Would Your Report This? (Work Question)

[shellybaxter]

No. Tattling is as immature as cursing at someone. Also, you may want to edit your post to change the offending word to just ****. I've gotten points in the past for posting the word the way you did. Just a heads up.

No - it is not "tattling" if it has to do with the efficient and professional running of the OP's place of employment (especially if they are a supervisor). Instead it is their responsibility to address the issue. If they don't a culture of dysfunction could develop.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Well, I am honestly-honest!- confused. On the thread about the Joys of the Workplace where the OP is complaining about people putting too much food in the freezer, you say and I loosely quote, "Contact the supervisor/manager and have them deal with it." Isn't that tattling?

See to me, the frig deal is minor. An employee on their work property cursing out others is a big deal and highly unprofessional.

Now, I wouldn't let it ruin my day, but if I was in a managerial position at that hospital, I would definitely report it.

Of course, I live in a rural area, and something like that would be highly unusual. New York City or somewhere similar? I'd expect it!

I've lived in NYC almost my entire life and no one has ever cursed at me like that, and I would never, ever speak to someone like that. The people on this thread defending the right of this woman to go off on strangers are from all over, but none appear to be from NYC. We are actually very civilized here.

Honestly if someone spoke to me like that for no good reason I'd think they were drunk or mentally ill.

 

[ariel71]

Unprofessional and irrational behavior is not minor. It is not normal behavior to speak like that to people, especially on your employer's property. Rational thinking people can control themselves, and would not speak like that to someone when a simple tap of the horn, or saying excuse me out the window would achieve the same results.

The hospital is not a police station or military base, and the behavior expectations are not the same.

The person that's the big baby here, is the nutcase cursing at a strangers out their car window.

Agree. My hospital's Code of Ethics said that all employees would treat patients, visitors, employees, etc. with integrity and respect. It was the first item listed. It was also a violation of the code to NOT report violations. If it was determined that an incident was known and not reported, we were subject to disciplinary action ourselves.

Call it big brother, little sister, big baby, tattletale, whatever you want. I'd rather work for an employer that values respect and courtesy than one that doesn't give a darn about professionalism. I said earlier that I can swear up a storm. **** and I are good friends. I just know who I can use it with and it's always in private.

Seems like there's just a big culture clash here based on where people have worked and what was acceptable.

 

[goofyintoronto]

Well, I am honestly-honest!- confused. On the thread about the Joys of the Workplace where the OP is complaining about people putting too much food in the freezer, you say and I loosely quote, "Contact the supervisor/manager and have them deal with it." Isn't that tattling?

See to me, the frig deal is minor. An employee on their work property cursing out others is a big deal and highly unprofessional.

Now, I wouldn't let it ruin my day, but if I was in a managerial position at that hospital, I would definitely report it.

Of course, I live in a rural area, and something like that would be highly unusual. New York City or somewhere similar? I'd expect it!

Sorry but the fridge thing isnt tattle tailing. Going to the manager to send out a reminder of fridge etiquette is totally different. Your not singling a person out. Bottom line is that if it gets the employee in trouble, I wouldnt go there. Ever.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

I would have rolled my eyes, thought "whatever" and continued on never giving it another thought.

I'd do pretty much the same thing. Probably also think, 'what a jerk,' but then would continue on my business. I don't cuss, hate the sound of it, but something like that isn't worth my time in this particular case.

 

[DizBelle]

I've got 5 years on you Bro!! I'd think aliens replaced their bodies if I went a day with out hearing **** at least 50 times....sometime just from one person



There's a reason for the phrase "curse like a sailor"....a common thing in military, as well as in law enforcement....guess we should show them the door too?



I'd think, "ok, that makes 51 times today!"


18 U.S.C.
United States Code, 2011 Edition
Title 18 - CRIMES AND CRIMINAL PROCEDURE
PART I - CRIMES
CHAPTER 1 - GENERAL PROVISIONS
Sec. 4 - Misprision of felony
From the U.S. Government Printing Office, www.gpo.gov

§4. Misprision of felony
Whoever, having knowledge of the actual commission of a felony cognizable by a court of the United States, conceals and does not as soon as possible make known the same to some judge or other person in civil or military authority under the United States, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than three years, or both.
(June 25, 1948, ch. 645, 62 Stat. 684; Pub. L. 103–322, title XXXIII, §330016(1)(G), Sept. 13, 1994, 108 Stat. 2147.)
Historical and Revision Notes
Based on title 18, U.S.C. 1940 ed., §251 (Mar. 4, 1909, ch. 321, §146, 35 Stat. 1114).
Changes in phraseology only.
Amendments
1994—Pub. L. 103–322 substituted “fined under this title” for “fined not more than $500”.

Interesting. I had read something that indicated dfferently but I'm willing to admit that maybe what I read wasn't quite correct.

 

[DizBelle]

I think it was answered fairly well upthread...

Yes, I'm sure there are exceptions. The OP's situation does not fall into one of those exceptions, IMO.

All I've read is that physical harm is exempt and it wouldn't be considered tattling if reported.

If this is he case then someone can stand in front of a person yelling obscenities, berating them, calling them every name in the book, reducing them to tears and you shouldn't report it because it would be tattling. There is no physical harm so you should mind your own business.

Bullies around the world rejoice. You're off the hook as long as you don't touch them.

 

[Jennasis]

All I've read is that physical harm is exempt and it wouldn't be considered tattling if reported.

If this is he case then someone can stand in front of a person yelling obscenities, berating them, calling them every name in the book, reducing them to tears and you shouldn't report it because it would be tattling. There is no physical harm so you should mind your own business.

Bullies around the world rejoice. You're off the hook as long as you don't touch them.

Life isn't black or white. If you can't see that in the situations presented then I'm afraid I can't help you with. We'll just have to agree to disagree.

 

[Scrappy_Tink]

I would have rolled my eyes, thought "whatever" and continued on never giving it another thought.

I have to every time I see your posts, the picture of your son looks like he's saying "You are hurting my ears, enough of this **** word"

 

[Scrappy_Tink]

I picked up a copy of George Orwell's 1984 the other day. It was quite thought provoking. However it's my opinion that we have less to worry about from "Big Brother" and more to worry about from "Little Sister".

I honestly hate working with women, they are so much worse than working with men. Often times, I'm the only female, and I'm happy that way!!

All I've read is that physical harm is exempt and it wouldn't be considered tattling if reported.

If this is he case then someone can stand in front of a person yelling obscenities, berating them, calling them every name in the book, reducing them to tears and you shouldn't report it because it would be tattling. There is no physical harm so you should mind your own business.

Bullies around the world rejoice. You're off the hook as long as you don't touch them.

Actually, that would be considered "Creating a Hostile Work Environment", regardless the issuance of obscenities.....not too many agencies would tolerate such behavior. Let's try to put this into context....did this person yelling at you cause you mental anguish, or just piss you off? If it just pissed you off, and it sounds like you know who it is, I'd just go to that person and say "Hey, that was really rude what you said to me yesterday", and chances are you'd probably receive an apology. There was a guy in my office once and, like I said before, working in law enforcement i hear **** constantly.....however, this particular guy constantly would yell "Jesus ****ing Christ" or "God ****ing Damn". To me, it was like fingernails on a chalkboard. I am a Christian, and hearing the Lord's name with the word **** cheeses me to no end. Anyway, instead of going to the boss, I went to him personally and said "Andrew, I know that we work in law enforcement, and I accept the language I hear around here every day, it's part of the work environment.....but when you say those words together it really, really, bothers me". He apologized, and never did it again.

 

[WDWJDS]

I'm flabbergasted that anyone thinks the driver's behavior is OK in any way, shape or form. I can swear like a sailor, but it's completely inappropriate to shout a profanity at anyone on your employer's property. "Having a bad day" or "blowing off steam" is an utterly meaningless excuse.

Totally agree. I suppose that the posters who have no problem with this behavior are the same people that probably do this all the time themselves.

Mind your own business mentality STOPS when your behavior can affect my reputation. People won't say "Miss Johnson cursed at me for almost being in her way". They will say "Your employee was absolutely rude to me for no reason at all. I will never recommend this hospital to anyone".

And this "everyone should be allowed to blow off steam " is a bunch of crap. So it's ok to tell your customer to ****off because they are annoying you on a particularly stressful day for you? Hey, why not, can't a worker blow off some steam every once in a while?

KIT - Keep It Together!

 

[tefrench]

I've lived in NYC almost my entire life and no one has ever cursed at me like that, and I would never, ever speak to someone like that. The people on this thread defending the right of this woman to go off on strangers are from all over, but none appear to be from NYC. We are actually very civilized here.

Honestly if someone spoke to me like that for no good reason I'd think they were drunk or mentally ill.

My sincere apologies - I was not picking on NYC per se, but the driving differences between city/rural. I do think when you get more people driving in a congested area, you are naturally going to have more "interesting" styles, in my experience.
That's what I was trying to say.

I deal with farm equipment, horses and buggies, and oversize tractor trailers. I don't deal with congested traffic, rush hour, and other hazards of city life. I do enjoy visiting NYC, though, and do realize there are lots of nice people there!

 

[Scrappy_Tink]

Totally agree. I suppose that the posters who have no problem with this behavior are the same people that probably do this all the time themselves.

I'm sure there are many exceptions....although I am around it all day, never ONCE have I said it (which amuses my co-workers....I said *** once and they laughed at me, because it sounded so funny coming out of my mouth. This is the first time I've even typed the word....the DISboards is causing me mental anguish, because I have to type the word ****, instead of using an alternate word

 

[Jennasis]

No - it is not "tattling" if it has to do with the efficient and professional running of the OP's place of employment (especially if they are a supervisor). Instead it is their responsibility to address the issue. If they don't a culture of dysfunction could develop.

You are certainly entitled to disagree with my opinion on the matter.

 

[Jennasis]

I'm sure there are many exceptions....although I am around it all day, never ONCE have I said it (which amuses my co-workers....I said *** once and they laughed at me, because it sounded so funny coming out of my mouth. This is the first time I've even typed the word....the DISboards is causing me mental anguish, because I have to type the word ****, instead of using an alternate word

To be fair, the question posed was "would you say something", not "do you have a problem with what they did".

I wouldn't think all that highly of the driver for their actions. I just don't feel it's report worthy.

 

[phorsenuf]

I have to every time I see your posts, the picture of your son looks like he's saying "You are hurting my ears, enough of this **** word"

Thanks. He's my grandson actually. I just love that picture. Such an expression.

 

[sam_gordon]

All I've read is that physical harm is exempt and it wouldn't be considered tattling if reported.

If this is he case then someone can stand in front of a person yelling obscenities, berating them, calling them every name in the book, reducing them to tears and you shouldn't report it because it would be tattling. There is no physical harm so you should mind your own business.

Bullies around the world rejoice. You're off the hook as long as you don't touch them.

I'm curious... do you even read posts before replying to them?

I never said the ONLY time you should "tattle" is when there is physical harm. In fact, I said, and you quoted, that there are exceptions. I just don't feel the OP's situation applies.

 

[Scrappy_Tink]

To be fair, the question posed was "would you say something", not "do you have a problem with what they did".

I wouldn't think all that highly of the driver for their actions. I just don't feel it's report worthy.

I agree, but I was responding to this person's quote:

I suppose that the posters who have no problem with this behavior are the same people that probably do this all the time themselves.

I take that to mean that she feels that just because those of us who would just shrug it off or let it roll off our back, means we are also they type of person that would behave in the manner of the person driving the car.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

My sincere apologies - I was not picking on NYC per se, but the driving differences between city/rural. I do think when you get more people driving in a congested area, you are naturally going to have more "interesting" styles, in my experience.
That's what I was trying to say.

I deal with farm equipment, horses and buggies, and oversize tractor trailers. I don't deal with congested traffic, rush hour, and other hazards of city life. I do enjoy visiting NYC, though, and do realize there are lots of nice people there!

Aw, thanks. I knew you weren't picking on NYC, I just like to defend our reputation, lol.

 

[Piper]

I never cease to be amazed at the number of people who don't use self-discipline and think it is alright for others to be undisciplined as well. People are not held accountable for what they do and say. That is alright with most people until the person does or says something to them. Sorry. I don't want to be that "entitled to do whatever I want" person. (And the world would be a much better place if there weren't so many of them around!)