple set up a home.

As far as the wedding invite- it's never okay to include registry information. It's, in essence, saying that a gift is expected. The invite should be non-conditional; you invite for the pleasure of sharing your event with family and friends, not to receive gifts.

I wasn't saying that one should put it on the wedding invite. But regardless of where the info is put, it is not dictating anything as the pp kept saying it was.

 

[Kbee]

I find them interesting, only have donated once, to one person I personally knew. It was for a dog rescue surgery. Could that person cut out some stuff to fund it herself, yep.

I find it very tacky to set up a beggar's bucket for things you want, or places you want to go to, or yes even your college tuition.
The Kevin fundraiser is nice, but its a school sponsored trip, so fundraising could have been done to cover that for the students. That is how it is here, students plan and fundraise to keep their costs down, and their parents cover whatever expenses are left. I assume he has parents.

 

[luvsJack]

I think you and I have a very different idea of "a person in need" if you think Kevin is one of those people.

He isn't truly a person in need but its nice that he is getting to go. I noticed the person who set up the account said "my family and friends" They were probably glad they didn't have to buy a candy bar or another candle. Lol

 

[Laura66]

Setting up these honeymoon registries does not dictate the gift someone gives no more than any other registry does. They aren't saying anyone has to pay for a dolphin encounter but if someone or a group of some

Then why set them up at all? Really!

 

[LBIJim]

I just visited the Gofundme site and I can't believe the things people are asking others to pay for. I guess its true, some people really have no shame.

Correct, some people have no shame, and they know there are plenty of suckers in the world willing to pay for their wants.

 

[Anastasi]

I wasn't saying that one should put it on the wedding invite. But regardless of where the info is put, it is not dictating anything as the pp kept saying it was.

I am assuming I am the PP you are referring to as you quoted me previously. Sorry, but that is not at all what I said.

 

[luvsJack]

Then why set them up at all? Really!

Same reason you set one up at Target or Bed Bath and Beyond. Registries have been around forever.

 

[lauradis]

He isn't truly a person in need but its nice that he is getting to go. I noticed the person who set up the account said "my family and friends" They were probably glad they didn't have to buy a candy bar or another candle. Lol

Or cookie dough.

Maybe my point is I don't have a problem with people posting gofundme accounts on fb feeds, I will more then likely look, just like any other fundraiser and decide if I would like to support said fundraiser.

 

[luvsJack]

No, not secretive. Polite.

Including registries is asking for gifts. In the most basic of etiquette, that is very poor manners.

An invitation should be an invitation. No expectation of gifts should even be hinted at. And a guests of honor should never expect gifts of any kind.

Now, that said, people do give gifts for major life events, so having a registry is convenient for the gift giver. Many people do want to give the guest of honor something they truly want and do want to use a registry. But the gift giver should be the one to decide the kind of gift they give. IF they want to know about a registry, it is easy enough to find out. But perhaps they have something else in mind they want to give. By including a gift registry in an invite, you are basically telling your guests that "I want this.

The above is what you said and it does say that registries dictate what gift.

 

[Julylady]

A "friend" of mine and her husband have two teenage daughters. The parents both have good jobs with each making six figures. They send emails to Go fund me accounts each summer to pay for their daughter's summer band camp, or trip to Costa Rica, etc. Last week, I was asked to fund the oldest daughter's trip to Italy. They have been doing this for at least five years so it must be working! I have never given a dime. The only time I have ever donated via Go fund me was when the Dad of one of our church families was hospitalized after a serious car accident. An account was set up to raise money for expenses while he was recovering.

 

[Anastasi]

The above is what you said and it does say that registries dictate what gift.

I stand by exactly what I said. It is poor manners to include information about gift registries in invitations because it basically says "this is what I want."

It is pretty common knowledge that it is bad manners to expect a gift at parties, let alone tell somebody in the invitation what kind of gift you expect.

As I said in the post you quoted, most friends and relatives will bring a gift. And most friends and relatives do want to know what you would like, so registries themselves are not a bad thing.

No, not secretive. Polite.

Including registries is asking for gifts. In the most basic of etiquette, that is very poor manners.

An invitation should be an invitation. No expectation of gifts should even be hinted at. And a guests of honor should never expect gifts of any kind.

Now, that said, people do give gifts for major life events, so having a registry is convenient for the gift giver. Many people do want to give the guest of honor something they truly want and do want to use a registry. But the gift giver should be the one to decide the kind of gift they give. IF they want to know about a registry, it is easy enough to find out. But perhaps they have something else in mind they want to give. By including a gift registry in an invite, you are basically telling your guests that "I want this.

 

[luvsJack]

I stand by exactly what I said. It is poor manners to include information about gift registries in invitations because it basically says "this is what I want."

It is pretty common knowledge that it is bad manners to expect a gift at parties, let alone tell somebody in the invitation what kind of gift you expect.

As I said in the post you quoted, most friends and relatives will bring a gift. And most friends and relatives do want to know what you would like, so registries themselves are not a bad thing.

So its not bad to have one, just for anyone to know about it. Sounds like Scarlett's logic on her undergarmets Lol. I'm kidding.

I get what your saying and I agree that its like asking for a gift but do find that many people appreciate the information.

 

[goofy4tink]

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that it would seem that 'generally', most GFM accounts are aimed at people that aren't close to the person looking for donations. Otherwise, it wouldn't be necessary....your family and friends know you're 'getting married, or honeymooning, or going to college'. If a relative, or friend, is getting married or going to college, then more than likely I'll be giving a gift anyway. I don't need GFM to do that.
Gift registries? Etiquette? Okay, so how many of you really go to a wedding and reception and don't give a gift? To say that including a list of registries, with the invitation, is tacky and comes across as 'asking for a gift' is silly. Getting an invitation is already asking for a gift. The only time a gift is not expected is when an announcement is sent out.
Putting it in with the invitation? I don't know. I haven't received a formal, traditional wedding invitation in a very long time. Most have been informal, to say the least. I'm pretty old-fashioned and traditional. But I have to say...I like having gift registries listed somehow, especially if I'm not really close to the couple.

 

[Laura66]

Same reason you set one up at Target or Bed Bath and Beyond. Registries have been around forever.

That's not answering the question I was talking about in your post.
I was saying - in a nutshell - that people who say they don't expect gifts or donations from registries or donations from go fund me accounts are lying. Because if they didn't they would not include them in invitations or set up accounts in the first place!

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

My son a high school sophomore is going to Europe this summer.
We were actually encouraged to open a Go Fund Me type page to encourage family members and friends to donate to my sons trip.
I am in the TAcKY camp and would never dream of doing it. If DH and i couldnt pay for DS's trip, he wouldnt be going.


A previous neighbor of mine set up a GFM for her 6th grade daughter to attend some kind of leadership camp. She boohoo'd her and her husband couldnt afford it and it was a wonderful opportunity for their DD.
But shes always bragging how lucky she is to be a SAHM and actually puts down working woman saying sometimes material things arent more important than her kids livlihood
I used to be a SAHM yes we gave up alot including if one of our kids were asked to an expensive camp. I cant imagine begging for money for such a non necessity. Tacky!

 

[lauradis]

That's not answering the question I was talking about in your post.
I was saying - in a nutshell - that people who say they don't expect gifts or donations from registries or donations from go fund me accounts are lying. Because if they didn't they would not include them in invitations or set up accounts in the first place!

Nor do you have to buy a present! But then that would be in poor taste too. You just can't win don't add registory, get emails, text and calls asking "what do you think that person would like" add a registory your begging for gifts.

 

[Kbee]

He isn't truly a person in need but its nice that he is getting to go. I noticed the person who set up the account said "my family and friends" They were probably glad they didn't have to buy a candy bar or another candle. Lol

well it would be nice if I got to go to Hawaii but I'm not going to ask other people to pay for my trip.

 

[luvsJack]

That's not answering the question I was talking about in your post.
I was saying - in a nutshell - that people who say they don't expect gifts or donations from registries or donations from go fund me accounts are lying. Because if they didn't they would not include them in invitations or set up accounts in the first place!

Do you often show up at showers, weddings, etc. without a gift?

People give gifts. They want to know what to give and so we have registries. They aren't something new.

 

[luvsJack]

well it would be nice if I got to go to Hawaii but I'm not going to ask other people to pay for my trip.

And he is going on a band trip. One that probably did fund raising. GFM is just a type of fundraising.