Your First Love

[Colleen27]

Oh, I feel for her. My first love was a fabulous experience, we ended on relatively good terms, and it still hurt like hell. We were together more or less from middle school through high school graduation. He had a tough homelife and moved away after our freshman year so I did date other people at times when we had drifted apart, but we got back together as soon as I started driving and by the time I was getting ready to head off to college the relationship was serious enough that we were talking marriage. But our directions in life were just too different, and ultimately we decided there was no future for us together. We're still friends, he was the one who introduced me to my DH, and my kids call him "uncle", but I'd be lying if I said my heart didn't still skip a beat once in a while when we're together. Not that I'd ever act on it - the reasons we split are even more true today then they were when we were 18/19 - but sometimes the memories are just that close to the surface.

I agree with the posters who recommend watching your DD closely. I didn't isolate myself when G and I split up - I did just the opposite and got involved in an absolutely disastrous rebound relationship in an attempt to prove to myself that there was someone else out there for me. Stupid, stupid, stupid.

 

[Katy Belle]

My first love, we were together about 7 months. He was a bad boy, I was a good girl, we had GREAT fun! lol! He was a big time lier and far from trust worthy. As much as I loved him I knew I couldn't stay with him. I broke it off, but it was sooo painful. He tried to get me back, brought gifts at Valentines Day, attended school dances (which he never did before) to get a chance to dance with me. His friends lobbied for me to take him back.

The whole thing was excruciating. Seriously. I started dating someone else...he punched him in the nose during lunch! Painful for all of us. Finally, he let go and moved on. He started dating a girl from anther town. He brought me a photo of her, she looked just like me! She got pregnant, he dropped out of school. I see his name occasionally in my mom's newspaper, drug charges. I don't regret the relationship, but I'm thankful I had the smarts to move on!