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[Tuffcookie]

OP posted: I really just wanted my kids to be safe, I did NOT want all of this to happen. I feel so bad for the outcome of everything.

Why feel bad? You got rid of this loser and his GF! I hope the landlord can relocate you soon.

TC

 

[lillygator]

what was his original crime? SO's aren't required to register FOREVER? that is a very very scary thought.

 

[It'sWDW4me]

what was his original crime? SO's aren't required to register FOREVER? that is a very very scary thought.

His crime was probably committed and/or he was convicted not long before Megan's law went into effect...

OP - to you for the ordeal you and your family is going through. As far as moving? I would get the address from your landlord and check the websites before you move to make sure you wouldn't be moving right next door to another scumbag. Good luck to you!

 

[mickeylove2]

what was his original crime? SO's aren't required to register FOREVER? that is a very very scary thought.

From my understanding, his original crime was at 17 he molested his 11 year old female cousin. As far as what EXACTLY happened, I don not know, I don't know if he fondled her or if he penetrated her in any way. He was convicted though and spent 3 years in jail for it, he was required to register for 10 years.

 

[peyjax]

Got to say Good for you!! I understand feeling bad about how it all blew up but keep reminding yourself of who you were protecting. Not just your kids but also the kids that were living with him. Thank goodness they have a dad who came into get them. You really should be proud of yourself for not taking a chance and letting it go who knows what could have happened.

You post even had me check out that watchdog site. I had tried to look along time ago but did not know where to go. This gave me some good info, thankfully though not much around where we live!
Edit: nevermind just read your other post. Never feel bad about how it went down, thinking about how quick it all happened it was actually a major protection!

 

[2binak]

I looked on the family watch dog website...

I had no idea this site existed. I just found out that a man who lives 4 houses from us is on the registry for unlawful contact. According to the website, the offense is not against a child, but still...I can't help but feel a little sick to my stomach. We live in a really nice development in the country so yes, offenders can live anywhere, though most in our city are concentrated close to the center of town.

 

[ccgirl]

Wow! Glad it was resolved. I can't believe the GF would even come over. First off, she should be concerned with the children's safety. I can't imagine, as a mother, living with a known SO with my children. The nerve of her to come over. She should more concerned with why her BF was trying to give out posicles IMHO. No need to feel bad. You did the right thing.

 

[cheermom1]

WOW what a night you had Well the crime he committed is defiantly worth getting all upset over and him trying to coax your kids in his apt. what a loser! And his GF sounds like she doesn't care that she might lose her kids but she really wants her BF to stay!!! she is a loser too!

 

[robinb]

Thanks for the update. Don't feel bad about making things hot for those losers. However, I feel particularly sorry for her kids . I hope that he has not touched them.

 

[cheermom1]

Thanks for the update. Don't feel bad about making things hot for those losers. However, I feel particularly sorry for her kids . I hope that he has not touched them.

I know, when she said the father came and got them it seemed as though she just let him take them but then was very upset that her BF was going to leave.

 

[wvjules]

I'm still confused about sex offenders not needing to be registered after a period of time? I also thought that Megan's Law was retro-active. Scarey knowing that there are convicted sex offenders out there that dont' have to register.

Did you BIL ask if, and why, he tried to lure your DD's into his house?

ETA: If they reacted that badly last night after the cops showing up, I'd be a little afraid of what they might do next. Start packing and move to the other place as soon as you can.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I bring this up with my DS, too, from time to time. I get the and the but I know he's listening. He's going to the National Jamboree this summer and his troop was required to watch a film about child predators. He said "it was disturbing" in that the guys in the film seemed like normal, every day type of guys (yup, that's the point!) and it was insidious (my word - I can't remember how he said it) how they got their "victims" in the film. I think that film may have done what my "chats" with him couldn't - to actually see how easily a predator can maneuver his way past a child's defenses.

We saw a video a long time ago about stranger danger and discussed it. I need to show the kids another one. I've talked to them about not being able to tell if a person is good or bad by looking at them, or by what they say. I reiterated that's why you don't talk to strangers. Bad people want to gain your trust and get you alone to hurt you. We've talked about it. But to actually see someone that, "looks nice", and how they operate sends a powerful message.

The mesage bears repeating from time to time and in different ways.

Mickeylove2, you couldn't control the series of events. The couple went off the deep end and that is not your fault. The guy luring your DD's is what started the whole thing in motion. The outcome of it all is probably the best case scenario. I would think about moving, as it was offered, just so they couldn't retaliate. You have really had a stressful couple of days!! I think it is wise to put a restraining order on Mike (and his GF). They aren't stable. Keep a steady watch.

You deserve some R and R! Keep those girls close and rest!

 

[DisneyFairytale]

What a tough situation.

I don't think that telling the girls any details make a difference, but I do think that sitting down with them and explaining to them that under no circumstance should they get near him. It's a really unfortunate situation. I would definitely be talking to the police about what happened.

As for watching the kids, I don't know how close you are to your neighbor/friend, but because of this situation, I would never trust anyone and I mean no one to watch over my kids other than me(or your wife). See how long it took for your kids to disappear for a few mins and how quickly it took "Mike" to try to coax them into coming in.

Again, what a tough situation. God watch over your kids.

 

[mickeylove2]

I'm still confused about sex offenders not needing to be registered after a period of time? I also thought that Megan's Law was retro-active. Scarey knowing that there are convicted sex offenders out there that dont' have to register.

Did you BIL ask if, and why, he tried to lure your DD's into his house?

ETA: If they reacted that badly last night after the cops showing up, I'd be a little afraid of what they might do next. Start packing and move to the other place as soon as you can.

Yeah, Mike told him that he just wanted to have them come and look at some kittens that their cat just had and thought that if they saw them they would want 1 and I would let them have 1 and since he was having a hard time getting rid of them, he was asking all of the kids to try and get the parents to let them take 1 home with them. I call BS on that anyway...none of the other kids have new kittens.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

I'm still confused about sex offenders not needing to be registered after a period of time? I also thought that Megan's Law was retro-active. Scarey knowing that there are convicted sex offenders out there that dont' have to register.

Did you BIL ask if, and why, he tried to lure your DD's into his house?

ETA: If they reacted that badly last night after the cops showing up, I'd be a little afraid of what they might do next. Start packing and move to the other place as soon as you can.

Megan's Law can only be enforced if they were convicted after it came into effect. If it happened and they were convicted prior to that time, they only have to follow the court order.
Hope that helps.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

Yeah, Mike told him that he just wanted to have them come and look at some kittens that their cat just had and thought that if they saw them they would want 1 and I would let them have 1 and since he was having a hard time getting rid of them, he was asking all of the kids to try and get the parents to let them take 1 home with them. I call BS on that anyway...none of the other kids have new kittens.

I'm with you. And I would have asked to see the kittens!! Glad your BIL was a huge help with this.

 

[mickeylove2]

What a tough situation.

I don't think that telling the girls any details make a difference, but I do think that sitting down with them and explaining to them that under no circumstance should they get near him. It's a really unfortunate situation. I would definitely be talking to the police about what happened.

As for watching the kids, I don't know how close you are to your neighbor/friend, but because of this situation, I would never trust anyone and I mean no one to watch over my kids other than me(or your wife). See how long it took for your kids to disappear for a few mins and how quickly it took "Mike" to try to coax them into coming in.

Again, what a tough situation. God watch over your kids.

I know, lesson learned for me...my kids have never walked off like that before, I am always, or someone is always around them. I have a roommate and she is really good about keeping an eye on them, sometimes she is better at it than me because she has almost 3 year old twins so she is more on her toes than I am with my 9 & 7 year olds!

 

[lillygator]

From my understanding, his original crime was at 17 he molested his 11 year old female cousin. As far as what EXACTLY happened, I don not know, I don't know if he fondled her or if he penetrated her in any way. He was convicted though and spent 3 years in jail for it, he was required to register for 10 years.

I'm still confused about sex offenders not needing to be registered after a period of time? I also thought that Megan's Law was retro-active. Scarey knowing that there are convicted sex offenders out there that dont' have to register.

Did you BIL ask if, and why, he tried to lure your DD's into his house?

ETA: If they reacted that badly last night after the cops showing up, I'd be a little afraid of what they might do next. Start packing and move to the other place as soon as you can.

I'm sorry, they should have to be on the registry for life and let the cops know where they live for life....in my opinion.

 

[mickeylove2]

Megan's Law can only be enforced if they were convicted after it came into effect. If it happened and they were convicted prior to that time, they only have to follow the court order.
Hope that helps.

I don't know much about Megan's law, but I do know that, in MD anyway, certain offenses only require a 10 year registration period, not a lifetime. And, I just found that out last night, I always thought it was lifetime!

 

[surfergirl602]

You did the right thing. It's a shame that it got so heated, but at least the police and the landlord are aware of it now.

Don't beat yourself up - the safety of your children comes first!