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Ok so I haven't posted on here in a while bc I've been SOOOOOO busy!!!!! but here's what's been going on: my bf asked me if i'd say yes if he asked me 2 marry him (I said yes!) I graduated from HS . . .and my bf or fiance or whatever he is now is leaving 4 basic training in less than a month .
Now for the bad stuff: My bf's bff is a girl who has a crush on him (GRRR!) and she has been trying to start fights between us all week! His mom MADE him go get his x gf and bring her 2 our graduation then tryed to make him take her home (didn't happen) ! Bc she wants him 2 b with his x not me bc she likes 2 drink and smoke and I don't. so. . .I need a little advice. What do I do abt his bff and his mom ? We haven't been fighting we've just been frustrated bc everytime we planned 2 hang out his mom made up an excuse 4 him not 2 come out here and his bff was usually involved. She told me Saturday that I was pushing my bf away and then was threatening 2 "kick my butt" last night at our schools grad rolleyes: . He knows she's doing this on purpose but he can't seem 2 break the ties with her . They've been friends since they were babies. Can anyone give me sum advice? Please?

 

[BabyPiglet]

1. Inlaws are always going to be a pain in the ***.
2. Tell your fiance that his friend makes you uncomfortable.
3. Tell your future MIL that you're not going to back down just because she trying to force this other girl on him.
4. Congratulations!
5. I'm sorry he's leaving soon.
6. And yes, I have decided to talk in lists. It feels good.

 

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I told him that his friend was upsetting me and it made him mad bc I didn't tell him some of the things she had been saying sooner. He is talking to her about what she has said to me and has made it clear to his mother that he wants nothing to do with his x. It feels like NO ONE wants us together and it's hurting both of us.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Your fiance sounds 100% on your side though, and that's all that matters. Just don't give up, you guys are in love. If other people can't see that, then it's their loss.

 

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[DramaQueen]

I would DEFINITLEY tell him that his BFF was bugging me.
I'm really open with my bf about that sort of thing, and it really helps both of us.

But you know what maybe the best thing for you to do might be (scary and difficult as it may sound) maybe go for coffee or something with his BFF (I assume you guys speak to each other?) and just let her know what's going on. Because if he talks to her, you don't really know what is and isn't being said in those conversations, or if she is manipulating him into agreeing with her or trying to convince him to choose her over you. So maaaaybe, if you could arrange it, or if you would feel comfortable, talk to her yourself, don't confront her and be rude, just ler her know how you feel and ask for some sympathy.

My bfs mom is sometimes a pain in the butt too, she's very controlling (not on the level of trying to push us arapt or anything...but its still difficult nonetheless) and I know I would personally NEVER say aaaanything to her...because she's very scary. But if it's REALLY bugging you, and you & your bf talk about it, then you should ask your bf to calmly sit down and tell his mom the situation between you & him and that you won't be going away anytime soon.


Did he actually propose to you?!?!? Or just ask you if you would maybepossiblysomeday in the future like to be proposed to??? lol.
my BF has asked me the latter before. It's very flattering.
Congrats on your (possible?) engagement though.

And best of luck with the whole situation.