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[C.Ann]

As gently as possible, for weeks now you have made one excuse after another about why you can't change these circumstances; why you can't kick them out; what they're doing to you now; etc.. It seems as though you have made a clear cut decision to tolerate this behavior, so the time has come to stop complaining about it..

You now need to accept the "reality" that you have chosen for yourself..

You have not chosen to help yourself in this situation, so you shouldn't really come here and expect any words of encouragement.. From some of the other responses I have just read, it seems that there are quite a few people who who feel that you have wasted their time.. Sorry - but I think you may have to "go it alone" from here on out..

Good luck with that..

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

My mom and i are on the roomates case we don't speak to her unless we are naging her to go to job interviews and fill out aplications i will make sure she meets the december 1st deadline even if it kills me my dfi and i are sick of her interfearing

 

[okeydokey]

Come back on Dec 1 and let us know if she is really gone. Seems doubtful.

 

[minniecarousel]

Really? This is still going on?

Do you think the silent treatment and passive/aggressive stuff will work on this person?

If you truly gave her the Dec. 1 deadline, then out she goes (you realize that you have given her too many chances, right?)

 

[Magic Mom]

There is just so much wrong with this whole situation.

 

[Agri]

My mom and i are on the roomates case we don't speak to her unless we are naging her to go to job interviews and fill out aplications i will make sure she meets the december 1st deadline even if it kills me my dfi and i are sick of her interfearing

Its wrong of you to not have served her with eviction papers and instead choosing to be a doormat for someone who obviously does not care about you. If you're so sick of it, evict her and move on with your life. You might end up being single if you keep this up from the sound of it.

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

Why are my cats well behaved when it is just mike and i and behave poorly when the roommates are around i know because they were well behaved over thanksgiving break when they were house sitting else were

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Why are my cats well behaved when it is just mike and i and behave poorly when the roommates are around i know because they were well behaved over thanksgiving break when they were house sitting else were

Because they want the roommates gone as much as you do.

I thought you only had 1 extra freeloader? You have more now?

 

[Scurvy]

Why are my cats well behaved when it is just mike and i and behave poorly when the roommates are around i know because they were well behaved over thanksgiving break when they were house sitting else were

Cats are strange. Weird things can set them off. Maybe there's something about your roommate that gets the cats keyed up. Hopefully your cats will be well behaved from now on, since your roommate has to be out in only 2 days. I bet you're excited about that - I would be! Has she started moving boxes out yet?

ETA - I just noticed what Mystery Machine posted. I had missed that part of your post. Was that a typo or did your problem roommate multiply? I thought there was just one of her.

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

Cats are strange. Weird things can set them off. Maybe there's something about your roommate that gets the cats keyed up. Hopefully your cats will be well behaved from now on, since your roommate has to be out in only 2 days. I bet you're excited about that - I would be! Has she started moving boxes out yet?

ETA - I just noticed what Mystery Machine posted. I had missed that part of your post. Was that a typo or did your problem roommate multiply? I thought there was just one of her.

no it has always been a mother and son team at my house

 

[crashbb]

As gently as possible, for weeks now you have made one excuse after another about why you can't change these circumstances; why you can't kick them out; what they're doing to you now; etc.. It seems as though you have made a clear cut decision to tolerate this behavior, so the time has come to stop complaining about it..

You now need to accept the "reality" that you have chosen for yourself..

You have not chosen to help yourself in this situation, so you shouldn't really come here and expect any words of encouragement.. From some of the other responses I have just read, it seems that there are quite a few people who who feel that you have wasted their time.. Sorry - but I think you may have to "go it alone" from here on out..

Good luck with that..

Simple solution - find your own place and pay your own rent.

 

[SaraJayne]

Simple solution - find your own place and pay your own rent.

OP, I doubt you'll get much sympathy from anyone, anymore.

 

[Cinderella94]

This situation is beyond ridiculous.

 

[AKL_Megs]

I can see this thread going up there as one of those "classic" threads we talk about... "Remember the lady with the homeless roommate who swore at the cat?"

It's bizare! Kick her out!

 

[DawnM]

I am not heartless, but I had someone who said he and his wife would stay one night and at the end of 7 nights we realized they had no job, no money, and nowhere to go......my husband was adamant that they GO and they were really annoying.

I drove them to the local homeless shelter and dropped them off. I made sure they were admitted and would have shelter and food, but I drove AWAY.

They stayed at the homeless shelter for over 6 months before getting a family member to give them bus fare to go back to where they came from and live with them.

There is no way I would put up with a freeloader who truly had no intention of getting a job.

BTW: To this day, 6 YEARS later, the husband still is not working. We have figured that he has a mental disorder. The wife is working as a cashier at Walmart even with a college degree, but at least she is working. They are separated now.

Dawn

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

I am not heartless, but I had someone who said he and his wife would stay one night and at the end of 7 nights we realized they had no job, no money, and nowhere to go......my husband was adamant that they GO and they were really annoying.

I drove them to the local homeless shelter and dropped them off. I made sure they were admitted and would have shelter and food, but I drove AWAY.

They stayed at the homeless shelter for over 6 months before getting a family member to give them bus fare to go back to where they came from and live with them.

There is no way I would put up with a freeloader who truly had no intention of getting a job.

BTW: To this day, 6 YEARS later, the husband still is not working. We have figured that he has a mental disorder. The wife is working as a cashier at Walmart even with a college degree, but at least she is working. They are separated now.

Dawn

i am starting to wish I did that

 

[DawnM]

You still can!

And she has no legal right to be there. If she won't leave, you can call the police. We seriously thought we would need to do that because they weren't making any effort to even pack their stuff up.

It was a very stressful time for me.

You have got to get some backbone and get these people OUT. I did the legwork and called the homeless shelter myself first.

As C. Ann has already pointed out, you are enabling these folks.

She has proven that she will NOT stand on her own 2 feet without a push and she has no intention of moving on with FREE room and board just sitting there for her.

Dawn

i am starting to wish I did that

 

[MickeySP]

I have read through this whole thing and I agree with C Ann - you are the problem now not them.

You are LETTING them wallk all over you - YOU - noone else. Either you like being a matyr or you are a wimp( I feel points) but you need to "man-up" and kick them out.

I know what I would get from my friends & family - We don't want to hear it anymore - do something or sit down & shut up.

 

[Scurvy]

And she has no legal right to be there. If she won't leave, you can call the police. We seriously thought we would need to do that because they weren't making any effort to even pack their stuff up.

Since she's been there for months at this point, she might have a legal right to stay until she's actually been evicted. That hopefully won't be a problem since the OP said she was given notice she has to be out by this Wednesday, but if she doesn't leave then the OP or her mother will have to find out if they can legally kick her out or if they have to officially give her notice that she's being evicted and then wait however long they legally have to wait. After that they can just kick her out and change the locks and be done with her.

OP, will she be out by Wednesday as she was told she had to be?

 

[Kika]

You still can!

And she has no legal right to be there. If she won't leave, you can call the police. We seriously thought we would need to do that because they weren't making any effort to even pack their stuff up.

It was a very stressful time for me.

You have got to get some backbone and get these people OUT. I did the legwork and called the homeless shelter myself first.

As C. Ann has already pointed out, you are enabling these folks.

She has proven that she will NOT stand on her own 2 feet without a push and she has no intention of moving on with FREE room and board just sitting there for her.

Dawn

I may be misunderstanding this whole situation, but if I am reading this thread correctly, it looks like the OP is also living there for free; therefore, I don't think she's in a position to kick anyone out. If this is the case, I would agree with others that say, OP, you may want to consider getting you own place. This way, you have a say in who you live with.