Would You Wear a "Cremation Pendant?"

[LovesTimone]

I'm of the mind set - Do what you need to help you through the loss of a loved one... Period... It isn't up to me or anyone else to tell you how to grieve. So if you want to wear a part of your loved one then do it.... If you want to scatter their ashes, or bury them... as long as you are following their last wishes... Whatever brings you peace...

 

[AlohaNow]

DH used to be a funeral director. The thumb print necklaces were originally marketed as 'thumbies', which we thought was hysterically funny. I think they stopped calling them that because it sounds silly. Doesn't matter what we thought, people bought them like hot cakes! I have strict instructions that if DH goes before me he is to be cremated and turned into a reef ball and placed in the ocean. He actually looked into doing this as a side business when we lived in Hawaii!

 

[Fldisneyfamily4321]

Absolutely! My dad passed almost two years ago and I wear one plus I have his urn on my mantle ( gave my mother a matching smaller urn ) . I also got one for my daughter who was just the light of his life .

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

Absolutely not.

 

[NotUrsula]

For that reason, I'm also against the car stickers on back windows that I see CONSTANTLY of people who died. So not only are the people in the car depressed, they potentially make everyone else depressed who sees it also.

Honestly, those giant window stickers tend to make me chuckle, because they seem more like sponsorships to me: "Grandma died and left me some money and I bought a car with it, so I'm dedicating the car to Grandma!"

As to the jewelry, this isn't a new concept, only new technology. Victorians wove deceased loved-one's hair into bracelets and put ashes into sealed lockets. Most of the time, cremation jewelry is made with only a small portion of the cremains, so losing the jewelry is less of a disaster than it otherwise might be if you have kept more of the cremains in some other form.

 

[a1tinkfans]

Would not wear it.
My sister had the peace of mind to keep some of my moms ashes ( RIP) which ultimately went in the cemetery wall , in a favorite Art piece she purchased years before. ..i had a tough time as that was not moms decision, and the rest of the ashes were on the open sea, which was her request. I came to understand why she did it. She wanted something tangible , this the wall and “urn” and that gift allowed those of us that wish to “be with her” to have a place to go. Otherwise... it’s like she was never here in Earth. And she was, in a BIg Way

When I had to put our dog down, I did keep a few pieces of his beautiful fur.. it’s in a specially made locket that I don’t wear. I’m glad I did it.
A friend of mine kept her dog... yes, he sits on his pillow for eternity. Creepy to me but what she needed. At least now it’s in her bedroom and not the living room.
Whatever works for people I say.

 

[mariamertens]

I actually did this, it wasn't cheap but worth it.... What did you guys pay for this? It's a lifelong memory so not sure if you can put a price on that.

 

[mommasita]

I actually did this, it wasn't cheap but worth it.... What did you guys pay for this? It's a lifelong memory so not sure if you can put a price on that.

I can not even tell you honestly. When we went to make the arrangements, it was, and always will be a blur. I will always remember my sister in law saying that my husband will never give away my daughter, so he wants this done right. I just wanted to go home and have nothing at all.