NHdisneylover
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- Feb 26, 2007
Honestly? I'm looking forward to a little distance.
Does it happen that you currently have teenagers?
Honestly? I'm looking forward to a little distance.
Does it happen that you currently have teenagers?
Honestly? I'm looking forward to a little distance.
If both of my kids end up within 3 or 4 hours from me, I would be thrilled. It's a big country and they could end up so much farther away.
I don't mean to be snarky, but I really hope neither of my kids marry into a family with those kinds of expectations. I want to them to be able to make their own family where it is best for them.
Simple question that I am currently dealing with.
If your kids decided to move away from home at an appropriate age would you consider them ungrateful? If they were moving to a different city/state/country would you consider them to be even more ungrateful?
My question comes as a Hispanic male son who is considering moving from Miami to Orlando. I however am getting all sorts of guilt trips from my Hispanic mom. The reason is that the mentality from a Hispanic is your kids live with you till they get married, they then move out but live no more than 10 miles from you and weekends are always spent together.
I only have one so you can be darn certain that if she moved away I would move someplace near her--- I would not want to be a grandparent that only saw the grandkids 2-3 times a year, that would not make me happy at all.
Hahahahaha! I had the audacity to not only move out of our small town, I moved like four "towns" away. Then, after 10 years, I moved away further.
I am now a whopping 45 minutes away from my family. We're all STILL IN LOS ANGELES PROPER.
You'd think that would make me relate to the OP? You're nuts. I'm the one that moved away. I'm the one who divided the family and it will FOREVER be my fault that Christmas and Thanksgiving is ruined. Either I have to drive all the way there, or they have to make the horrid trek out to my house and there is no way now for us all to be together Christmas Eve and Christmas Day THE SAME YEAR.
And we're not even hispanic or religious.
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You raise your kids to be independent adults, but when they finally leave the nest, it's hard to let go.
Many parents want their children to go to a certain school, usually one close to home. So in that regard, Alex Collins' mother isn't that different.
But Collins' mother might be the first to steal her son's national letter of intent, then run away and hide so her son couldn't fax in his official papers.
Collins is a Rivals.com four-star running back from Plantation, Fla., and he wanted to attend Arkansas. His mother wanted him to stay close to home. Collins didn't change his mind, but his mother reportedly went to extreme measures to keep him from making it official.
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"His mother has confiscated the papers, she took them and she ran," Long said on ESPNU. "Theyre looking for her currently. From what I understand Alex is not at the school right now, hes looking for his mom. She was quite torn up about him leaving so far from home."
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http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/ncaaf...-letter-intent-fax-goes-175746886--ncaaf.html
Can't help myself but to wonder if this is one of the extreme cases of not letting go or she just simply hates that team?
I expect my kids will move away and no, I don't consider them ungrateful. My sophomore in college is already hoping not to come home for more than visits anymore. I think that is pretty normal. We've told him his room will be available to him, but if he can support himself living elsewhere and still have money to contribute to college we'll give him emotional support.
I moved away from my parents, my parents moved away from theirs. To us, it's the norm.
I'd consider my job well done that my child can strike out on his own in a new place. No disrespect to your mom, but it pains me to see anyone held back from an opportunity or their wishes because their parents can't cut the chord and are thinking only about themselves.