Your Thoughts on Vow Renewals!

[Aimeedyan]

All this Disney Wedding talk has brought up vow renewals for me... and I would love to hear what you HONESTLY think of them - and at what point in the marriage you think they are appropriate.

Like, how many years should a couple be married before doing such a thing? I would laugh at someone who did it at 2 or 3 years, because I don't consider that much of an accomplishment... you know? Unless the couple recently went through a major event and wanted it as a time of recommitment, like illness or seperation.

Is 10 years a good point? 15? 20?

Have you ever attended one? What was it like? Did you have one? Willing to share details?


If I want to do a vow renewal at WDW at 10 years, I'm gonna have to start saving now... LOL. Would be beautiful, though!

 

[Toby'sFriend]

I honestly can't think of a time when I feel they would be inappropriate.

I've never attended one.

 

[Pooh67_68]

I think when ever the couple wants to do it, after all it is their busniess.

I have never been to one so I don't know what they are like, but I have heard that some people have a big to do, just like their wedding.

I am planing our renewals for our 20th in 2006. Nothing fancy just a small ceremony, even smaller than our wedding.

Edited to add: I read an article one time about a couple who renewed every year and in a different state each time. They were on their 15th and that was in Hawaii.

 

[RachelEllen]

Seems like a personal choice. In my case, there are so many great, long married role models in my family, that I'd feel silly doing one for many years. My grandparents had one at 50, though, and I thought that was lovely. In general, they make sense to me from people married a long time who can include members of their family from subsequent generations. They make less sense when they occur earlier because they can seem like an attempt for 'wedding, take 2'

Rachel

 

[monkeyboy]

I have been to them for 10, 20 and 25 years

 

[SnoWhite]

My DH and I would love to have a vow renewal at WDW on our 10 year anniversary. (we've got about 9 3/4 years to go!)
I have been to one before and it was beautiful. I think that whenever you feel it's appropraite for you is when you should do it!

Lisa

 

[liznboys]

I've never been to one, but I think they are very cool! Anytime would be fine IMO, but for me, I wouldn't want to do it before 10 years. We're at 6 years now.

 

[mickeyboat]

My parents recewed their vows at 25 years - at my wedding! It was very special.... Two years later they were divorced.

Because of that DH refuses to ever renew our vows. He thinks it is bad luck. He said what he meant the first time and doesn't need to say it again.

I on the other hand, think it is really nice.

Denae

 

[jkovick]

DH & I will celebrate our 10th Anniversary in January of 2005. We are going to have a very informal vow renewal on the beach with just our parents & my brother, sister in law & neice & nephew. Later that week we are going on a 3 day cruise on the Wonder.

 

[DMickey28]

I am having so much fun planning my wedding that I can't wait to do it again and that should/won't happen so I decided that I want to have a vow renewal every five years in all different locations first WDW.....

 

[avdeane]

I agree that it is a personal choice and should be done when the couple feels it is most appropriate for them. I have only been to one renewal although I thought it was inappropriate. It was my cousin and her husband that were renewing their vows. They had gotten married by a justice of the peace and a few years down the road they wanted a wedding. Not a problem except that her younger sister was also planning a wedding so it ended up being turned into a double wedding since my aunt didn't have much money. I think the married cousin should have let her sister have her wedding and planned on the renewal at another time. Not to mention since they knew my aunt wasn't financially stable (recent widow) they should have paid for their renewal if they wanted it so badly. As a sidebar, both couples are now divorced.


I'm hoping to have a renewal of my vows so that I may have all of my children there with me. When I married my DH, were we married in IN, My youngest two children were with their father at the time and couldn't be included (long story). There are some other family members who wished they could have attended too, so it would be nice to have them there as well.

 

[scarlett873]

i think it's a personal decision as to when you feel it's right for a vow renewal.

dh and i originally said that we'd do something each year...not a big blown out affair, but just something that was special for us. we kind of did something for our 1 year...we've decided to do something "big" about every 5 years. for our 5 year anniversary, we want to do a disney vow renewal. we'll probably do something every 5 years...it's important to us and that's all that matters!

 

[Tiggerlover91]

I think a couple should do a vow renewal whenever they feel it's important to them. DH and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary in Disney and in 2 years we are going to be celebrating our 15th there. We are also renewing our vows in a small ceremony on the beach here in Pensacola for our 15th. I never got to have the wedding I wanted and now I am and I can't wait.
I have never been to one, and it seems like mine will be the first one I attend.
I thought about renewing our vows in Disney, but the cost is just way out of my league and so many more can come by DH and I having it right here on one of our beautiful beaches.
I'm just happy to say that I've been married as long as I have....it's exciting and I can't wait to hit the 25 year mark! Will be going to Disney once again and doing with a big bang!

 

[dizneenut]

Another who thinks it is a personal decision. We are planning on renewing ours next year for our 15th.
We recently went to our friends renewal...it was their 25th.

 

[Kallison]

AT our church they do it every Valentine's Day for anyone who wants to participate. They call you up at 5 years, 10 years, etc. The joke between DH and I is that everyone who is a regular participant gets divorced including both our Pastors. So we don't do it. In fact my assoc. Pastor asked us at a picnic and we both went emphatically at the same time NO.

 

[dianeschlicht]

We renewed our vows at a special Mass on our 25th Anniversary. Last year for our 35th, we did the silly route and had a "rehitching" ceremony at Garder Grill at WDW!

 

[Jeafl]

Last July, DH and I flew out to Las Vegas to attend my aunt & uncle's vow renewal ceremony. They did it on their 37th anniversary (for no particular reason), and the best part is that it was done at the Graceland Wedding Chapel by an Elvis impersonator. I was the "flower girl" if you can imagine such a thing, because I cried at their first wedding when I wasn't chosen to be a flower girl and my older sister was.

I can honestly say it was the most beautiful and touching ceremony. I thought it was going to be one big joke, but "Elvis" was really wonderful, and he sang three songs to them during the ceremony. I was really impressed. I felt a little silly at first throwing rose petals down the aisle, but I still had a blast.