WWYD work related (drama)

[tink20]

I will try to make this short, but give the details.

Last Friday one of our customers came to town to visit the plant and wanted to buy lunch for the guys out in the plant who work on his orders and anyone else who does "anything" that pertains to his company. So my boss made up a list of people (about 30) this included the guys in the plant, people in sales, a few people in shipping, plant manager, the owners, and the girl in acct. rec. (so our customer was paying, not us) We could not buy for everyone, we have about 150 employees, maybe more IDK)

He ask a co-worker (who has been there over 30yrs) to take care of it (place orders, go pick up food and set up in the kitchen) we had to eat at work (no way everyone could have left for lunch) She ask me to go with her and help pick up and set up. I have been here 4 months (we both got lunches too)

The lady who cleans the office and runs errands (she has been there probably 30yrs) wasn't on the list. I basically just went with my co worker to p/u food and helped her set up the kitchen. I never saw the list. Well, she got her feelings hurt, (she wasn't upset, she was angry) we had one extra lunch, and offered it to her, she rudely said no.

Well, now she is not speaking to me and the co worker who set up everything. Friday when I left work, I told her "bye, have a nice weekend" and she completely ignored me. Monday, I told her "good morning" and she grunted back "good morning" The plant manager (I eat lunch at the same time he does) said to just leave her alone, she pouts sometimes and she will get over it. Its just awkward for me, because usually anytime we passed each other we would have a friendly chat., now its just awkward silence. She is treating my co worker the same way. Now its Wednesday, and its still going on. WWYD?

 

[Ceila]

I would offer my usual pleasantries, ignore her pathetic, passive-aggressive attempt to get you to ask her why she's upset (because that's exactly what her treatment of you is for) and then go about my day as usual.

 

[Christine]

Agree with Ceila. There's nothing you can do and playing into it just rewards her attitude.

 

[TipsyTraveler]

Ignore her. She's being a child. You had nothing to do with determining who would get lunch anyway, so her anger isn't even directed at the right person.

 

[Southernmiss]

We have choices. We can choose to act out of our adult or from our child.

Coworker has chosen to act from their child.

It's amazing how many 40 to 80 year-old children there are in the world.

 

[Newsies]

Totally agree with the PPs. Childish behavior from this woman with a ton of anger directed at the wrong person. Be the bigger person and act like nothing is wrong, eventually she'll stop.

 

[TheIncredibles!]

Her feelings were hurt, she's upset and pouting. She'll get over it. Just keep acting like all is well and don't let it get to you. Trying to explain that you didn't make the list won't make her any less upset but will make you look bad in a way so just let it roll.

 

[Dawnlight]

She's got her panties in a twist over being overlooked for a freebie lunch? Ugh, some people really have no worries in the world, do they?

Ignore her; she's not worth the time.

 

[aaarcher86]

I'd just ignore her until she decides to get over it.

Be a freaking adult lady.

 

[Bluestars]

I would approach her and tell her that I was sorry that she was overlooked and think she should have been included on the list. I would let her know that I didn't make the list or see the list, just picked up the food.

That's just what I would do, but ignoring her pouting is fine too. Her feelings are hurt and I don't think it's surprising that a 30 year employee would feel hurt after being left out. I think it's wrong for her to take it out on you and your coworker though. That is childish.

 

[NewRVLady]

I don't think it is smart for only x number of employees to get this meal
I worked for 25 years at a company with a plant and no way would that be allowed-too many hurt feelings
and it was that big-125 plus
we had a twice a year Fish Fry or bar bq -catered for the whole shop and office staff-one was paid from Coke machine profits-other from the Boss

 

[Gigi22]

Do nothing. Her highness will get over it. Some people just have to go looking for problems, KWIM?

 

[kaytieeldr]

I don't think it is smart for only x number of employees to get this meal
I worked for 25 years at a company with a plant and no way would that be allowed-too many hurt feelings
and it was that big-125 plus
we had a twice a year Fish Fry or bar bq -catered for the whole shop and office staff-one was paid from Coke machine profits-other from the Boss

Sure, if it's paid by the employer in any fashion. Bad, bad business to dictate to a customer how he should spend his money on a show of gratitude.

 

[ksjayhawks]

Ignore her. You didn't do anything wrong--you were only following the directions given to you.

 

[3 MEN AND A BOAT]

I'd probably smart off with something like "yeah it was a celebration of my being here for 4-months" then walk off.

 

[Tozzie]

I will try to make this short, but give the details.

Last Friday one of our customers came to town to visit the plant and wanted to buy lunch for the guys out in the plant who work on his orders and anyone else who does "anything" that pertains to his company. So my boss made up a list of people (about 30) this included the guys in the plant, people in sales, a few people in shipping, plant manager, the owners, and the girl in acct. rec. (so our customer was paying, not us) We could not buy for everyone, we have about 150 employees, maybe more IDK)

He ask a co-worker (who has been there over 30yrs) to take care of it (place orders, go pick up food and set up in the kitchen) we had to eat at work (no way everyone could have left for lunch) She ask me to go with her and help pick up and set up. I have been here 4 months (we both got lunches too)

The lady who cleans the office and runs errands (she has been there probably 30yrs) wasn't on the list. I basically just went with my co worker to p/u food and helped her set up the kitchen. I never saw the list. Well, she got her feelings hurt, (she wasn't upset, she was angry) we had one extra lunch, and offered it to her, she rudely said no.

Well, now she is not speaking to me and the co worker who set up everything. Friday when I left work, I told her "bye, have a nice weekend" and she completely ignored me. Monday, I told her "good morning" and she grunted back "good morning" The plant manager (I eat lunch at the same time he does) said to just leave her alone, she pouts sometimes and she will get over it. Its just awkward for me, because usually anytime we passed each other we would have a friendly chat., now its just awkward silence. She is treating my co worker the same way. Now its Wednesday, and its still going on. WWYD?

This is not drama it is childish nonsense ignore her until she decides to stop acting like a 3 year old

 

[MickeySP]

Be a duck- water off your back. It happens. Do you really care? Do you want to be her friend/ socialize with her? If not not who cares.

I honestly laugh at coworkers like this. This is your life, who says "atta boy" at work- pathetic!!!

 

[cluvsdisney]

Things like this happens in my office all the time. In general the angry person eventually gets over it and goes back to speaking who ever they were angry with, or not. There's really nothing you can do but wait it out.

 

[ronandannette]

This lady wouldn't have lasted very long at my workplace with this kind of sensitivity. We have about 70 employees, roughly 1/2 of which are directly involved with and have some level of authority over a large number of sub-trades and suppliers. (The other 1/2 are in more obscure, back-of-house positions.) Countless times a year, especially around Christmas, various ones of us will recieve gifts, invitations and other "perks" from a company whose on-going contract we influence (I'm not talking bribery here - stuff like company logo'ed clothing, bottles of liquor, lunches out, tickets to concerts or sporting events, golf or fishing junkets, etc.). It's a standard practise in our industry in general and our company in specific. Nobody would ever stop to think about whether those who are not included are feeling slighted.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I agree with pretty much everyone else--ignore her drama and treat her like you always do. Nothing good would come from you playing into her drama in any way.