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There is an event that DH and I really want to go to this weekend but babysitting is a challenge. I told him that if he really wanted to go he should call his mother (lives 2 hrs. away) and ask her to take the kids (ages 6 and 10) for the weekend. They have never both been there without us. She has babysat for a day before, and taken the 10 yr old for a few days, but the 6 yr old has never really been away from us for the night--much less 2 nights! They are good kids and very close to their grandparents, and spend lots of time there--they just haven't done it with out us yet.
Well, of course, he didn't call. MIL and I have a GREAT relationship, but I felt that for a favor of this magnitude HE should be the one to ask. I was on the phone with MIL last week and decided that I would go ahead and ask her and make it a big surprise for DH. MIL said yes!
So, I was thinking I would run the kids to her on Friday morning (she may even just meet me 1/2 way which would make it much easier!) and then when DH comes home from work surprise him with the fact that the kids are gone and we have Friday night and Saturday to ourselves. The event starts Friday so we could even go Friday and Saturday!!! Ideally though, he would need to leave work early so we could make it in time and avoid traffic.
But now I am a little concerned because we are a very close family and I am worried that DH will a be a little upset that he didn't get to tell the kids good bye and give them hugs and kisses, and the kids will also be upset for the same reason.
Then the absolute worst case scenario, fatalist side of me starts to think, well, what if something TERRIBLE happens to either group--the other will always live with the fact that they never said good bye and give hugs etc... I know, overly dramatic, but my mind goes there. . .
Additionally, older DD and DH currently have plans for Friday night, but they are something that can be rescheduled. But he might feel a bit put out that I went ahead and canceled it. He would much rather spend the evening alone with me!!!!-- but also feels a strong sense of keeping his commitment to DD and the organization they are supposed to meet with. If I surprise him on Friday, he won't be able to reschedule ahead of time.
So, What Would You Do????? Go ahead with the original surprise plan and not tell DH, or tell him tomorrow "Surprise! The kids are going away tomorrow!" so we have time to make all the arrangements?????
I reallly LOVE big surprises, but I am starting to think that this one just involves too much other stuff to make it a pratical surprise.
HELP!
Well, of course, he didn't call. MIL and I have a GREAT relationship, but I felt that for a favor of this magnitude HE should be the one to ask. I was on the phone with MIL last week and decided that I would go ahead and ask her and make it a big surprise for DH. MIL said yes!
So, I was thinking I would run the kids to her on Friday morning (she may even just meet me 1/2 way which would make it much easier!) and then when DH comes home from work surprise him with the fact that the kids are gone and we have Friday night and Saturday to ourselves. The event starts Friday so we could even go Friday and Saturday!!! Ideally though, he would need to leave work early so we could make it in time and avoid traffic.
But now I am a little concerned because we are a very close family and I am worried that DH will a be a little upset that he didn't get to tell the kids good bye and give them hugs and kisses, and the kids will also be upset for the same reason.
Then the absolute worst case scenario, fatalist side of me starts to think, well, what if something TERRIBLE happens to either group--the other will always live with the fact that they never said good bye and give hugs etc... I know, overly dramatic, but my mind goes there. . .
Additionally, older DD and DH currently have plans for Friday night, but they are something that can be rescheduled. But he might feel a bit put out that I went ahead and canceled it. He would much rather spend the evening alone with me!!!!-- but also feels a strong sense of keeping his commitment to DD and the organization they are supposed to meet with. If I surprise him on Friday, he won't be able to reschedule ahead of time.
So, What Would You Do????? Go ahead with the original surprise plan and not tell DH, or tell him tomorrow "Surprise! The kids are going away tomorrow!" so we have time to make all the arrangements?????
I reallly LOVE big surprises, but I am starting to think that this one just involves too much other stuff to make it a pratical surprise.
HELP!
