Interestly enough I was thinking about this on my way to work this morning.
I don't see at as selfish. I just think people are sick of supporting people who are more than able to support themselves, or should have been able to support themselves, but made poor choices that reaped the consequences they are living. I am quite sure there are people who just plain ran into a pile of bad luck, and legitimately need a hand to get them back on their feet, but I truly think most people bring it on themselves. Now, I understand you may feel otherwise, and if you have reason to believe I'm misinformed or can show me why I'm wrong, I'm all for listening, but here's where I'm coming from:
I don't think people plan ahead, or build a cushion for themselves. They live well beyond their means and when something unexpected happens, they don't have anything to fall back on.
They make conscious choices that cost them money, time, and/or the ability to support themselves. Hey - you live with the consequences of your actions and your choices.
If you choose to have more kids then you can support, that's not my problem. We're trying to become financially comfortable enough to have our own... why should we have to support yours. (Not that I don't feel for the kids, mind you).
If you choose to live beyond your means without a plan for the rainy days, why do you think you can take from my rainy day fund?
If you don't even make an effort to support yourself, why should I have to make an extra effort so I can support you as well as myself.
My brother used to tell my niece a story about three squirrels. Samuel Squirrel worked hard every day gathering nuts for the coming winter. He had a whole tree full of nuts. Each day he would see two other squirrels. One was gathering nuts like he was, and the other was running around, playing and eating the nuts he found, but not storing any away. Then the other working squirrel broke his leg and couldn't gather nuts anymore. Samuel would always share some of his nuts with the squirrel who broke his leg, but really didn't feel the need to share with the careless squirrel.
The point is, there will always be injured squirrels, elderly squirrels, orphaned squirrels and other unfortunate squirrels that need some help. Often communities, families, friends and organizations step in here, but if they need help, I am more than willing to share my "wealth". However, all too often my hard-earned money is being taken from me to support people who just don't see the need to make the choices that will help them to take care of themselves, and I don't feel as if I'm being selfish when I don't want to share with them.
JMHO - thoughts quickly jotted down so hopefully complete and conherent.