ilovemk76
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- Oct 20, 2010
What is their custody/visitation agreement?
If it is their agreement that he is to have the children on the weekends, then it is his responsibility to find childcare if he has to work or makes alternate plans.
If they have no custody/visitation agreement, then they need to get one so that they can make definite plans as to what they are going to do on weekends.
The way I see it, you shouldn't be involved in this at all. They are your son's kids and his responsibility to find childcare if he is unable to pick them up.
If it's your son's scheduled time with his girls, I would think if something comes up, he would need to have the back up plan, not the mom.
He's responsible for them on weekends I'm guessing since you said either he or you take them?
If for some reason(work) he can't take them, and his back up plan(you) can't take them because you have another engagement, I would expect him to find another back up plan, especially since he knew you'd be busy with your daughter 2-3 months.
You say your son is with his daughter "every moment he is off work..." but you also say:
He works M - F out of town.
He has worked every Saturday, as well.
He has worked one Sunday, too.
He goes to a wrestling show on Saturday nights for a few hours.
I'm guessing the DIL feels like your son isn't spending much time with the girls.
I assume she is mad at you by proxy since she has to make arrangements for the care of the girls through you because you are around more than your son.
Why are you involved? This should be between the two of them.
Well, it makes money so there is that. And I can't really fault him too much on it. I mean, its the one and only thing he does that isn't work or kids. I think most of us spend more than 2 hours a week away from our kids. And he isn't watching it, he is a wrestler.
This is the same son that could not afford to live with his family in their own place. Now that the wife is gone he gets a great job. I hope he is paying support for those two girls.
As others have said, he has more than 2 hours to himself. Don't you see how this type of behavior may have been a direct cause of the split?
You need to get out of the life of your sons. Two sons and both of them you had drama with the DIL. The other one is now divorced and this could end up that way too.
Guess he wasn't disappointed enough to miss the wrestling show... I would be seriously peed-off if I was your DIL. He needs to find an apt where its suitable for the kids to be there on the weekends or weekdays if need be or a different job where he CAN take care of his kids and not just with money..
If I were the daughter in law, I would file for sole custody and ask for child support. Maybe this fantastic job could at least help support the children if dad can't seem to make time to see them.
Me too.