I'm back from WDW! DH and I went to V&A on 7/27 and sat in the regular dining room. I did wear some nice strappy evening sandals which were fine and DH did not wear a tie but was in a suit. I saw people less dressed up than we were though (men still had jackets of course). It was chilly in the dining room and I'm glad I brought a big scarf to use as a shawl. Several ladies were given the 'house' shawls to wear.
The service was top notch. Everyone was attentive and very, very nice. They made us feel comfortable and while they were there when we needed them, they were not intrusive at all.
The food was fabulous. We did not upcharge to anything extra and I'm glad we didn't. The food was great and it was nice to try different things (like lamb and rabbit) without paying extra for a steak. We did the wine pairing and it was great! It was great to try wines specifically matched to the dishes.
I was stuffed by the entrees even though I was making DH eat half my food and sending back some of the bread (I tried to eat less than half of each serving so I didn't fill up - but I filled up anyway!) So by the entree, I ate two bites and they wrapped it up for me. I actually ordered the cheese plate and DH got the white gelato for the next course but I was so stuffed, I couldn't eat the cheese plate! I had half the white chocolate gelato. Then dessert came and I tried bites of each of ours to taste it. It was actually my least favorite course
DH got the creme brulee and I was disappointed. It tasted like any old creme brulee and wasn't served hot (I don't like it as well served cold). My chocolate soufle was better but it didn't wow me as much as I thought it would. But, by this time, my medicine might have worn off. I got sick, REALLY sick, at Disney with a nasty cold and I was stuffed up. In fact, I still am! That's another story. So they packed up the chocolates for us as well. We ate my leftover lamb and the chocolates the next day.
We did order coffee (YUM!) and bailey's on the rocks for both of us at dessert time. They did not charge us any extra for those items. I thought they would but I guess that was included as well??
We did use TIW and that was really great - $80 off!! The dinner was expensive but totally worth it. We really enjoyed it. Thanks to everyone on this thread that answered all my questions before hand. It made the experience much better and easier on us.