Would you post pics of your minor child injured at the ER ?

[pandora174]

Just a discussion DH & I were having last night & thought it would be interesting to hear other's opinions. Last month a co-worker posted on her FB that her daughter fell & needed stitches, then while at the ER is posting pix of the 4 year old getting stitches, trust me a pretty gory scene.

Last a night a closer friend of mine posted something along the lines of "rushing XX to the ER, prayers please". I got that one since we all can use prayers at a time like that but 1 hour later there are pix & a VERY graphic description of the little girl's injuries (she is 6) TMI, did not need to know one of the poor child's injuries involved a private area tear . Also a close up of the child with a huge bloody abrasion on the entire left side of her face & neck, in obvious pain, crying on the hospital table. She fell on a moving threadmill face first & got tangled. Thank the Lord she is ok while in still in a lot of pain but home from the hospital.

While I understand the request for prayers I felt the pictures too personal. I enjoy sharing birthday, events pictures but now ER pictures too ?? Is it just me ? DH thought they should be more worried & praying about their child than posting pictures while at the actual ER.

I personally would not feel comfortable posting pix of DS in such pain. I remember poor thing when he stuck gum in his hair & it was very painful to get out. My niece was there with me & wanted to take a picture for FB. I said "no way are you taking a picture of my son when he's crying & upset".

Have we gone Facebook crazy. I could understnad a post asking for prayers or updating your status so friends don't worry, but pictures with intimate descriptions ? I have an account but DH refuses to have one (but he sneaks a peak at mine). I admit I am hooked on farmville & I do love posting pictures of my desserts, DS soccer or other events but I've never seen stuff like this when it comes to parents & their kids. Anyway, what do my fellow Diser's think ?

 

[phorsenuf]

I have a picture of my bleeding son in my Facebook photos. He took a dump while riding a longboard at a family get together. Its an inside family joke because he is always getting hurt at family get togethers. His cousin took the pictures. He was like 17 at the time.
I suppose if anyone ever went into my photos they would be quite confused by it. LOL

 

[Ceila]

What I don't understand is taking time away from comforting the child to take those pics in the first place. (This is in response to the first poster, not phorsenuf - that's different.)

 

[luvmy3]

I don't see the need to share all of this stuff on facebook Does everyone need to see every single moment of our lives, including those when we are most vulnerable? Is nothing sacred anymore?

Oh and to answer your question, no I would never ever do that. I don't have a problem posting pics so that people can see your kids and how they have grown, but that is where I draw the line. Nobody but me (and dh) needs to see what my child went through at the ER. And I'm with the poster who thinks its odd to document the stitches process with photos.
Maybe I'm just gettting too old

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Wow.

I have known people to post the results of an injury--i.e. all is cleaned up, kids is stitched up and all done...

but never photographing the process.

I only have gone to the ER once for a serious injury on a child and that was my 18 month old for 2nd degree burns on her toes. We spent the time helping her and helping the staff helped her. She was in so much pain, I couldn't imagine pausing to photograph any of it. I was begging for pain relief for her and they gave her codeine.

I think at one time I photographed her feet--but that was after were were home and well on our way to healing.

If an injury is serious enough for the ER, I just cannot imagine having the time to photograph it. But as I said, I only had the one "major" minor injury and my girl was wayyyy too traumatized for me to consider photographing it while she was being treated.

But she did bounce back and as soon as they got the burning to stop and she woke up from her codeine, seh bounced back just like they said she would. She couldn't wear shoes for a two weeks due to the bandages--I had to buy her adult socks. She was a little skiddish during dressing changes and teh only time she was in pain again was when the blisters started rupturing andwe had to continue with dressing changes and cleanings.

FWIW--I did show people dd's toes when they asked after were were done with bandages....her limited scarring was quite amazing and to this day--it is not visible as to where she was burned.

The blisters though were quite gnarly and since we had them covered, we could not share.

And FTR--I would share pics on facebook if it were to happen again, b/c her accident involved scalding hot water at a relatives house. Her injury is a cautionary tale that tap water can indeed cause injury. My mother ignored our complaints and we were very careful, but a split second and an accidental shut off of the cold water was all that it took. 10 seconds of exposure and my daughters feet were quite injured.

I would have photographed it after she was okay and we were home--not while she was being treated. A child crying from a burn injury needs her parents, not paparrazzi.

 

[NikkiLovesWDW!]

I might be the only 28 year old woman NOT on Facebook. Mostly because I see how other people (everyone I know) has gotten so obsessed with it and feels the need to post everything that is happening, as it happens. I can just picture the OPs friends with the "crackberry" in their hands, wanting to capture the moment JUST so it can be posted on FB, while their poor kid is in pain!

Like a PP said, why were they doing THAT instead of comforting their child?

 

[pandora174]

What I don't understand is taking time away from comforting the child to take those pics in the first place. (This is in response to the first poster, not phorsenuf - that's different.)

You understand my point ! I can see how after the child is feeling better & takes a picture with the bandage, cast etc but WHILE at the ER table where you can see her little chest & all the injuries on her sweet face & the Dr's bloody gloved hand in the corner & the child crying & then a detailed medical description involving intimate details. Both FB friends kids had different accidents but similar ER pix. & phorsenuf- I agree it's different, I guess what bothered me most was the posting & taking pix while at the ER itself.

 

[Tiger926]

Absolutely not! Not only would I not take photos of the ER situation, I wouldn't post photos of my kids, period. I've had my kids in ER many times due to respiratory issues, and I can't imagine taking time out for taking photos - I'm a scrapbooker, so I take thousands upon thousands of photos, but the difference is, I know what is approriate to take photos of. This is not it...IMHO.

DH and I are computer geeks, and refuse to Tweet, Facebook or You Tube. The whole phenomenon gets on my nerves - it's not necessary for me to know what you just ate for dinner, the size of your son's stitches, or what time you and your hubby had marital relations. Seriously, the whole thing is very off...The whole social networking thing speaks to how narcisstic our society has become...

Tiger

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

You understand my point ! I can see how after the child is feeling better & takes a picture with the bandage, cast etc but WHILE at the ER table where you can see her little chest & all the injuries on her sweet face & the Dr's bloody gloved hand in the corner & the child crying & then a detailed medical description involving intimate details. Both FB friends kids had different accidents but similar ER pix. & phorsenuf- I agree it's different, I guess what bothered me most was the posting & taking pix while at the ER itself.

I'm sure there is some warped logic that they could not do anything.

But a *child*--not just a minor in the ER..but a *child* witnessing her parents be distant while she is being treated will have a lasting impression.

I remember when I was treated for stitches at age 8/9. I got injured in Atlantic City at the beach wtih my mom, my dad and my step-mom there.

Mom traveled with me to the hospital in the ambulance. We were parked very far away and the lifeguards insisted on that ride.

Anyway--my mom, was being very mom-like. My dad was being very weird. He was responsible for carrying me and I could really sense the discomfort he had with that act. It was done in a very unloving way. I'm sure he did not mean anything by his act--but it had a lasting impression on me that I could not count on him. I just cannot describe it--but it really affected me.

 

[phorsenuf]

The pictures his cousin took were in the kitchen while we evaluating the injuries (we ended up at the ER). He didn't want to go but he ended up needing stitches.
Want me to post the picture.

 

[luvmy3]

Absolutely not! Not only would I not take photos of the ER situation, I wouldn't post photos of my kids, period. I've had my kids in ER many times due to respiratory issues, and I can't imagine taking time out for taking photos - I'm a scrapbooker, so I take thousands upon thousands of photos, but the difference is, I know what is approriate to take photos of. This is not it...IMHO.

DH and I are computer geeks, and refuse to Tweet, Facebook or You Tube. The whole phenomenon gets on my nerves - it's not necessary for me to know what you just ate for dinner, the size of your son's stitches, or what time you and your hubby had marital relations. Seriously, the whole thing is very off...The whole social networking thing speaks to how narcisstic our society has become...

Tiger

I so agree. I joined FB to get in touch with old friends that I haven't seen in years. It was nice at first but then I realized I just don't care about all those little things they post about so I stopped going on. The whole world does not care that you are thinking of wearing your pink blouse instead of your lavender one today

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Absolutely not! Not only would I not take photos of the ER situation, I wouldn't post photos of my kids, period. I've had my kids in ER many times due to respiratory issues, and I can't imagine taking time out for taking photos - I'm a scrapbooker, so I take thousands upon thousands of photos, but the difference is, I know what is approriate to take photos of. This is not it...IMHO.

DH and I are computer geeks, and refuse to Tweet, Facebook or You Tube. The whole phenomenon gets on my nerves - it's not necessary for me to know what you just ate for dinner, the size of your son's stitches, or what time you and your hubby had marital relations. Seriously, the whole thing is very off...The whole social networking thing speaks to how narcisstic our society has become...

Tiger

Yeah--but then we are all here on the DIS sharing our lives be it in intimate detail or as simple as the trips we've taken and when to Disney.

I am not sure we can judge other formats when we are here doing the same thing in varying degrees.

Our culture has always been narcissistic. Electronic media, just makes it easie and more obvious.

 

[Tiger926]

Yeah--but then we are all here on the DIS sharing our lives be it in intimate detail or as simple as the trips we've taken and when to Disney.

I am not sure we can judge other formats when we are here doing the same thing in varying degrees.

Our culture has always been narcissistic. Electronic media, just makes it easie and more obvious.

Nope, totally different. No one here knows me - I post under a tag that no one can figure out. I don't have photos of my kids, ages, my name, etc., and I don't post details about my life. I come in on certain conversations and remain at a distance. I rarely ask for prayers The most personal thing I've done is ask for prayers as I just lost a beloved family member yesterday, so today, I have a massive headache and am on the computer as a distraction. A discussion board, for me, is vastly different than Tweeting or FB. No one here knows me, nor my family. I am very distanced as I just join in on certain interesting discussions, nothing more.

I'm sure though that there are lots of people on here who 'do' this site, just as they do Twitter and FB - they document all, give out way too much personal info, and actually make friends on this site. I do none of these - I'm not here to make friends, but just to engage in discussions, most of which are about my favourite place: Disney!

Tiger

 

[ChrizJen]

I agree that when a child is in pain and needs comforting is no time to take pictures and post them to a social networking site. Seriously. First, I don't really want to see that stuff. Secondly, hold your baby! She's hurt and needs your love!!

Save the pics for later when she's feeling better and is wearing a cast or a bandage.

 

[LisaR]

WARNING: Huge vent about to happen.

My DH had a hernia operation on Monday. It was done at a same day surgery place. The picture taking both before and after the surgeries seriously disturbed me.

The girl next to him was 16 and needed to have a block put in before the surgery. She was so scared but her mom and brother were too busy to notice because they were snapping pictures left and right. They went on and on about putting the pictures on Facebook. There was a dad that brought their two little kids (maybe 2 and 4). While mom is lying there, dad is having the kids climb all over her while snapping pictures.

I assumed this was some sort of strange pre-surgery ritual. Silly me. While DH is in recovery, at least three other people are taking pictures of their loved ones while they are nauseous, drugged and drooling. It isn't just the picture taking; it is the laughing, being loud and obnoxious part that was just so wrong. It was as if they were the only people there. It is surgery - not a vacation and there are others around you that don't feel well.

I find it disturbing that so many feel they have to document everything so the whole world can see. Plus, what ever happened to having a little respect and thought for your fellow man? There were people in there with some serious medical conditions that probably didn't appreciate people acting like they were on Romper Room.

Thanks for letting me vent. That has been bugging me since Monday!

 

[Becky2005]

I wouldn't post pictures like that -- never would even think to take them in ER.

I have no problem with FB, it's all in how you use it. I know DD's school clubs use it a LOT for things. Toward the end of the year, they have student run one act plays -- the student director had a group for those involved, she would put practice time changes on it, location changes, cancellations, etc... basically if you weren't on the group, you had no idea what was going on.

I'm a fan of a lot of local businesses too and there are a few events/things I only found out about via their Facebook pages.

 

[savannahcat]

We had to take DD3 to the ER while at WDW this past July. It never occurred to me to take photos of her - I was too worried about her to think about that. Later, after she had been admitted to the hospital, I posted on FB to let everyone know how she was doing - still never crossed my mind to post pictures. So, yeah, I do think it is a little strange.

 

[krcit]

I'm sure there is some warped logic that they could not do anything.

But a *child*--not just a minor in the ER..but a *child* witnessing her parents be distant while she is being treated will have a lasting impression.

I remember when I was treated for stitches at age 8/9. I got injured in Atlantic City at the beach wtih my mom, my dad and my step-mom there.

Mom traveled with me to the hospital in the ambulance. We were parked very far away and the lifeguards insisted on that ride.

Anyway--my mom, was being very mom-like. My dad was being very weird. He was responsible for carrying me and I could really sense the discomfort he had with that act. It was done in a very unloving way. I'm sure he did not mean anything by his act--but it had a lasting impression on me that I could not count on him. I just cannot describe it--but it really affected me.

I'm sorry that incident has stayed with you. I know that people react differently to stress, especially when their own child is involved. My DH is a cop and used to stressful situations but the 2 times that my kids got injured he acted like a psycho, lol. I hope that was the case with your dad-he was worried about his baby


As for posting ER pics on FB. People are nuts!. I have been lucky in that I've only had to take my kids to the ER twice. Taking pics of my poor dd while she was in agony from a broken collarbone would nor happen. And taking pics in the recovery room after surgery. Maybe it's time that hospitals make some rules about picture taking

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I'm sorry that incident has stayed with you. I know that people react differently to stress, especially when their own child is involved. My DH is a cop and used to stressful situations but the 2 times that my kids got injured he acted like a psycho, lol. I hope that was the case with your dad-he was worried about his baby

Nahhh--he was carrying me like a box. I wanted to be treated like a baby--and he would have none of that. That is about the time I "turned off" in admiring him as a father figure.

And yes--I have no doubt that had he had a camera phone or a digital camera..I would have been documented.

 

[freepixie]

And I though my one friend was bad posting pics of her son when he came down with the swine flu - she seems to be an amateur compared to some of your friends

Well I'm one of those people who has facebook but I don't even post my face on it, right now is a pic of my winter boots, if I had kids I would not be posting pics of them on there either. I'm too freaked out!!