The scale is definitely tipping towards Dolphin right now!
It may be that the shows are too late anyway for him being that his bedtime in the summer is before it's completely dark but yes great idea about trying out slowly and see if he can handle it. And the ear noise reducers! At age 4 was it ridiculously hard or did you take it slower? When me and my wife went all those years we would be go go go from morning till night but we are fully aware it's going to be a much slower pace this time around.
We have learned a lot of new things about our daughter when we first went. For example, she did not like dark rides AT ALL (probably the only exception was It's a small world and many of the disney rides are dark rides!) and LOVED characters (she used to cry when she sees the characters - rolling eyes). So we had to re-do all FP+ selections after the first day. It was crazy!
We have a 'I am horrified' picture of her riding Frozen at Epcot. It was hilarious.
Then when we went back when she was just before 4, she was super into Aurora, so we had to go to Epcot and meet her 3 times. This time, she started liking the rides.
When we went again at close to 5, she was all about the rides!
All three times, she enjoyed the parade a lot and some of the shows - like the musicals, the Lion King, Enchanted taels with Belle, and even the street dancing - I am not sure if they are all available.
She did not enjoy dark theatre type of rides, except the carousel of progress (we were like serious? LOL) AND one of her favourites were Tiki room!! (except for the thurnder part, but I think all the birds and trees seem very cool to her.)
Some interactive rides - Toy Story Mania or Buzzlightyear were kind of 'meh' for her, as she didn't really understand 'aim and shoot' or it was too fast for her.
We did not take it slow at all. We were there for the rope drop almost all the time (we decided waking up earlier and not having to wait in line is better than getting there later and dealing with crowds) and started the day early. This case, we were able to find out which one she liked and which she didn't, and we are thankful that we didn't wait for like 2 hours for something she didn't like.
For example, she did not like Peter Pan ride at all for the first 2 times (so when she was 3 and 4), but that was the first ride we did when we got to MK, so we knew not to line up again for it. (she finally liked it when she was 5.)
Although she dropped her naps around 2.5 years old, she was tired at the DIsney. So she had naps in her stroller, which she prefers anyways over her bed - and that was our 'quiet' and 'older kids rides' time. Sometimes she naps 3 hours or 2 naps, so it worked okay for her to stay a bit longer at the park. If I remember correctly, we stayed AK until like 7-8, DHS until 8 -9, MK until 10 and 11, EPCOT until 9:30-ish (after the firework).
We also either try to leave the park as soon as the firework finishes OR go very slow, stroll around, take 1000 night photos to avoid the massive crowd leaving the park. The only thing we didn't like was that we have to fold the stroller, but many times our DD just passed out by then, we were okay.
When we finish late (past 9), we then took a day off from the park the next day. So wake up later, rest, be lazy and check out mini-golf, pool, resort hopping, going to AK and see if we catch any animals, etc. One of the best parts was joining Chip and Dale Sing along at the campsite. It was really fun and felt like an extension of the Disney park experience.
We actually quickly learned that we cannot really change who 'we' are because of the child and the child will just become one of us (a crazy go-go-go person!) And she is a pro now.
Well, we know her personality that she can handle this and she naps quite well in the stroller. Like very well. So we know this worked for us. I know for some friends who returned back to the resort for afternoon break, etc. So go with the flow.
If your child is like mine, I will be happy to provide more tips that worked for us!
