would you...RE: marriage

[hidmickey:myantidrug]

So this is inspired by my past weekend. My mom's 20 year old cousin got married to a girl who we all hate. There wasn't a dry eye on his side because we were all so upset. So, without going into too much detail, would you ever marry (or permanently bind yourself with) a person whom your family doesn't like or hates? If so, where does "Family" end for this case: parents? siblings? cousins? aunts/uncles? distant relatives?

Don't confine yourself to these questions. Discuss.

 

[MuNkY]

Yes. If I love her that's all that counts. If my family doesn't like them, well too bad.

 

[Starstruckdancer]

maybe if my parents had good reasons to hate this guy. But I don't really care what my siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins think even if they did hate him I wouldn't care. As long as I love him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, thats all that matters.

 

[disney100666]

I have no idea if I would or not.

 

[2HOT2touch]

it depends. I love my family and they mean everything for me, if they didn't like him, they would have a good reason so they would have to explain themselves. but I couldn't picture my life with out my family, so yea I guess one of my 'requirements' for a husband would he liked my family and could get along well with them and in return my family liked him. the other requirement was he has to atleast like Disney, but if he was as much in love with Disney as I am would be PERFECT!!

 

[Babyjustrun]

I probably wouldn't care if they liked him or not.
But if it was to the point that they wouldn't come to the wedding, or wouldn't let me visit with him...
I'd cut ties.
But I think my parents would just grin and get over it. They'd probably never tell me that they hate him.

 

[CheezDoodle]

Well you know, my parents don't really have a say in who I marry. And it's not like they'd ever stop talking to me because of it.

 

[DramaQueen]

luckily, my family LOVES my boyfriend.
But I'm not so sure if his family likes me too much.
So I have the other side of your question I think...
I would still marry him, I love him, and to me, that's all that matters.
I could care less if his family likes me, because in the future, we'll have our own family and be happy.
Maybe it's selfish, but I would just marry him anyway, because WE love each other and we are going to grow up, and live together, and not constatnly be near his family, so it doesn't matter to me.
Sure I'm sure christmases and stuff would be awkward, but whateverrr.

Why would you give up the love of your life, the one person you wnat to devote your life to, just because their family doesn't like you.
Personally, I think it would be selfish and rude of the family to ask someone to call off a marriage because they didn't like the spouse to be.
They should be happy for the person getting married and glad that they've found someone to spend the rest of their life with IMHO.

 

[DisGirlAllie]

If my parents had a good reason to hate the guy then I'd reconsider. But if they just plain old didn't like him then I'd say "screw you"

 

[Sparx]

If my family hated my significant other, I would be incredibly offended unless they had some pretty good cause to do so. The love me, they're supposed to want me to be happy, and if my person makes me happy, it doesn't matter that they like him/her or not.

 

[CheerExtreme]

If my parents had a problem, like a real issue about him, I would reconsider. I don't want to be dis-owned or anything though.

 

[::Snow_White::]

It depends on the problem. But if there is no reason or it's not really that big of a deal then I could care less. If I love him and I'm happy and we're happy together that's all that should matter.
My parents should support me wether they like him or not.

 

[chevyxxroks]

i think my parents would trust my judgement in the right guy for me and just learn to love him
(i hope)​

 

[BabyPiglet]

This is a hard topic for me. I value my family's opinion so much, but they're all very stubborn. So if they got caught up on one thing, it might ruin it.

On the other hand, if I was truly, deeply, madly in love, I probably wouldn't care.

I guess it's...

Family vs. SO.

 

[EeyoreFan1]

Quite honestly,

I don't care very much what my family has to say. Its my life, and if I love someone, and want to be with them.. I will be.

 

[Tinkerbell424]

If my family had good reason to hate them I would reconsider.

Like if they thought he was *idk how to explain it* but like if they didn't trust him with who he was,kinda like he wasnt showing his true colours I would listen.


If they just hated him because he wasnt jewish or whatever then I would still marry him.

But I would first listen to what my family has to say,because their opinions and blessings mean so much to me.

 

[hidmickey:myantidrug]

It looks like I'm in the general minority here in that I wouldn't for a full minute even consider marrying someone who my family didn't like. Hands down. No contest.

 

[Axel]

My mom's about ready to adopt my boyfriend. She thinks he's absolutely wonderful. She even wants to bring him to WDW with us in Feb.

But if my parents did dislike who I was dating (or engaged to) I'd tell them to buzz off. Literally. I've put up with so much crap over the years about what's "proper" according to them, that I just don't care if they approve of who I'm dating.

Besides, Ryan doesn't care and he'd put me up for however long I needed.

 

[HSMndLKfan92]

I value my parent's opinion, and, in turn, they value my judgement.
I'd reconsider marrying a man if my parents could prove their opinions (or speculations) about him to me.

 

[pigletgirl]

I would want to find out why my family wouldn't like my boyfriend. My mom often reads too much into things, while my dad would say something like its your life, and its your decision so do what you want. So, thats where my family would be.

Now if I didn't like someone who one of my siblings are marrying for good reason (abusive, ect) then I would tell them upfront. If its small stuff then I'll do my best into keeping my mouth shut.