Would you use e-mail to break up with someone?

[MsDisney23]

A friend of mine was dating this nice lady and out of the blue she decided to e-mail him and end the relationship! He was really taken back by this and did not see it coming. It really bothered him that she did it this way. So would you do this or have you had it done to you?

 

[mrsklamc]

If you are older than the 6th grade you have no business breaking up with anyone by e-mail.

 

[beattyfamily]

Well, I'm married now and there was no 'email' when I was dating.

But my guess is that more women than men would use this method as men mostly just avoid and disappear when they want to break up. Most women actually break up whether in person or on the phone and now via email.

Me, I don't like breaking up and used to have a really hard time doing it but it was always either in person or on the phone. Maybe a little avoidence at first to see if they'd get the picture.

Now I wouldn't rule out email but it would only be if we had only been on a couple of dates and not very serious. If we were dating awhile, then no, it would be in person or on the phone depending on the circumstances of the break up.

Oh, I'm so glad I'm not dating anymore. I don't miss it.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

no, but I had a friend who was FIRED by email. I think that's about as low as it gets.... she was a teacher and she got an email in the summer that said -- oh, and by the way, you will no longer be needed but we'll write you a recommendation letter.

 

[deekaypee]

Email? Good riddance to her! Breaking up via email--or a phone call, voice mail, or texting for that matter--is crass.

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

Unless their dates have consisted of Friday night IM's and no face to face contact, that was just rude and tacky. Sounds like he's better off without her.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

It was done to me. My friends, family and I all got a huge laugh over it. That still doesn't beat the guy who broke up with me by changing his phone number.

 

[lindalinda]

Well I confess I did the avoid and maybe it will go away technique to end my last relationship. My friends gave me a lot of grief over it, but I just didnt have the courage to do anything else. I was afraid he would change my mind if I did it in person, and email seemed worse to me!

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

That is a terrible thing. I thought the Post-It in Sex in the City was bad enough!!!!

 

[kdibattista]

I think it's very disrespectful

 

[highland3]

No way. Very pathetic.

 

[sugarpie]

It must be the new thing to break up through email. It just happened to a friend of mine. She asked me if she should call him. Of course I told her h*ll no!

 

[Luv'sTink]

That's just wrong.

 

[GeorgeG]

No, but we have a friend and neighbor who spends a lot of time with us. She and my wife jokingly say she's my other wife. We were at a party a few months ago and she asked me when I was going to ask her to marry me. I asked her if I had to get on my knee and she said "no, just send me an e-mail." I didn't have a comeback for that one...

 

[jeanadave]

Wrong, wrong, wrong. Personally, I think a phone call is wrong too. You need to be man or woman enough to do it person. (Unfortunately, I've gotten phone calls and, come to think of it, I think I made one ). But, having said that, e-mail would be the worse.

 

[helenabear]

I think that is horrible! I think that unless you are in a long distance relationship and can't see your SO in person, you shouldn't ever do it over the phone, text, e-mail... whatever, it needs to be done face to face. It drives me crazy also when people just ignore someone until they go away. I had one guy do that with me once (his friends told me later he always did that after 2-4 weeks) and that just irked me. As hard as it is, ending a relationship should be done face to face in private.

 

[pearlieq]

The only way I would ever say it was acceptable to break up with someone via email is if you are in fear for your safety.

Otherwise someone you're dating deserves a face-to-face breakup. If that isn't possible (long distance relationship) a phone call should be the bare minimum.

 

[jeanadave]

The only way I would ever say it was acceptable to break up with someone via email is if you are in fear for your safety.

Otherwise someone you're dating deserves a face-to-face breakup. If that isn't possible (long distance relationship) a phone call should be the bare minimum.

Yeah, what you said. ITA