yet more from your resident drama queen

[dg39]

You really have 2 choices here. Either you acknowledge the gift from your dad with either a call or a card or you ignore it. If you want to make amends and forget the past and possibly have a new relationship with him you'll do the first. If you want nothing to do with him, you won't acknowledge the fact that he did send you a birthday gift. Perhaps this was his way of trying to find out if you want him in your life again. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

 

[VSL]

If today is your birthday, why were we all consoling you last week about your Mom not making your day special???????

Yeah, I thought it was last week too

 

[florida-again]

Yeah, I thought it was last week too

I went home to celebrate my birthday with my family last week, my actual birthday (which I celebrated with my friends) was yesterday. I think I said that somewhere in another thread

 

[Quackmore]

I went home to celebrate my birthday with my family last week, my actual birthday (which I celebrated with my friends) was yesterday. I think I said that somewhere in another thread

Don't you just love how some of the DIS members are so loving???? We are just one big happy family aren't we?

 

[florida-again]

Yeah, I thought it was last week too

If you re-read my post you'll see that I never once said it was my birthday! I just said I was having a bad day and was at home in order to celebrate my birthday.

ETA: I quoted to the wrong post! OOppps...but you get what I mean! I'm not sure how to change it I'm afraid.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

well I don't think you can blame people for being confused.
I mean on the 3rd you posted...

Will I regret not getting a sentimental gift?
My 21st is next week and my mum really wanted to get my something to keep, a nice piece of jewelry or a watch.
However, I have some nice jewelry already from my 18th bday and I don't really need any more, I can only wear so much at one time!

I've asked instead for a spa day with my best friend and some winter boots.

My mum seems a bit disappointed that I don't want something sentimental....do you think I'll regret it one day if I don't get something like that? I'm just so much more into practical gifts than 'pretties'

and then on the 8th (which was the next week we all thought you were talking about --- Mom apparently had forgotten all about making your birthday special and hadn't done anything....but since she apparently had a full week left to shop maybe she had just gotten around to it....and your mean old stepfather told you to be happy for the gifts you get when you get them which sounds amazingly like something I told a pouty 6 year old in my house one Christmas when his pile of gifts apparently wasn't high enough. But alas, you settled just with a huge threat to JUST LEAVE AND GO BACK TO COLLEGE!

I just want to FORGET my birthday - seriously miserable (long but I need hugs...)
yes yes...there is always some drama in my life, but I'm seriously upset now...

I've come home from college for my 21st and I wish I'd stayed there. I am often overlooked at home as the 'quiet' one, over two very demanding sisters.
But silly me I thought my 21st might be just a bit special...how wrong I was.

I asked my mum for something for my bday, but she made no secret about the fact she hasn't even looked into it, she said if I really wanted it I could pay for it myself and she'd pay me back.

My step-dad just told me 'you'll get whatever we want to buy you and be grateful for it' (they want to buy me jewlery but I really don't want any, it's just not my taste)

and now on the 14th we find out it is STILL your Birthday and now you are upset that your Father had the nerve to surprise you with flowers.

whew, I'm glad I'm not a Drama Queen, which is your self-appointed title. That has to be exhausting -- dealing with birthday angst lasting the whole month.

 

[florida-again]

Nope, I don't blame people for being confused. It just happened that the thread I posted on the 3rd was posted then because I had been discussing it with my family that day!

On the 8th I was home to celebrate my birthday (because I had a study week off of lectures)

And the 14th was my birthday!

On the 8th I was just having a bad day. I feel dumb for making such a big deal out of it, just sometimes my family and I don't see eye to eye, I'd say that's pretty standard, we all have those days (YES, I have more of them than most people). I logged on today to tell everyone what a good birthday it turned out to be both with my friends and family.

The thing with my dad is a huge on-going part of my life. I just wasn't sure what to do about the flowers (and I'm still not...)

I call myself a 'drama queen' as a joke, because I've given people that impression. Actually I'm the most down-to-earth, if not BORING person ever, whatever the opposite of drama queen is, that describes me! NOT THAT I CAN'T UNDERSTAND WHY PEOPLE ON HERE THINK I'VE COME ACROSS AS A DRAMA QUEEN, I ONLY POST THE INTERESTING STUFF! THERE JUST HAPPENS TO HAVE BEEN A LOT OF IT LATELY!

But I'm seriously never going to get the hang of posting on here without seeming a drama queen!!!! I'm am trying though, but every time I do, I have new drama to post...it's just been 'one of those months'......

 

[luvdzny]

I have to agree with Toby's friend, it was hard to figure out when your birthday actually is or was! I know these problems may seem big to you right now, but they are really quite minor. I would call your father and thank him for the flowers and see how it goes.

 

[florida-again]

You really have 2 choices here. Either you acknowledge the gift from your dad with either a call or a card or you ignore it. If you want to make amends and forget the past and possibly have a new relationship with him you'll do the first. If you want nothing to do with him, you won't acknowledge the fact that he did send you a birthday gift. Perhaps this was his way of trying to find out if you want him in your life again. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

I think I'll send him a note. I'm reluctant to call because I know that he might upset me over the phone and I don't really want to set myself up for a kick in the teeth...if you see what I mean.

But I think a note would be good! Thanks!

 

[inaminute]

he might upset me over the phone and I don't really want to set myself up for a kick in the teeth...

If I'm understanding this, you are telling us that your father set you up by sending flowers on your birthday just so when you call he can cut you down.



Your father really has nothing better to do than make you feel bad? Just like your mother, your younger sisters, your stepfather, and your stepmother. It seems your entire family goes out of their way to make you sad.

Poor thing.

 

[CheshireVal]

 

[coolmom99]

Maybe you should be posting on the teen board? This seems more in line with discussions that would be taking place over there.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

ok whatever - but personally when I think of Soap Opera Drama Queen I think of something like

While at the hospital for a consultation on her upcoming surgery where she will be donating a kidney to the woman amnesiac who mysteriously appeared in the Hospital waiting room one dark and stormy night, rumoured to be a long lost sister seperated from her family after the Live In Nanny stole a baby from the bassinet and ran off to live with her Lesbian Lover of the past 12 years, a blood test suddenly reveals that Erica is pregnant! Who is the Father, her 6th husband currently on a secret CIA assignment in the Amazon Jungle, or the dark and mysterious one night stand that she encountered while drowning her sorrows concerning a failed Internet business which has left her $23,000 in debt and no way to pay the Balloon mortgage payment soon to be due on the Family Mansion at a local biker bar?
----

this was a birthday.

 

[florida-again]

ok whatever - but personally when I think of Soap Opera Drama Queen I think of something like

While at the hospital for a consultation on her upcoming surgery where she will be donating a kidney to the woman amnesiac who mysteriously appeared in the Hospital waiting room one dark and stormy night, rumoured to be a long lost sister seperated from her family after the Live In Nanny stole a baby from the bassinet and ran off to live with her Lesbian Lover of the past 12 years, a blood test suddenly reveals that Erica is pregnant! Who is the Father, her 6th husband currently on a secret CIA assignment in the Amazon Jungle, or the dark and mysterious one night stand that she encountered while drowning her sorrows concerning a failed Internet business which has left her $23,000 in debt and no way to pay the Balloon mortgage payment soon to be due on the Family Mansion at a local biker bar?
----



this was a birthday.

Exactly! It's just a joke

 

[florida-again]

ok whatever - but personally when I think of Soap Opera Drama Queen I think of something like

While at the hospital for a consultation on her upcoming surgery where she will be donating a kidney to the woman amnesiac who mysteriously appeared in the Hospital waiting room one dark and stormy night, rumoured to be a long lost sister seperated from her family after the Live In Nanny stole a baby from the bassinet and ran off to live with her Lesbian Lover of the past 12 years, a blood test suddenly reveals that Erica is pregnant! Who is the Father, her 6th husband currently on a secret CIA assignment in the Amazon Jungle, or the dark and mysterious one night stand that she encountered while drowning her sorrows concerning a failed Internet business which has left her $23,000 in debt and no way to pay the Balloon mortgage payment soon to be due on the Family Mansion at a local biker bar?
----



this was a birthday.

Exactly! It's just a joke, cos I know that while numerous, my 'problems' are pretty moderate! I'm hoping that once the 'dad' issue is dealt with I'll be posting nothing but laundry questions and quizes!

 

[Quackmore]

ok whatever - but personally when I think of Soap Opera Drama Queen I think of something like

While at the hospital for a consultation on her upcoming surgery where she will be donating a kidney to the woman amnesiac who mysteriously appeared in the Hospital waiting room one dark and stormy night, rumoured to be a long lost sister seperated from her family after the Live In Nanny stole a baby from the bassinet and ran off to live with her Lesbian Lover of the past 12 years, a blood test suddenly reveals that Erica is pregnant! Who is the Father, her 6th husband currently on a secret CIA assignment in the Amazon Jungle, or the dark and mysterious one night stand that she encountered while drowning her sorrows concerning a failed Internet business which has left her $23,000 in debt and no way to pay the Balloon mortgage payment soon to be due on the Family Mansion at a local biker bar
----

this was a birthday.

Why can't you ease up and just let it go. Jeeeeesusssss!!!!!!

 

[florida-again]

If I'm understanding this, you are telling us that your father set you up by sending flowers on your birthday just so when you call he can cut you down.



Your father really has nothing better to do than make you feel bad? Just like your mother, your younger sisters, your stepfather, and your stepmother. It seems your entire family goes out of their way to make you sad.

Poor thing.

No! I'm sorry I came across like that. I was just having a bad day at home when I posted the thread about my bday gifts, I was sad, needed to vent. But maybe I shouldn't have.

With my dad, every other time I've called him he's ended up upsetting me, that's why I'm reluctant to call him this time.

I seriously need to be clearer when I post...I think I'm getting a bad name for myself.

Like I said in my last post, nothing but laundry and quiz questions from here on out.....

 

[mickeyfan2]

Chicago, I think you are very wise.
In case anyone think's I'm being selfish and unforgiving, my dad has been VERY bad to me and I've been very GOOD too him!

But it seems from all of your posts that everybody is VERY bad to you. Sorry this is how I see it. I also thought last week was your 21st birthday. So which is it? I'm not trying to be mean, just .

 

[florida-again]

But it seems from all of your posts that everybody is VERY bad to you. Sorry this is how I see it. I also thought last week was your 21st birthday. So which is it? I'm not trying to be mean, just .

Yeah, I guess it did come across that way! But as I said before, I really didn't mean to seem that way about my family (apart from my dad!). I had a bad few days at home last week. Sometimes I do feel a bit 'ignored' at home, but I know that a lot of my college friends are having the same problem when they go home to visit. I guess it must be part of the transition from someone's 'child' to someone's 'adult child'.

And I have a lot of birthdays (just kidding, it was yesterday!)

 

[AdventurerKat]

I was having a great time, until a big bunch of flowers were delivered to my door....

turned out to be from my father, who has not spoken to me for a year.
He married a VERY dominating woman who didn't like how similar I was to my mum, or that my dad helped my out financially in college. So one day the money and the contact stopped, and I haven't heard from him since! What's strange is that we had such a normal relationship before he met her.

So let me get this straight. He has not spoken to you for a year yet...

He had a heart-attack recently and I rushed to his bedsite despite everything that has happened. I missed college lectures and cancelled plans with my friends. I visited all day, every day (and was the only person who was so dedicated to him while he was ill!) even though he had basically broken my heart. Yet I haven't heard from him since he came out of hospital (at which point I went back to college many miles from home) I tried to contact him, but he wouldn't answer the phone to me.

Let me guess, he didn't talk to you that entire time he was in the hospital and you visited him all day, every day.

You do seem to have quite a bit of drama in your life, and it appears you create most of it yourself.