Would you let your child dye their hair?

[Caradana]

I got color at 14 or 15 ... loved it! My natural hair color is sort of dark dirty blonde. I'm born to be glory golden blonde, as my southern boss once said.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

First off--no..though on a thread of similar topic a while back--some pointed out valid reasons due to esteem issues (like premature graying--or some weird natural discoloring that made the child prone to teasing). I would be for correcting an issue.


Second---why in the world would a 4 year old know about dark roots, let alone even care about dark roots. That just doesn't seem to be something that validly needs to be corrected.

Coloring is akin to makeup IMHO and is not appropriate for the tween and under set.



Remember frosting--my mother took me to have that done when I was a freshman in high school. I didn't ask for it--and man did it look awful. Maybe I mouthed off and that was punsihment or something.

 

[crz4mm2]

Right after I let him get his ear pierced

 

[Daxx]

Highlights, as long as they look natural (not blue, green, etc.) for teens is fine w/me ... but not all-over color. That doesn't mean that I'll let DS do it.

Hair coloring is unacceptable at my school, as are extreme highlights (read obvious) and kids are sent home for it. I have to laugh every "first day of school" b/c they all highlight their hair the night before and blame it on the summer sun. This is the ONLY time they can get away w/it!!!! If it's real extreme, our principal will send them home (ie: boys w/black hair and bleach blonde tips).

 

[ZachnElli]

Child no, teen yes. I have an 8 year old niece whose hair is permenatly died pink, it was a Christmas gift! I guess they did it last year too.

 

[lulugirl]

Absolutely not, in fact the thought of coloring my 6yr. olds hair strikes me as absurd.

 

[momsgonwild]

Today one of my Pre-K students came to class with a fade and the top of his hair colored vivid orange/red. One thing is for certain, he is very easy to pick out on the playground. All the other five year olds thought his hair was really cool.

As for myself, my boys never asked so this was never an issue. I think it is more appropriate at an older age. Just my opinion.

 

[Stacey2grls]

I have 2 DD's, so I have thought of this topic already. I will let them have their hair highlighted, but not until they are 13. Hopefully I stick to this guideline.

 

[AMcaptured]

When my daughter was 3, I sprayed "sun in" on her hair in the summer. It turned her hair the MOST beautiful color of blonde, absolutely stunning. It looked great for the summer and it was one of those sun activated sprays. Well, come November, I had to have a rinse put on her hair because she had 2 inch roots. It was horrible. Luckily it didn't do any damage to her hair and I do have beautiful pictures of her at Stormalong Bay that summer but wow, it was a hassle. Especially when people started asking if I had colored my childs hair...

So, in a way I have been there, it started out innocent enough and grew into a bigger problem. I wouldn't really fault anyone for doing it because sometimes what happens to a young childs hair is our fault anyways and not the childs.

My daughter is now 16 and just went back to being a brunette. She had been getting her hair highlighted for about 3 years and it was more blonde than highlighted after 3 years of touch ups. She decided, on her own, that she was to young to be dealing with touch ups every 6 weeks or so. Actually, once I got over the initial shock of her being brunette again, I really like it. It is also great that it has been 8 weeks now and she hasn't been back to her colorist. I don't think the colorist is happy about it but in the long run, I think it was a good decision for my daughter. It also saves me $75 plus tip.

AM

 

[va32h]

some pointed out valid reasons due to esteem issues (like premature graying--or some weird natural discoloring that made the child prone to teasing)

That was me. My daughter's blondish hair had turned greenish after a summer of swimming and spending time in the sun.

My family is also prone to graying prematurely (mine started turning gray in high school, and I've colored it for going on 20 years now).

Everyone has their 'hot-buttons'. I don't like the look of pierced ears (or really any jewelry) on children, but haircolor isn't a big deal to me. Different strokes.

 

[Karel]

My boys both went through a bleach blond phase when they were like 10 and 11. Both of them were blond as babies and could pull it off.

They had to wait till the end of the school year though. One good cut in September and it's back to its normal color.

I love the color of my daughter's hair and the sun does all sorts of cool things to it - it really lightens over the summer. I will cry if she ever plays with the color. She cannot pull off the blond look though.

 

[btass]

My DS7 over the years has had his hair blue for halloween and green for St. Patricks Day and he loves gel to make it spikey for special occasions. He has also had lemon juice/water spritz in his hair in the summer to make his dirty blonde lighter blonde. I don't think I ever gave it a second thought until this thread. It was always a fun thing to do.

I am not a very conservative person but in response to a 4 year old getting her hair dyed so the darker roots don't show? I would say no, and try to instill in her that everyone is different and special in their own way right down to the roots!!

 

[Alice's Mom]

I actually started a thread about this a couple months back. My daughter is in kindergarten and one of her friends came to school with beautifully highlighted blonde hair. So then of course my daughter and all her friends wanted it done too. Thank goodness that passed.

If my daughter asks as a teen, then that would be fine by me. I wouldn't want to cover the costs completely though, we'll have to figure that part out when the time comes.

 

[Hannathy]

Children no, teens ok if they suggest it. But not jet black on a blonde or weird colors that are permanent( spray in for a big game or something ok) even if it doesn't last forever I'm sorry, I can tolerate a lot of goofy things kids do but that is not one of them.

I have a question how did your 7 yr old DS know to spray lemon on his hair and that he would want sun streaked hair ? I have a 7 yr old DS and he doesn't even know he wants clean hair let alone highlighted hair. I find that hard to believe.

 

[disney50fam]

I have bleached the tips of my boys hair but never dyed there whole head!
My daughter wanted her hair pink. so I got kool aid and dyed it pink for 2 days and it washed right out. She hated it after she had it lol

 

[WDW Poly Princess]

I've heard that dye can be really bad for your hair if you're under 13, but I can't remember why.

I might allow the ones that wash out in 12 shampoos for younger teens, but not a 4 year old.

 

[Longsx3]

DD (9) has asked several times because there are other girls in her 4th grade class that get stripes in their hair near their face. I have said and will continue to say no, what I have tolde her is to come back and talk to me when she is 16 and then it will only be a natural color, nor green, purple or orange. She doesn't argue. What I haven't told her is that I may soften and allow highlights at 13, but she will have to be the one that asks because I will never encourage it...the longer she waits the healthy her hair will be.

We do have a hair appointment while we will be in Baltimore this week and I am thinking of having the Redken Shades Clear put on her hair becuase we will be swimming a lot in Okinawa.

 

[kaylajr]

I have NOT read all the posts I am just answering the OP's question

I have two DD's 12 and 10 the 12 year old had no interest till this year
and all she wanted was the tips of her hair done BLonde so Yup I did
it

DD 10 loves hair and make up and all that stuff

we did color rinses that come out in 8-10 washes since she was about 8
and this year we did a few perment blonde streaks

I choose to pick my battles and this is one i see no reason to fight over

and personally i think there hair looks really cute

 

[coolshannie]

well im a teen and sure i have been interested in highlights at times but whenever it comes down to it i just cant bare to hightlight my beautiful hair.. my hair is an inbetween color between brown and blonde but its getting darker so i guess brown. Anyways, to me i see plenty of people with highlights yet it doesn't really seem like a big deal to me because if i dont like my highlights i dont want to have to color my hair and wait for it to all grow out to get my natural color back. Although 1 thing my mom had done for me that i did like was this redkin inhancer thing they put it in my hair and it made my hair just the tiniest bit darker and washed out in like 2 months i think.. but it was very pretty im thinking about maybe doing that again but truthfully i think im just happy with a pretty haircut

 

[KarenAylwood]

It's funny- my mom didn't put her foot down much when I was younger, but BOY if I was going to dye my hair, that would be the end of it!!

I didn't have curfews, punishments, grounding, solid rules, etc (of course, respect and taking responsibility was stressed- I didn't live in a zoo!!), but my mom was adamant about this dyeing the hair thing (and if I came home with any other body alteration without her knowing it probably would have killed her).

I am 23 now and past that stage of wanting it. I am so thankful she never let me do it!!! It ranks right up there with stressing the importance of going to college and never acruing debt on CC's

However, if I had an ugly hair color, I'd probably be pretty bitter

I know too many people with bad roots and that are locked into dyeing their hair. DBF's sister and mom do it- when it's a recent dye they look good- if it's been a while it looks so bad! And their hair color underneath isn't even that bad!!!

For my future children- I'm going to say no to the dyeing... unless of course they are cursed with an ugly hair color