Would you send a card?

[shinysparklybubbles]

A lady that I talked to through work son died. I never met her, we just did work over the phone together and bs'd a lot (I haven't worked in 2.5 years) We are FB friends and comment on each other's pics and status updates. Would it be strange if I send a card to the funeral home? I don't have her home address but I'm assuming I'll be able to goggle the obit if she doesn't post the funeral info.

 

[low-key]

If you dont have her home address I wouldn't do it

 

[Lady Godiva]

I think it would be very nice of you and I'm sure she would appreciate it

 

[Aisling]

If you dont have her home address I wouldn't do it

Why not? I was thinking it's very thoughtful to send it to the funeral home since she doesn't have the house address. At least the lady will know she's being thought of in this difficult time. Am i off base?

 

[low-key]

Why not? I was thinking it's very thoughtful to send it to the funeral home since she doesn't have the house address. At least the lady will know she's being thought of in this difficult time. Am i off base?

I just thought it weird to send a card and not flowers to the funeral home, but maybe people do this, I didnt think they did

 

[shinysparklybubbles]

I know people take cards to funeral homes.

 

[Aisling]

I just thought it weird to send a card and not flowers to the funeral home, but maybe people do this, I didnt think they did

Hmmm I didn't think of that. God forbid I'm ever in that situation but I think I'd feel a bit more comfort from getting a card than flowers. Flowers die and that makes me sadder at funerals. A card with some kind words can be kept and read. I have all the cards from my grandmother's funeral and sometimes when I'm missing her I take them out and read them. I have a good cry and then I put them away for when I need to read them again.

 

[AlaskaMOM]

Our family recieved many forms of condolences. some given directly, some sent to our home, some brought or sent to funeral home, and even some sent to my place of employment. Many from people I didn't know, or only knew in the periphery. Almost 2 years later I still have every card, letter, and book that was given, all the flowers and plants are gone though.
If you want her to know you are thinking about her (which you apparantly are) do it!

 

[shinysparklybubbles]

I think flowers would be a bit much for me to send, since I don't still work with her nor did I know her son. I think it would seem like I'm overstepping boundaries or something.

 

[Malibustyle23]

If you are willing and able to send her a consolement card then do it even if you have to send it to the funeral home. By you sending it to them it will ensure that she receives it and I can not fathom anyone being offended by receiving a card telling them they are in your thoughts during this tragic time. One can never receive too many kind gestures during a time of sorrow even if it's from an acquaintance or long lost friend IMO.

 

[luvthatduke]

I think sending a card would be very appropriate.

 

[quasar4legs]

I think a card is a very thoughtful gesture.

 

[Michelle67]

I don't think it would be weird, and I think it would be very thoughtful of you.

 

[NMAmy]

I think it's a very nice idea.

I know some people would rather do nothing than do something that might be wrong in the case of the death of someone related to an acquaintance but, IMO, it's always better to acknowledge someone's loss than to just ignore it because one doesn't know the "right" thing to do.

 

[Poohforyou]

I don't think it's ever wrong to show someone some kindness and sympathy in a time of grief. Honestly, you could scribble "I'm sorry for your loss" on a piece of scrap paper and she'd be touched you took the time to reach out to her.

 

[nmmom95]

I know people take cards to funeral homes.

I thought those were Mass cards.

 

[njmom47]

If you could find the obituary in an online newspaper, they usually have a memorial guest book. I think it would be thoughtful and appreciated if you reach out to her in some way.

 

[Acklander]

With the choice between sending a card to the funeral home or not sending a card, I'd choose to send the card. My grandma always use to say that when trying to decide between two different actions, always choose the kinder of the actions. This has worked well for me.

 

[clh2]

I agree to send the card to the funeral home.

 

[Art 1]

Yes.