Have this issue--the boys will be headed to college in the fall and both of them have the "door closed--don't open" option. But when they were open lately, I saw inside. Yikes! So, we started a discussion about what they will be taking with them in the fall. Surprise! They have each begun their own decluttering and organizing. Fortunately/unfortunately we are moving out of this set of quaters within the 3 months so it is easy to set deadlines to set it aside.
DD15 has begun complaining that she can't find anything. My answer is of course, "clean your room" but that only starts a fight. So I gave her the task of bringing down clothes and I washed them. As she helped fold them she had to get rid of any stained, torn or doesn't fit clothes...plus those that belong to other people. I have a stack of clothes for other kids. I wonder if she has a stack like this out there too.
I have found that when I state my goals for my room/kitchen...to everyone, they start looking around and they pitch in on their end. So, maybe if you get your daughter to help you with a closet or something, she will go into her room and say to herself "I need to do something like this."
Keep us posted. But pick your battle.
Thanks for the support!
I picked up dd from school and let her know I did her laundry. I also told her I organized her clothes a bit. Her radar went up, but everything stayed low key. When she got home, she was a bit perturbed, and I still kept it low key. I told her I was staging an intervention, because her room was like "Hoarders". That kind of threw her off, but I kept it funny and positive and no eruptions from her!!!!!!
She tried to tell me it was organized chaos and she knew where everything was, but there wasn't much enthusiasm in her voice.
So, I went through all her drawers, folded everything, hung up everything, made a new section for skirts and pants and jackets and bought new hangers and threw away trash and basically just sorted through stuff.
I turned her mattress, remade her bed put the shoes in the closet.
Now, this morning, she had her clothes from yesterday on the floor (grr) but she did make her bed! So I am going to focus on the positive with her.....how nice her bed looked this morning.
I am doing more decluttering in there as well.
I will say, I am going through "stuff" and "junk". Anything that looks like it might be personal-cards from her boyfriend, etc, I am not touching. She has a busy afternoon and evening today, but tomorrow I plan to have her start going through the clothes. I know there will be some to give away and some are just worn.
I know I will need a new plan after this week, when I'm back to work, on how to keep her going.
I am thinking I need a plan that I give her lots of support at first, so she can learn what its like to be in a nice organized room and want to be like that. I think she's spent so long in chaos, this does feel weird. And then start to keep it on her own.
Anyway, off to do a little more (and pick up my room as well!)
Julia
have so little is they have been destashing for several years, kids grown and have moved from a 4 bed 2 bath.... Into a 40 foot rv 
the thought of traveling around in an RV does sound good!!
Thankfully, for some of us, small purge amounts means that we have been at it a long time! I am in my third year. I purge every week, but it is now at the point that I may only make a goodwill run once every 3 weeks.
We will all win this battle of clutter one item at a time!
I figured someone out there would be yelling at their screen saying, "Nooooooo"---I rarely pass our stuff on to someone else anymore, I simply do not like adding to another persons clutter..
