WWYD regarding witnessing a racial fight?

[dis ms.]

Who was calling whom the "n" word? I need to know to form my opinion, because if some white woman had called me the "n" word, I may have snatched her by the hair, too.

Seriously, there's not enough info. here for me to determine what I would have done.

 

[Bobbles]

Who was calling whom the "n" word? I need to know to form my opinion, because if some white woman had called me the "n" word, I may have snatched her by the hair, too.

Seriously, there's not enough info. here for me to determine what I would have done.

I don't quite understand the question here.
What if a black woman had called you the "n" word?
Is that acceptable?

 

[poohandwendy]

Would not matter to me what caused the fight, if there was violence, I would have called the police.

Why does it matter whether it was racial or any other kind of fight? It is illegal to assault another person, that is enough for me.

I would not get in the middle of any fight unless I thought one person was in immediate mortal danger and there was no other option but to step in.

 

[Miss Inga Depointe]

I don't quite understand the question here.
What if a black woman had called you the "n" word?
Is that acceptable?

Oh, let's not go there.

Everybody knows they might get their hair pulled and a good deal more and deserve it if they use that word.

 

[poohandwendy]

I don't think any use of words is call for getting into a physical fight if you are an adult. Period.

 

[dis ms.]

I don't quite understand the question here.
What if a black woman had called you the "n" word?
Is that acceptable?

Oh, I'm sorry. Perhaps you're not familiar with this: . I used it at the end of my sentence to convey joking. In other words, I was making a joke. Now this is me rolling my eyes because you chose to make an issue out of my joke:

 

[Miss Inga Depointe]

I don't think any use of words is call for getting into a physical fight if you are an adult. Period.

I know you are right in theory. Are the days gone when, like, a husband or boyfriend could punch somebody for insulting you, though. Ya know, that was kind of sexy.

 

[poohandwendy]

And if the Op is describing exactly what happened and one person is walking away from it, IMO the person getting physical is in the wrong. If someone is walking away from you, there is ZERO call for physical violence.

 

[poohandwendy]

I know you are right in theory. Are the days gone when, like, a husband or boyfriend could punch somebody for insulting you, though. Ya know, that was kind of sexy.

Yeah, when I was in high school. But, in the world we live in, it is best to walk away. You just do not know how crazy someone could be and no words are ever worth violence that could very easily turn very serious.

I know a young man who was permanently brain damaged from 1 punch to the face...in a fight that started over an insult to his GF. He fell and hit his head on the asphalt and will never, ever be the same. Could have died.

Walking away is always the best policy.

 

[chager]

On Primetime last night they did mock fights and what would you do scenerios. It was suggested at one point to gain eye contact of the aggressive person while talking to him/her and having someone call 911. It was a really interesting show. The number of people that just ignored the situations was amazing. Even when it was kids bullying another child. The few people that did get involved were amazing though.
I have became involved in the past a few times. Once when a young man was verbally assaulting a young woman and another time during a shoplifting gone bad resulting in the assault of the store employee. ( I think I scared the one of the teens involved. He did run eventually but I didn't go after him becuase I was too busy helping the clerk calm down becuase he panicked when he realized his head was bleeding. The boys were arrested across the street though.)
My answer is I would have stepped in, but I would not have given any of my info to either person. I would have waited for the police or given it to the store manager. This is definately a time when a cell phone comes in handy!!

 

[Snow_White]

I can't believe that some people are saying that violence is appropriate after a name has been called....ANY name. Unreal. Our society has major problems.

 

[Bojo]

Usually when I see people yelling and fighting at Kmart or Walmart, they are family members.

Wow! You must have a very large family!!!

 

[MidgeD79]

UPDATE My dd spoke with the manager/friend about the incident.. Apparently the black women is dating the father of the white womens children. It had nothing to do with race although the name calling certainly suggested it. I had to laugh about the comment about ending K-Mart with an "s". I didn't realize it may appear akward until someone from Chicago who moved here mentioned it. I started listening to other people and they all add the "s". An English teacher said it's claiming possessiveness to an unspoken word like store. I guess it's a local "thing"

 

[Miss Inga Depointe]

UPDATE My dd spoke with the manager/friend about the incident.. Apparently the black women is dating the father of the white womens children. It had nothing to do with race although the name calling certainly suggested it. I had to laugh about the comment about ending K-Mart with an "s". I didn't realize it may appear akward until someone from Chicago who moved here mentioned it. I started listening to other people and they all add the "s". An English teacher said it's claiming possessiveness to an unspoken word like store. I guess it's a local "thing"

Ahhh, just a good old fashioned fight over a man! Thanks for the update!