Would you let your 14-year-old child...

[Lil_Tink]

It depends who was going...My parents know my friends and none of them are into anything more than kissing. I hug my guy friends but it mean nothing.. Our school even has hug day.. So If it was just my close freinds.. Nothing would go on..Believe me.. We are good and know not to being having sex.. but there are people at my school who are stupid enough to have it a 14...but me and my friends havent even had a first kiss yet so thats MANY MANY steps ahead of us..So i dont know..Depends on the friends I guess

 

[bigbabyblues]

Sure they can go......as long as I go with them, and they stay by my side the entire time. We could hold hands, or something....


NO, I would not, they don' teven need to ask.

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

Thinking back to the boys I knew at 14 and the way they acted...definately NOT

 

[wdwgirl03]

I am not a parent, but I would say no.

 

[Sleepy]

I am absolutely against these kind of parties. My neighbor decided to give her daughter a co-ed sleepover birthday party. It was a camping thing. Boys in one tent and girls in the other Mom truly believed that everything would be fine. Oh, these were 13 year olds. She said since she and a male friend (mom was single) were going to be in another tent, they could keep an eye on the kids......SURE! Well, the kids waited till the adults were asleep and decided to have a "demonstration" party on how to do certain acts. Yep, 13 year olds. When the mom found out the next morning, she was so embarrassed, because she was left with having to explain to the parents of these kids what they had done.

 

[jimmalru80]

No, no, no. Not under ANY circumstances. No.

 

[Zippa D Doodah]

Sounds like that is just inviting trouble. No way will my kids be going to mixed slumber parties at the age of 14

 

[Tiggeroo]

Well, the kids waited till the adults were asleep and decided to have a "demonstration" party on how to do certain acts. Yep, 13 year olds.

If these kids want to do something like that at 13 they're going to do it anyway. How many parents work and have unsupervised homes in the day time. If kids will do this in front of their friends they're going to do it at a park or under the football bleachers, etc. I"m not saying parents should let their kids go to these parties. I wouldn't let my kids go to a planned co-ed party, although I do let them have girls sleep over our house in another room. I am saying that these parties are definitely not the reason kids do things like this. It's just one more place for them to do it and probably, if they're supervise, the most risky of all the choices they have. Raise your kids with your values, supervise them as much as you feel is appropriate and hope it means something to them.

 

[Sleepy]

I wouldn't let my kids go to a planned co-ed party, although I do let them have girls sleep over our house in another room.

What's the difference?

 

[sweet angel]

The difference is one being "planned" and the other just happening with her OLDER kids and their friends after a long day at the beach and in the water. Plus, you're always more comfortable with the situation if it's under your own roof.

I understand her view completely.

 

[Tiggeroo]

The difference is one being "planned" and the other just happening with her OLDER kids and their friends after a long day at the beach and in the water. Plus, you're always more comfortable with the situation if it's under your own roof.

Yep exactly. I would never say let's have a sleepover and lets invite guys and girls. But friends who are girls who are at our house all the time, who I know well and know there parents are sometimes allowed to sleep at our house. There parents know they are here. They like coming to my home and know if there was a problem they wouldn't be invited back.
My sons had a party last week. A bbq with a large number of friends. Some I know some have maybe been to my house once for a few minutes. I could never let them have a co-ed sleepover party because that is the type of group that would get invited.
I'm surprised at what some of you define as a co-ed sleepover. Apparently you never let your child sleep at a home with somebody of the opposite sex. Don't your kids ever sleep at a home where there best friend has an older brother? How do you think their friends parents feel about their kids sleeping at your house when your son has a sister 2 years older or younger?
You do know that when your kids go off to college they'll be in co-ed dorms with no parents to stop them from doing anything they want. I hope they've aquired the strength to do the right things.