WWYD - Playground Altercation

[kirstenb1]

Pixiewings 71, they may have marked it; I can't even remember. We'd stopped at the Orlando outlet on our way back home, and we were facing a long drive, so I was really rushing. Our trip in June was literally a washout; it rained almost every day, so for the first time ever, I wanted a backpack big enough to fit 4 ponchos plus water bottles etc for our next trip!! It was half off the regular price. It's a strange color, so I figured maybe that's why it was sent to the outlet!

 

[kirstenb1]

The silver lining in all of this. I've been so upset over this situation, that I've been literally nauseous and unable to eat anything. I got on the scale this morning and I dropped those five pounds I picked up over the summer.

Sorry for the stress, but glad you're able to look on the bright side!! Everyone knows who the nutter Moms are at my children's schools. Don't worry; it won't be you!!!

 

[AllyBri]

I agree,really? I would let kids PLAY and work things out, unless I saw a clear case of a gang of bullies attacking a child.... kids play, stuff gets broken,life goes on. I wouldn't let my kid play with yours anymore if this had happened with our group of kids playing together. (not b/c of your kid, but b/c of how you respond to it)This sounds like kids were playing rough,like kids do sometimes,and something got ripped. Happens all the time with the kids who play in my yard. Anyone who sends their kid to my house in 'vanity' clothes rather than clothes the kid can be comfortable in, learns quickly not to do it again. Most kids go home from our place muddy at the very least(hello new shoes lol) sometimes with a scraped knee(hello bandaid collection) and if something gets torn while playing I let the parents (friends of mine) know that kids play,and I encourage playing. Lots of active playing. I would NEVER ask another parent to fund my kids clothing collection,and I wouldn't expect to be blamed for when the kids rip their clothes in a game of tag.

Bullying? How did that come into the discussion? I don't think anyone would suggest that the OP's child bullied the other child.
I also find it odd that you would even bring that up.

 

[angwill]

Personally, having a now 18 year old and been there. I would let it go as long as the child who grabbed and shoved my child was diciplined at school and the parents know. It's not like someone got hurt.

I say this because over the last 18 years I have learned that if you buy expensive things they are bound to get ruined if not by another kid then by your own child. Besides that your child will outgrow that jacket more than likely by next winter and it is simply a pocket zipper not the important one that keeps him warm so I would let it go. If not be prepared for other parents possibly shunning your child for fear something will go wrong and you will try and make them pay for a jacket that may be way beyond their means to buy themselves.

I have seen this happen over the years and that poor boy never had any friends because everyone was afraid of his crazy mother who always made drama over the small stuff.

I even once had a boy come over and pick apart the cushion on one of my dining room chairs. I talked to him about it and told him to never do it again and then let it go. Kids do stupid stuff and eventually it will be your child ruining something of someone elses.

That is just my 2 cents on it.

 

[Evi]

I think kids are kids. Though this happened due to altercation in the school yard it could just as easily have happened with your son falling down playing chase. If you feel something is too nice to be damaged then he shouldn't be wearing it for play time. You do want to teach your son to take care of nice things but you also don't want to teach him to not play because of what hes wearing. I think this is a balance you will have to figure out. I think the other parents were more then generous and whos to say your son didn't shove the other child hard etc. You weren't there and aren't always going to be there. Let kids be kids let your son have play clothes.

 

[2BigKIdz]

I think $30 is very generous. When my husband was on a competitive paintball team his paintball pants cost anywhere from $80-125 each, so in the price range of the jacket. When a zipper broke on a pair we took them to a seamstress, she replaced the zipper with a heavy duty zipper much nicer than the original for less than $10. I don't know what area you are in but I can't imagine it would cost too much more to replace a jacket zipper, certainly less than $30.

I would never send my son out to play in a $100 jacket anyway and would have chalked it up to boys will be boys and eaten the cost myself. I don't even let my son wear his $35 skechers out to play, he wears $10 "play shoes".

 

[lucifie]

and it is simply a pocket zipper not the important one that keeps him warm so I would let it go.

It's just a pocket zipper? I must have missed that? If it were my kid's jacket I wouldn't even bother to have it fixed, much less ask the other parent for a new jacket or even money to fix the zipper. I thought we were talking about the main zipper and maybe the kid couldn't zip his jacket anymore. I wonder if the kid is going to outgrow the coat soon and this is the mother trying to get him a new coat for free.