You gotta give her points for trying..

[kimblebee]

My daughter is turning 16 in a few weeks and has been having a hard time deciding what to do in terms of a party. Sweet 16 isn't a thing up here so she had almost settled on having a few friends over for pizza, movies, and a sleepover.

Last night she asked me if, for her party, I would rent a hotel room for her and her friends.

Five 15-16 year old girls, most of whom have boyfriends, unsupervised, roaming around a hotel..what could go wrong?

I told her she was dreaming and that there was no chance of that happening.

I do admire her guts for asking LOL

 

[gwynne]

My daughter is turning 16 in a few weeks and has been having a hard time deciding what to do in terms of a party. Sweet 16 isn't a thing up here so she had almost settled on having a few friends over for pizza, movies, and a sleepover.

Last night she asked me if, for her party, I would rent a hotel room for her and her friends.

Five 15-16 year old girls, most of whom have boyfriends, unsupervised, roaming around a hotel..what could go wrong?

I told her she was dreaming and that there was no chance of that happening.

I do admire her guts for asking LOL

Too funny!

 

[cluvsdisney]

One of my friends had her daughter's party in a hotel recently..they were a little younger so they weren't completely unsupervised but they had fun doing sleepover things in a hotel room. It's nicer than sleeping on the floor and it's a big deal to stay in a hotel when you're a kid.

 

[Poohlove]

There is a girl in my daughter's class who did that. Her mom got 2 rooms at a local hotel and they had a party there. The boys had to leave by a certain time. Even more shocking to me was the number of girls allowed to go. My daughter was invited but had no interest in going - not that there was another option. My answer would have been a resounding NO.

 

[kimblebee]

One of my friends had her daughter's party in a hotel recently..they were a little younger so they weren't completely unsupervised but they had fun doing sleepover things in a hotel room. It's nicer than sleeping on the floor and it's a big deal to stay in a hotel when you're a kid.

I totally agree. When she turned 13 I rented a room and she had her best friend sleep over. We ate at the restaurant and went swimming. They wanted me to leave for a while so they could girl talk so I wandered down to the gaming lounge for an hour or two. I played VLTs for a while and ended up winning enough to cover the weekend

 

[Pixiedustaway]

Hahaha. That's something my girls.would.try. and then be mad as.to.why wouldn't allow.it.

 

[L&Lfan]

A disaster waiting to happen. Thanks for being a wise parent.

 

[kimblebee]

A disaster waiting to happen. Thanks for being a wise parent.

I'm a pretty free range mom but even I have limits LOL

 

[~PixieTink~]

Things don't change over time. My daughter turned 16 way back in 1996 and her birthday is during the Summer months. She also likes nature a lot so she asked me and her dad if we could get 3 Deluxe Cabins at the nearest State Park which is a 45 minute drive away for a birthday weekend in the woods with her girlfriends. Just like you she and most of her girlfriends had boyfriends and I just imagined they'd be making a visit. This was also to be unsupervised.It didn't take but about 5 seconds for dad and I to say NO. She had a sleepover party with her girlfriends and the boyfriends were even invited for the food and early festivities, but had to be gone by 10 p.m. I think it was.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

When I first read this I thought "hey that's not a bad idea" since some coworkers have done that for their DD's, especially at hotels with a pool. I didn't realize your DD wanted you to LEAVE.

She gets an A for effort.

 

[mombrontrent]

My daughter would absolutely try that as well. I'm also pretty easy going but there is no way I'd let that happen because I would not want to be responsible for any damages or noise complaints but I'd let the party happen at my house while I was home

 

[mi*vida*loca]

I'm a pretty free range mom but even I have limits LOL

Me too and I can see my DD trying something like this to but knowing full well, deep down inside, that I would say no. Even at 10 she tries things and I can see her smirking because she just knows the answer will be no.

 

[kimblebee]

My daughter would absolutely try that as well. I'm also pretty easy going but there is no way I'd let that happen because I would not want to be responsible for any damages or noise complaints but I'd let the party happen at my house while I was home

That was my second thought. If it was just my daughter, I'd do it because she's responsible and I totally trust her. It's the friends I don't know about. And, like you, I wouldn't want to be responsible for broken lamps or anything else.

 

[mombrontrent]

That was my second thought. If it was just my daughter, I'd do it because she's responsible and I totally trust her. It's the friends I don't know about. And, like you, I wouldn't want to be responsible for broken lamps or anything else.

Yeah I would totally trust my daughter on her own as well but not when she is with her friends! Personally it's not the boyfriends that would bother me it's the fact that I'd know they would be making a lot of noise and partying and the place would be trashed, I know my kids and while they are good kids most of the time they are also teenagers that like to have a good time!

 

[mombrontrent]

But I would let the party happen at my house and I'd even let the boys sleep over if they were allowed to, I wouldn't actually be "supervising" but I'd be home and I find that most kids are respectful in someone else's home especially if there parents are home. My teens have friends over all the time and never make big messes, maybe some dishes or garbage if left behind but nothing that takes more than a couple minutes to clean up, at a hotel I don't feel they would respect the area the same way.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

When I first read this I thought "hey that's not a bad idea" since some coworkers have done that for their DD's, especially at hotels with a pool. I didn't realize your DD wanted you to LEAVE.

She gets an A for effort.

Same, my DD turns 16 in a couple weeks & DW is dreading the party. Our basement is full of clutter, so the kids are taking over the living/kitchen/dining area & we'll be kind of trapped in our bedroom all day. Going off-site doesn't sound so bad, but .....

 

[Micca]

we'll be kind of trapped in our bedroom all day.

Hmmm...what on earth could you do to pass the time? Really, you must, then in a few years you say to her "Remember your 16th birthday party...?"

Yeah that hotel room thing is a no go. Even if it was supervised, you've got noise issues, smuggled intoxicants, property damage, etc. Risky for the kids, too much responsibility for the adults.

 

[mnrose]

Sure. Sounds like a FABULOUS idea. LOL.

I would go for it, maybe, IF I was going to be right next door, or better yet, in a shared "suite" of rooms.

 

[TheIncredibles!]

I'd tell her yes but not tell her it's a connecting room with you in the other room

 

[RedAngie]

I told her she was dreaming and that there was no chance of that happening.

I do admire her guts for asking LOL

Perhaps you should have played along for a few days, leading her to believe that you were considering the idea, and letting her get her hopes up. Then when she's convinced it's a fait accompli, slam the door in her face.

I'm an evil mom.