Would you say something or keep quiet?

[kathie859]

Why would you think that this is any of your concern?

 

[MushyMushy]

Are you freaking kidding me? Why in Gods name would you think it was any of your business......ever??

I'm stunned!

I mean, I might *consider* telling a 12 year old's mother that I saw the kid smoking. But a grown man? Wow. I think I've heard it all.

 

[pilesoflaundry]

What? are you in 8th grade?

She has good company if she is. Lately half the threads around here I want to just scream why do you care or MYOB.

It's not your business.

 

[Caropooh]

Are you really serious on this? Why in the world would you even think it's your business to say something?

 

[shortbun]

NOT your business. What if she knows and resents you getting in her business? You seriously need to keep your mouth shut. Danger, danger Will robinson.

 

[momrek06]

MYOB.



Man o man, some of the threads on here lately.

 

[JessicaR]

If it were me and someone tattled on me I would be royally ticked. So maybe he smokes and maybe he has one once in a while either way totally not your business.

And maybe it wasn't a cigarette!

 

[N&B'smom]

You should definitely stay out of it BUT I can at least see why it seemed like such a big deal to you. (the wife asking you if you smoked and being very anti-smoking)

I do agree though, there is NO way she can't know. The smell is too obvious!

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

OP here - last post from me on the topic. I was shocked because she is a very outspoken Non-Smoker, just walking into someone's house that smokes makes her sick and it was one of the questions she asked me when I was hired "do you smoke", so to see her husband smoking was kind of surprising to say the least.

Actually this question is not allowed. She could have gotten into serious trouble with this. In one of my previous jobs I know one of our managers asked this and HR all but fired him!

 

[Allison]

I can't get over the fact that you went to the step of noting his license plate number.

 

[bdcp]

Um, why did you edit and delete your post? You should have just asked to have it removed since now no one know what you said originally. It appears you rethought what you posted, but why not just have it removed?

 

[phorsenuf]

Um, why did you edit and delete your post? You should have just asked to have it removed since now no one know what you said originally. It appears you rethought what you posted, but why not just have it removed?

The original post was quoted in post #6. I believe subsequent posts of hers were also quoted. Gotta love the rule.

 

[Hannathy]

The original post was quoted in post #6. I believe subsequent posts of hers were also quoted. Gotta love the rule.

Yes, good job!

 

[Anna_Marie]

LOVE the rule !!

 

[Traveliz]

Um, why did you edit and delete your post? You should have just asked to have it removed since now no one know what you said originally. It appears you rethought what you posted, but why not just have it removed?

Plus they rarely remove threads (just because the OP wants it done)...its better just to let it die a natural death.

Liz

 

[bdcp]

I'm always amazed what people will post looking for support for their opinion. If you cant talk to you real life friends about it, just assume it's not something that should be posted online either.

 

[Mermaid02]

I started reading this thinking that you were going to say that he climbed into a car with another woman! In either case, I would say to MYOB.

I agree- Either way I would mind my own business.

 

[Abbie]

Red letter day on the DIS, four pages of responses and 100% agreement!

Ok, now let's play....let me be clear that I was shocked by the original question. BUT some of the responses did get me thinking...several posters have alluded to the fact that the boss' husband was engaged in a legal activity so of course no need to bring it up to anyone.

However, what if the OP witnessed, say, the husband engaged in a make-out session with another woman? (in Walmart parking lot, yee ha!) That's also a legal activity. Would anyone feel inclined to bring that to the wife's attention (pretend it's a friend and not her boss)? It can also carry potential health risks (std's?), shouldn't the friend be aware?

I'm inclined to stick with the MYOB, but I know others will feel differently and think the wife has a right to know if her husband is fooling around! Does that alter anyone's original stance?

 

[KimR]

I'm inclined to stick with the MYOB, but I know others will feel differently and think the wife has a right to know if her husband is fooling around! Does that alter anyone's original stance?

Nope, I'd still MMOB. About the only time I'd tell is if he were to do something that was endangering their children. For instance, driving obviously drunk with the kids in the car, letting them ride without carseats, etc. But making out with another woman...that falls into the caetgory of none of my business.

 

[Hannathy]

Still MYOB. You know, saw what? I didn't see anything.