2013 Destash- this is the year!

Discussion in 'Budget Board' started by 4 Ears, Jan 1, 2013.

  1. mafibisha

    mafibisha DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Mar 9, 2002
    Messages:
    2,785
    Loving this thread! Thanks to all for posting and inspiring! :thumbsup2

    I do have to say however .... And this is TOTALLY said in regards to ME not anyone else :scratchin :upsidedow

    When I read about the (tiny) amounts some are purging, I almost LOL Because we apparently have way more stuff and junk than others. :sad: :rolleyes2
    And I have alot of work still do do :faint: :rolleyes2

    So even THAT inspires me to get moving again!! Thanks, everyone!!!

    :thumbsup2
     
  2. Avatar

    Google AdSense Guest Advertisement


    to hide this advert.
  3. 4 Ears

    4 Ears previously 8 Ears

    Joined:
    Oct 7, 2009
    Messages:
    496
    No offense taken... The reason some people ;) have so little is they have been destashing for several years, kids grown and have moved from a 4 bed 2 bath.... Into a 40 foot rv :)
     
  4. mafibisha

    mafibisha DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Mar 9, 2002
    Messages:
    2,785
    Ahh... While I'm not looking forward to the kids growing up any faster than they already are, :scared: the thought of traveling around in an RV does sound good!!
     
  5. princessbride6205

    princessbride6205 DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    May 8, 2006
    Messages:
    2,002
    Well we only started with a 2-bedroom place - no basement, no attic, small garage. So the fact that I still have most of DD's baby stuff is definitely crazy! We have been good about donating clothing consistently, so at least that isn't as much of destash.

    MY UPDATE:
    Sold all 3 things I had on Craigslist last week, and have about 8 things up on ebay. One finished/sold yesterday - a collectible item that I was hoping to get $30-$50 for - it went for $158!!!! I feel rich! :laughing:

    This week I will return a pair of shoes to Zappos that DD never wore (love their 365 day return policy!) and sell a gift card that I will never use. I still need to list some more giant baby items on CL - not sure I'll have a chance.
     
  6. MOpGrad2013

    MOpGrad2013 DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Dec 29, 2012
    Messages:
    867
    Sent DS18 to drop off items at thrift store last night. Very thankful we have stow-n-go seating so the seats were hidden flat...the van was completely full and stacked up too.

    Then DH and DfS got home from the college trip...Brought in toys from SIL and clothes. Suddenly I was overwhelmed, but once I saw the clothes will all fit DS2 now and the toys didn't go over the section limit...it's ok.

    Made everyone watch Hoarders Season 1 Episode 1. Ok. So some missed the point of that "we don't have that much stuff..." I told them we are all just one pile of clutter away. Over dramatized, but made sense at the time.

    Definitely ready to go through the cabinet full of vases. I have sets of matching vases. Not like I've ever had them all full of flowers at once!

    Have to get over my "if I get rid of it, I will have to re-purchase it in the future" phobia.
     
  7. Julia M

    Julia M DIS Veteran<br><font color =red>not clever, not wi

    Joined:
    Jun 10, 2000
    Messages:
    1,959
    Hi Everyone,
    Its been awhile since I posted......I was off over Xmas and did a ton of decluttering. Well, now its winter break. I didn't get alot done over the weekend, but now have 4 days to get things done.

    My big project.....dd's bedroom. I am really in a fix about this and don't know what to do. Some people say, let her have it how she wants, its her room. Others say, its your house, you can set some rules.

    My issue...generally dd isn't bad. She's a good student, been accepted at 6 of the 7 schools she applied to (one we still haven't' heard), some with merit aide. She does an outside activity and is quite competitive and skilled. Most people love her. We have a rough relationship. and part of me doesn't want to fight over her room.

    Well, I have been in there a couple times recently and it is horrible. Like hoarders horrible. Clothes everywhere, bags of trash not thrown away....I mean horrible.

    I started today by running loads of laundry and I am going to ask her after school to go through clothes.

    Just by getting rid of stuff (gift bags, etc), I have made a ton of headway. If it looked like this, I wouldn't hassle her.

    But I am worried....going off to college and NO idea of how to keep her room somewhat decent.

    How should I start? I want to do it in a non punitive way, so it becomes a positive life lesson and not a fight between her and I (in which case, nothing will be learned)

    Obviously, given the fact I am on this thread, I'm not perfect, but what she has is scary.

    HELP PLEASE!!!!

    Thanks
    Julia
     
  8. ferrytale

    ferrytale Mouseketeer

    Joined:
    Feb 13, 2007
    Messages:
    438
    Over the weekend, cleaned out a closetmaid shelf unit not being used as intended & repurposed it as a snack cabinet in the man-cave. DH hung a shelf in the laundry room & I got some storage bins for the kids gloves & hats that are scattered about the house. Still need to majorly tackle the clothing. I feel like I constantly sort and get rid clothes, but the piles of laundry never go away...sigh.
    Last night took 2 big jar candles from the back of the closet (gifts i didn't like but just couldn't throw out)& had my Girl Scouts make fire starters for camp. Don't feel like I am making much progress but have to remember slow & steady wins the race...
     
  9. GaSleepingBeautyFan

    GaSleepingBeautyFan DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Aug 12, 2007
    Messages:
    8,153
    I feel like I've gotten some destashing accomplished this past weekend.

    The dining room is now done.

    And I went through all the coats in the hall closet and we've cut down drastically on what we now have. All the ones that are too small and that we don't want I've washed and put in the donate bag which filled it up.
    I still need to do the top shelf and the floor which I hope to do later this week.

    Today I just finished going through one section of the master bedroom closet. I kind of had to because one of the organizer pieces with a shelf and pole that I had shirts hung on collapsed. I've filled another bag of clothes to donate and repaired the shelf.

    I'm still a bit off track from my original plan since I was sick but as long as I'm still plugging away, I don't mind.
     
  10. MOpGrad2013

    MOpGrad2013 DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Dec 29, 2012
    Messages:
    867
    Have this issue--the boys will be headed to college in the fall and both of them have the "door closed--don't open" option. But when they were open lately, I saw inside. Yikes! So, we started a discussion about what they will be taking with them in the fall. Surprise! They have each begun their own decluttering and organizing. Fortunately/unfortunately we are moving out of this set of quaters within the 3 months so it is easy to set deadlines to set it aside.

    DD15 has begun complaining that she can't find anything. My answer is of course, "clean your room" but that only starts a fight. So I gave her the task of bringing down clothes and I washed them. As she helped fold them she had to get rid of any stained, torn or doesn't fit clothes...plus those that belong to other people. I have a stack of clothes for other kids. I wonder if she has a stack like this out there too.

    I have found that when I state my goals for my room/kitchen...to everyone, they start looking around and they pitch in on their end. So, maybe if you get your daughter to help you with a closet or something, she will go into her room and say to herself "I need to do something like this."

    Keep us posted. But pick your battle.
     
  11. Scrap4me

    Scrap4me Mouseketeer

    Joined:
    Sep 5, 2011
    Messages:
    205
    :goodvibes Thankfully, for some of us, small purge amounts means that we have been at it a long time! I am in my third year. I purge every week, but it is now at the point that I may only make a goodwill run once every 3 weeks.
    Then there are times when someone else in the house has decided to purge a large collection. For instance, this week my 22 year old son has decided to get rid of his entire Harry Potter collection! Huge for him!

    I managed to finally conquer and slay the beast called paperwork! Yeah!! Now to deal with it as soon as it comes in the door, never to darken the depths of my closet, or kitchen, or desk again!
    We are also purging (again) our game closet. We agreed last year to revisit the game situation at least once every 3 months..the goal is to get down to only 10 games and then a few card games...we are so close..

    Baby steps....Way to go everyone! :banana: We will all win this battle of clutter one item at a time!
     
  12. missx0xdelaney

    missx0xdelaney Mouseketeer

    Joined:
    Jan 28, 2012
    Messages:
    180
    Oh man, I would die! It might be counterproductive on my end, but you can tell him he can send it to me! :wizard:
     
  13. Jannephotog

    Jannephotog Mouseketeer

    Joined:
    Dec 20, 2012
    Messages:
    126
    Having fairly recently done this myself (lived away from home for 4.5 years for college & moved back in with my parents January 2010), I have to admit my room still doesn't look very great at this very moment. I'm in the process of going through things, but with so much going on in life, it seems that projects start and then stop and I maybe return to them a week later.

    I will say, however, as this has been my habit at home, when I moved away and had much smaller space to live in (shared a dorm room part of the time, had my own small bedroom in a shared apartment a few semesters), it was easier to take responsibility for my things. I couldn't take as much to school with me and in a space like that, it's easier to stay organized since, well, you kind of have to in order to function.

    That's not to say that I didn't go a semester just sleeping on a mattress pad instead of putting sheets on my bed, but hey, priorities! :cool1:

    I think once this girl and guys have their 'own' space, it may help them to be proud of their things and realize that once every so often 'oh yeah I really should probably clean that up'... all else fails, they'll atleast have to clean so they can do laundry and have clean underwear, right? :thumbsup2
     
  14. Scrap4me

    Scrap4me Mouseketeer

    Joined:
    Sep 5, 2011
    Messages:
    205
     
  15. talulabelle

    talulabelle DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Jul 25, 2007
    Messages:
    2,503
    I've been really hap-hazard about destashing. One thing from this room , one thing from another. Mostly because I don't have the time to focus on any one room at a time. As i get rid of one thing at a time - I keep telling myself it's progress. So I decided to try and concentrate on one room at a time and do a really good purge. I did my sons bedroom which has a large walkin closet, that we use mostly for storage since he doesnt need that much closet space and we have not basement or other place for storage. I am not quite done, but I hauled out 2 large garbage bags to the trash (I love that feeling when the bag gets carried out!) and it was a good accomplishment. I finished the walk in closet, but need to tackle the small closet he does use for his clothes and from the looks of it, he has been shoving just about everything else in there too. I need his help with this as I don't know what he still wants, but he has no problems parting with things (unlike me) so it should go well. It is already starting to look like a room again! There was so much stuff piled on chairs and just sort of forgotten. When I'm done I'm having hte room painted to really make it an inviting place. Then I will start on my room and walkin closet which will probably deservea thread of it's own it is so bad.
     
  16. Julia M

    Julia M DIS Veteran<br><font color =red>not clever, not wi

    Joined:
    Jun 10, 2000
    Messages:
    1,959
    Thanks for the support! :)

    I picked up dd from school and let her know I did her laundry. I also told her I organized her clothes a bit. Her radar went up, but everything stayed low key. When she got home, she was a bit perturbed, and I still kept it low key. I told her I was staging an intervention, because her room was like "Hoarders". That kind of threw her off, but I kept it funny and positive and no eruptions from her!!!!!! :cutie:

    She tried to tell me it was organized chaos and she knew where everything was, but there wasn't much enthusiasm in her voice.

    So, I went through all her drawers, folded everything, hung up everything, made a new section for skirts and pants and jackets and bought new hangers and threw away trash and basically just sorted through stuff.

    I turned her mattress, remade her bed put the shoes in the closet.

    Now, this morning, she had her clothes from yesterday on the floor (grr) but she did make her bed! So I am going to focus on the positive with her.....how nice her bed looked this morning.

    I am doing more decluttering in there as well.

    I will say, I am going through "stuff" and "junk". Anything that looks like it might be personal-cards from her boyfriend, etc, I am not touching. She has a busy afternoon and evening today, but tomorrow I plan to have her start going through the clothes. I know there will be some to give away and some are just worn.

    I know I will need a new plan after this week, when I'm back to work, on how to keep her going.

    I am thinking I need a plan that I give her lots of support at first, so she can learn what its like to be in a nice organized room and want to be like that. I think she's spent so long in chaos, this does feel weird. And then start to keep it on her own.

    Anyway, off to do a little more (and pick up my room as well!)

    Julia
     
  17. beaucoup

    beaucoup DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Oct 6, 2010
    Messages:
    2,431
    Boards games and multiple cameras not touched years.
     
  18. GaSleepingBeautyFan

    GaSleepingBeautyFan DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Aug 12, 2007
    Messages:
    8,153
    My DD13 just gave me a garbage bag full of Polly Pocket stuff and told me I could get rid of it.

    Hmmm - need to research and see if it's worth splitting up and putting on ebay or on Craig's List.
     
  19. momof2gr8kids

    momof2gr8kids DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Nov 17, 2009
    Messages:
    705
    DH is really loving me piling up stuff for him each day to load in the van. LOL

    One thing I've noticed during my destashing is all the crap I have around that my mom gave me. If I could just get her to stop bringing stuff here when she declutters, I'd be waaaay ahead.

    Not sure if any of your parents are the same, but my mom actually gets insulted if I don't get super excited about some junk she brings over. :lmao: I have an old coat of hers that I didn't have the heart to get rid of, and she was so excited seeing it in my closet thinking I was now wearing it .... LOL
    Thing is, if she asks to use something or have something back again in 10 years and I've gotten rid of it, I will never hear the end of it. :rolleyes:
     
  20. Mouse7116

    Mouse7116 Earning My Ears

    Joined:
    May 29, 2007
    Messages:
    72
    Would you mind sharing the titles of the books? I am always looking for inspiration!

    I would love to say that we've been making headway here, but our new DS decided to make his appearance early and we're still working on finding the right routine for our family.

    We have gotten rid off all the cardboard and I have priced two tubs of items that I had pulled a while ago for garage sales this spring. I also remembered to gather up all the rest of the Christmas stuff (movies and small things that never seem to make it into the Christmas tubs once the season is over) and it has been put with the rest of the decorations. Cleared off 2/3 of the dressing table in the bathroom (now debating if I should start on the bathroom closet before tackling the rest of that since most of that will need to go in the closet or just cram the stuff in the closet and hit the closet later). Took out a bag of trash yesterday, but overall not as much as I hoped to get done.
     
  21. sherry7

    sherry7 DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Apr 29, 2001
    Messages:
    2,320
    I haven't posted for a few weeks. We recently had oak floors put in all through the house, so I'm still unpacking everything that we had to pack up in order to get that done (bottoms of closets, stuff sitting on furniture, knick knacks, etc). I did do some purging as I packed when we had the downstairs floors done last month. However, when it was time to pack up the upstairs last week, I was sick with the bronchitis, so DH did it. Let's just say that he wasn't very organized in his method of packing. :rolleyes: So, I'm sorting through stuff as I slowly get it unpacked.

    I ended up taking a vacation day from work today, because I overslept. DH was off work too, and we dropped off DD at daycare so we could get some stuff done in the basement without distraction. Oh my gosh, we really got rid of a lot. He already took a pickup truck load to Goodwill, and he has another load to take tomorrow. In addition to the donations, we threw out 4 big trash bags of papers, old magazines, some items that had mildewed, etc. My garbage man is probably starting to dread coming to my house. Last week he had to pick up an entire house full of old carpet and carpet padding, and this week I have a gazillion bags on the curb.

    Sadly, my basement is so packed, that we barely made a dent today. But, it's a start. I'm starting to realize that 90% of the stuff down there isn't needed, or necessarily wanted. I'm facing a possible job transfer later this year, which will also involve moving...and I don't want to move this junk with me!
     

Share This Page