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[SnowWhite607]

my kids would not be playing outside and I would call the police and let them know what happened.

Exactly what I was thinking! I would not let my children play outside alone knowing full well there was a sex offender 2 doors away!! What if the neighbor had not been there and seen them? What if she had gone inside to answer the phone or use the restroom?

My child only plays alone in our fenced (8 foot wooden), locked backyard. NEVER in the front yard. I dont get telling a kid "stay in sight of the front door." Is that supposed to be adequate supervision when there is a child molester close by? And good frined or not, no way would I hang out inside and trust that my neighbor is gonna be outside looking out for my kid.

 

[JoiseyMom]

Ok, I haven't read all the reply's, but I agree with the few I have. CALL THE COPS NOW and report the lowlife NOW!!!

And yes, tell your girls. Tell them he is a bad man and he hurts children and they are to stay away and if he comes near them to get them into his house/car they are to scream HELP POLICE HELP!!!

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

I only read the OP, but there are many different types of sex offenders. If he was guilty of an offense against children, I would move. End of story.

If he were guilty of some other type of offense, I would have to consider the offense. There are many people on the sex offender list who have done next to nothing, and some nothing at all.

But, if this guy was a child molester, he still is. It is that simple...

 

[N&B'smom]

I really hope you post an update after seeing your BIL tonight!

 

[rigs32]

He tried to lure your children correct? That is a crime!

What would the charge be? If he's on probation, sure, it might be a violation. And he could possibly be violating by not being registered at the proper address, but I fail to see how his actions constitute a crime he could be convicted of.

That's not to say the OP shouldn't call the police. But most likely it will be a "to make a report" call rather than a "take him to jail now" call.

 

[tonilea]

I wouldn't wait to check a strange man's first, last name or offender status before calling the cops and letting them know a strange man tried to lure my two young girls into his apartment. Let the cops sort out the hairy details (name/status).

OP, YOU just make the call. Now. Not tomorrow, not later. Right this second.

If he were innocent of any wrongdoing, then let the cops scare some sense into him. If he's truly a sex offender, then let them haul his disgusting butt away.

THIS! THIS! THIS!!!!! His status as a sex offender is irrelevent in that he was trying to lure your children into his apartment!!!!

 

[cheermom1]

Except that if this man is living with children, and his crime was against children, then he's likely lying about his address and registered elsewhere.

I like the suggestion of walking down to the police station, and talking about this in person. I don't think it warrants a 911 call, because 911 is for emergencies that are currently happening, and your girls are safe right now - just don't let them out alone until this is addressed.

I also wouldn't beat around the bush with my kids for 2 reasons -- one is that I'd want them to be scare of him, and to know that they have permission to be rude or loud if needed to get away from him. The other is that when we use euphemisms to talk about things like sex abuse we're helping the offenders who want kids to know that these are shameful things we don't talk about. I'd sit the kids down and say "This is a man who has hurt children. This is what he did (if you know). If you see him come inside. If he talks to you, run away. If he touches you, or asks you to come inside or chases you when you run then scream "GET AWAY FROM ME YOU ARE NOT MY DADDY" at the top of your lungs".

This is a good idea but statics have shown us that a lot of people won't respond and help, I teach my kids to yell FIRE!!!! Thant way a lot of people will come running and someone will call the fire dpt. and police.

 

[lillygator]

to all the people saying move...come on, be resonable. Not necessarily in this case but check the registries....for those that are ACTUALLY registered you may surprised who lives near you. Also, for the amount that are registered there are those that have failed to register a new address, failed to have been caught for the first time, etc.....


just recently a police "team" raided DH's store for one of his workers.....he is an offender/predator who failed to report his new address (purposefully) and he is a younger guy...he is now back in the slammer for 2 years. So failing to report is taken seriously here in FL.

and certain posters have argued countless times with me that they think the majority of offenders listed in the registry is of the romeo and juliet type....I highly disagree.

 

[sunnyday123]

OH my gosh. Call the police!

Let's get rid of the offender part.

A man, who was alone, tried to get your daughters into his apartment.

What do you do?

Call the police! That's what you do.

Don't think about trials and whatnot, there was no crime (unless attempted luring is a crime?) at this time. But someone needs to get to his apartment and officially meet him and talk with him and explain to him that what he did was inappropriate.

Now go check out The Gift of Fear, by Gavin de Becker, from your library and read it! After calling the police.



Oh...have you looked at your own area? Checked out most areas? I would bet that there are more areas with many offenders than there are areas with no offenders out there....

Um, yea. Attempting to "lure a child" is a crime. The police are not going to come talk to him about being inappropriate-and what, give him a time out? Take away his tv time? No. What if he's in a car? That would be attempted kidnapping, same difference.

And pretty much every area has offenders in or around it, but something like this happening, and it being an apartment where you aren't locked into a 30 year mortgage, I'd still be moving.

 

[sunnyday123]

to all the people saying move...come on, be resonable. Not necessarily in this case but check the registries....for those that are ACTUALLY registered you may surprised who lives near you. Also, for the amount that are registered there are those that have failed to register a new address, failed to have been caught for the first time, etc.....


just recently a police "team" raided DH's store for one of his workers.....he is an offender/predator who failed to report his new address (purposefully) and he is a younger guy...he is now back in the slammer for 2 years. So failing to report is taken seriously here in FL.

and certain posters have argued countless times with me that they think the majority of offenders listed in the registry is of the romeo and juliet type....I highly disagree.

It wouldn't be reasonable if she was in a house. However, it's an apartment. Someone tried to lure her children into a house, where there was no one else home and no children, and he's a suspected child sex offender.

Moving is totally reasonable, and I'd be doing it.

And I agree with out about the majority of offenders that were "young" and it was an underage girlfriend, parents got mad, blah blah blah. So tired of hearing that argument.

 

[sunnyday123]

I only read the OP, but there are many different types of sex offenders. If he was guilty of an offense against children, I would move. End of story.

If he were guilty of some other type of offense, I would have to consider the offense. There are many people on the sex offender list who have done next to nothing, and some nothing at all.

But, if this guy was a child molester, he still is. It is that simple...

"Gee, it was only a little sex offense...."

 

[cheermom1]

to all the people saying move...come on, be resonable. Not necessarily in this case but check the registries....for those that are ACTUALLY registered you may surprised who lives near you. Also, for the amount that are registered there are those that have failed to register a new address, failed to have been caught for the first time, etc.....


just recently a police "team" raided DH's store for one of his workers.....he is an offender/predator who failed to report his new address (purposefully) and he is a younger guy...he is now back in the slammer for 2 years. So failing to report is taken seriously here in FL.

and certain posters have argued countless times with me that they think the majority of offenders listed in the registry is of the romeo and juliet type....I highly disagree.

I don't think the majority are teen love and I don;t think anyone here said that, it is a possibility however with the fact that he tried to coax them in his apt. says different.

 

[lil mermaid]

If I had reason to believe that I lived in the same apartment building as a registered sex offender (especially one convicted of child molestation) I would do what I had to do to find out the person's name and verify if it was true. Depending on what I found out, I may or may not move. This is what I would do BEFORE this man had the opportunity to lure my child with freeze pops or anything else.

Anyway, that wasn't the OP's question - yes, I would go down to the police station and report what happened. Immediately!

 

[Buzz's Buddy]

What would the charge be? If he's on probation, sure, it might be a violation. And he could possibly be violating by not being registered at the proper address, but I fail to see how his actions constitute a crime he could be convicted of.QUOTE]

Once again, I'm going by the laws of my state; however, my guess is that most, if not every state has a similar law. In NJ it is 2C:13-6 Luring or Enticing a Child

http://www.njleg.state.nj.us/2002/Bills/A3500/3758_I1.PDF

I work for a law enforcement agency in NJ and I can guarantee you that a sex offender who attempts to lure a child into his home, car, etc. would be charged with that crime if reported. In addition, in NJ, people convicted of a sexual offense are subject to parole supervision for life, so he could be immediately returned to custody on a violation if he was on this type of supervision.

 

[Buzz's Buddy]

"Gee, it was only a little sex offense...."

I don't want to be in the position of defending any sex offenders, but once again, I can tell you that in NJ, a 19 year old who has consensual relations with a 15 year old is guilty of a sex offense and is required to register under Megan's Law.

I've read more than a few cases like this where the parent finds out and presses charges, even though the two were involved in a dating relationship. I'm not debating the morality, just passing on the facts.

That being said, these are the exception rather than the rule. Unfortunately, most sex offenders have earned their way onto the registry.

 

[bunkkinsmom]

I don't want to be in the position of defending any sex offenders, but once again, I can tell you that in NJ, a 19 year old who has consensual relations with a 15 year old is guilty of a sex offense and is required to register under Megan's Law.

I've read more than a few cases like this where the parent finds out and presses charges, even though the two were involved in a dating relationship. I'm not debating the morality, just passing on the facts.

That being said, these are the exception rather than the rule. Unfortunately, most sex offenders have earned their way onto the registry.

Cant be consensual if one of the parties is under 18? Lemme tell you what, a 19 puts his grubby mitts on my 15 year old (not that I have one) cops will be the last thing he needs to worry about. Have you met my hubby?

 

[locolala]

Cant be consensual if one of the parties is under 18? Lemme tell you what, a 19 puts his grubby mitts on my 15 year old (not that I have one) cops will be the last thing he needs to worry about. Have you met my hubby?

Age of consent varies by state, but if one party is over 18 it's generally accepted that the age difference can be no more than 3 years.

As for the people who say "just move!", it must be nice to have that kind of money. Even if they live in an apartment, it still costs a lot to move. First and last month's rent, deposits, and the fine for breaking a lease. Teach your kids to not go into other people's houses without your permission, to run away, kick bite punch, whatever it takes..moving isn't the only option. We have a sex offender right across the street. There are 4 within a few blocks. We'll teach my daughter what I said above, and be watchful when she's playing outside. There's nothing more we can do, sex offenders are everywhere.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

To explain my comments, I was referring to those who are considered sex offenders for having a relationship as a young person with another young person. In some states, a 17 year old can go to jail for sleeping with a 15 year old. They have this follow them for the rest of their lives.

As for moving - yeah, it might be difficult, but that is what I would do. The question was, what would you do.

 

[mhsjax]

This is a good idea but statics have shown us that a lot of people won't respond and help, I teach my kids to yell FIRE!!!! Thant way a lot of people will come running and someone will call the fire dpt. and police.

Actually, We were trained by a retired NYC police detective that dealt in sex crimes against kids that now does nothing but travel around and teach kids about self defense. He said always yell this is not my mom or dad. People will respond to that, everyone is so afraid of children being molested that they will pay more attention to that phrase than anything else

 

[cheermom1]

Actually, We were trained by a retired NYC police detective that dealt in sex crimes against kids that now does nothing but travel around and teach kids about self defense. He said always yell this is not my mom or dad. People will respond to that, everyone is so afraid of children being molested that they will pay more attention to that phrase than anything else

I was taught is a seminar to yell fire. HUH?