Would you tell....

[tiny tears]

Would you tell your spouse/so if you had been raped.... even if you knew he would want you to report it and that's not something you were willing to do?

(I know an internet message board isn't the best place to ask such a serious question, but it's the only place I feel comfortable asking it.)

 

[momof3disneyholics]

He would be the first person I tell.

 

[kdibattista]

Absolutely... it's not something you can nor should hide.

I'm so incredibly sorry if this happened to you

 

[Libby X 3]

Yes and I'm sorry..

 

[L107ANGEL]

Absolutely!! If this has happened to you if this has happened to you, you need to contact a victims resourse center. They will be with you while you report it & for counceling for this horrific thing that happened to you.
Again, if it was you, I am very sorry

 

[netMick]

I would think you should. One in this situation will obviously have emotional issues that would surprise an spouse, so better if they are prepared for it. And they could help one to prepare to report it, which is what should be done to provide closure.

 

[mommasita]

I would first. God bless you, and please talk to him/her. You need to work this out, and get it out there with your loved one.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

He would be the first person I told.

 

[Kath2003]

Yes. You cannot have a relationship keeping such huge secrets from your partner.

And IIRC even if your partner DID report the rape, YOU'D be the one who'd have to make a statement and press charges, so I doubt your partner or the police would get very far without your consent anyway.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

Most definetly! Your spouse should be there to support you, not push you into anything!

I'm very sorry if this happened to you!

 

[Ride Junkie]

Hmm...Only one post? And right after JerseyBallerina just got called out? I smell MUD.

 

[singingpixie]

Yes. It will be hard now, but taking control of the situation (no matter whether you decide to report it or not) will help you to heal. You need the support of someone who loves you right now, keeping it inside is not helping you.

I promise, you (or whoever you're referring to) can get through this and come out of it a stronger person.

 

[Cindy's Mom]

Very "inquisitive" for the 1st post

 

[beattyfamily]

Hmm...Only one post? And right after JerseyBallerina just got called out? I smell MUD.

I was thinking the exact same thing.

 

[azgal81]

Yes of course I would. He would be the first person I told.

 

[singingpixie]

possibly, but I think it's just as likely that she could be scared and embarassed, and posting under her own name would make it too "real."

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Am I being gullable again? If this truly happened, I am so sorry and yes I would tell my DH.

 

[KadysMom]

If this is going to turn into a Jerseyballerina situation... Not again....

If this is real, then my answer would be...

Of course! I would tell him right away!

 

[tiny tears]

I am a regular member and I know who you are referring to. I don't like what she did one bit. There's no excuse for it. I changed my user name because my husband knows I post here and what name I post under.

For those that responded thank you..... thank you very much. It did happen. I'm scared to death to tell anybody, especially my husband. I know how he feels about women not reporting..........

 

[Maleficent13]

May I ask, why don't you want to report it? I'm not saying you should; that is your decision, not mine. But I am curious.